AIBU to feel furious after my father ruined my new home?

This is such a weird response to someone calling out bigotry

I can't imagine how you react to people calling out racism.

I'm very sorry. Was your father drunk? Does he have form for this type of behaviour.
But you don't need to throw everything away. Just clean them.

OP is out of a long abusive relationships. It’s totally normally for her to value her brand new stuff, including her washing machine.

Her father has effectively pissed all over her achievements.

She isn’t spiralling, she’s venting.

I support her 💯

You, not at all. You don’t decide who we can support.

YANBU to be annoyed that your dad got so drunk that he wet himself.

However, comments like this:

i have a brand new washing machine i dont want mans piss running through it

suggest that you have a serious anxiety/paranoia/OCD issue. Throwing things away because you're scared washing them will contaminate your washing machine isn't healthy. You're clearly in a fragile state right now and that's understandable, but blowing this up out of all proportion isn't helping you and you do need to try to pull yourself together.

I understand why you're angry with your dad - I would be too - but you need to calm down and stop spiralling into a panic.

That's awful. He needs to replace your sofa. The throws you could've washed.

A new washing machine is meant to clean dirty things, including piss. That's literally it's entire purpose. And I DK why your child's toy box has been affected.

He spilt coffee or coke up your walls?! He sounds like an out of control drunken teenager trashing an air b&b? So I can see why you're upset.

Yeah I'd want financial compensation and he's never staying the night again.

Also he either needs the continence service or an alcohol service if he drinks so much booze he pisses other people's new couches.

And seemingly pisses himself and doesn't wash his clothes? Is he very frail and elderly?

Yes it’s a klaxon call to the inept men everywhere who are perennially online.

I think she's getting a hard time because of the 'I hate all men' comment which has presumably triggered some incel forum somewhere.

This 100%. Also, it does sound v much like the behaviour of an alcoholic to me

My dad always thought he was helping by doing something for me, then would damage something else and expect me not to mind because he had done something for me!!!
Nah, keep well away from another 'abusive' man @Yousernane

You can still be proud of yourself 💐

Its not you that pissed everywhere and it's not your fault.

Im sorry he did that. What a pig. Do not have him back unless he can sit on a plastic chair

A lot of you are massively missing the point going on about what will go in the washing machine. Talk about missing the wood for the trees.

Yes OP could have washed this but the fundamental point is the OP has finally managed to find a safe space after an abusive relationship and a man who is supposed to have her back above all men has imposed his foul habits on her.

OP your dad either has a fairly severe drinking problem or some other health issues. Neither of which is an excuse for this but I would honestly keep him at arm’s length.

You do understand how a washing machine works don't you ????
Your underwear also has Pee on it aswell as other things
Must have loads of money to be able to chuck everything away

Ahhh I see, she said she hates men so all the MRAs have turned up to slag her off.

YABU

Washing machines clean themselves or you can buy washing machine cleaner sachets. You sound like you have some OCD issues and will need help. You’ve been through a lot and you’re starting fresh.

After all, kids have accidents (wee or poo) or vomit - and so do adults. You may not be able to cope once your dog is elderly and incontinent. Your washing machine is there to be used.

If anything- ask your father to replace the items or rent equipment to clean the mess he made. You may have issues with the men who hurt you but this behaviour/issue isn’t gender related.

Well, OK. She hasn't said he has any illnesses either. It's a lot more likely based on the fact that he was so drunk that he pissed himself - on a night in at his daughter's house so not exactly a heavy drinking occasion - that he's got a drinking problem, rather than dementia. But I concede that I am connecting the dots between him drinking so much he pisses himself and has a house that smells of piss, and him having a drinking problem.

Seriously, wash everything. Buy some cleaner that gets rid of biological enzymes and clean everything. Surely you can't afford to bin all that stuff.
My first house was absolutely vile from top to bottom. It took three months of graft to make it liveable, including help from DBs, DPs and PIL
The house stunk of urine. We bought the stuff farmers clean milking parlours with scrubbed it from top to bottom. We lived happily in that house for seventeen years.
You need to calm down. I know it's unpleasant but accidents happen.

Stop worrying about this.
Chuck anything washable in the machine. Believe me, your machine won’t suffer. How do you think anyone, ever, cleanses their pissy items? Machines don’t get spoiled.

Get up on a step ladder (borrow one) & clean the ceiling. You can do it!

Buy a product from local DIY warehouse especially made for cleaning up urine. Use it on your sofa. It’s made by HG. Comes in s spray bottle. If you can’t find it, ask for help to find it.

You’re doing well, just don’t ask Daddy over to yours again.

This. We have a rescue dog who has had multiple accidents since we got her as she's never been toilet trained. If I binned every soft furnishing she'd had a wee on, I'd have to re-mortgage the house 😐

Telling someone who is upset to “be calm” is pretty much the most aggravating and unhelpful comment one could think of.

Calm down dear.

You’ve had some harsh replies here. I get it, 100%. You’ve worked so hard to have lovely things and you feel proud of what you’ve done and now the throws, the rug etc, feel tainted. I wouldn’t have him back in my home either, I’d be livid. It would be the complete lack of apology or putting it right that would push me over the edge!

Still don't see how it applies to OP's father.
People with a variety of illnesses have problems with incontinence. I am telling you as a person who worked in dementia care, for example. But this doesn't mean that every person with continence I come across has dementia.
You can absolutely propose the hypothesis that her father is an alcoholic but I don't think we have nearly enough information to establish that.