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MIL playing victim

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Mamibaba · 13/04/2026 12:39

I didn’t see my MIL whilst pregnant and only saw her twice in the previous 3 yrs (at events) and partner isn’t close to her. Now we have a baby she is playing victim saying that I do not let her see the baby even though I am the one who takes the baby to her house every few weeks for a visit as my partner refuses to see her. How am I the bad guy in this?

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Bunnybackinherwarren · 13/04/2026 12:54

Why are you going against the df's wishes? He doesn't want a relationship with her. Why are you insisting your dc has one?
My mil hasn't seen our dc since he was 3 months old. He's now nearly 12...

Years.
Back away and keep dc away. Imo you risk her causing issues in your relationship.

Thehop · 13/04/2026 12:53

Stop going unless you enjoy it. Nothing to lose

Thundertoast · 13/04/2026 12:52

Who did she say that to and how did you find out?

DonewhatIcando · 13/04/2026 12:49

@Mamibaba
Massive step back, if I were you, let your DP facilitate visits, if he doesn't its not your job to do it especially if MIL is being a dick.
She'd be finding out the true meaning of "fuck around and find out" if she were my MIL ❤️