to find childfree comments on parenting forums insensitive?

I think everyone has misread OP.
Thread title is deceptive too.
She's NOT saying childfree people should stop posting here.

I actually see no issue with childfree people posting on mumsnet. I did it long before I had kids anyway.

And with someone with children, I can't be done with this whole "my children will look after you and pay you pension argument".

People without children aren't second class citizens. They don't owe gratitude for me for the choices I made to become a mother. I'm guessing people with children use a lot less recourses than I do as a parent and are currently paying taxes that will be funding schools, education, child benefit and pension for your current elderly relatives.

People with the children don't have the moral superior high ground. As a society we all benefit from each other.

Mumsnet isn’t exactly a collection of the sharpest tools in the box. I ignore any viper comments, what the fuck do i care if some random disagrees or makes a bitchy comment. Forums aren’t a place for thin skin, whatever the subject.

Yes, that always happens and st least one person will say “I was like you, I thought I didn’t want children then I had one and I realised I was wrong, children are my world”

I mean just as well I guess, since you can’t send them back, but bore off all the same.

It happens across a number of boards. I’ve seen posts on the Black MNers board that explicitly say they’re looking for experiences of Black posters and a white poster will chime in, sometimes in an exact replica of the scenario the OP is posting about.

I think this is a reflection of a type of person, a person who is at best thoughtless or is simply insensitive. A person who needs to make themselves feel better by crapping on other's life choices. I'm seeing more of this but as pp have said, not just in relation to having kids or stressful jobs, but in all forums, discussing various different things. I hope no one I know irl would ever have such poor emotional intelligence.

It's really boring. They can jog on.

Actually why not? I worked in a nursing home when I was a student studying OT and I enjoyed it, it was a very humbling experience. I also volunteered with a number of mental health charities for experience, what's wrong with that?

I dont buy into your bitterness and negativity.

are you raising your kids to work in nursing homes then? How wonderful! And how selfless of you to have raised taxpayers just for us!
10% of the under 25s are unemployed and rising, most of them will never work so becoming quite the burden. I would say we have a surplus of humans right now so we don’t need any more.
Don’t buy into the human Ponzi scheme.

Are you going to show gratitude for those of us with kids who are going to be looking after future you in your nursing home and paying your pension through their taxes?

No, thought not

I totally agree. Must have a sad life if they are childfree with no intention of having kids and the only thing they can do in their free time is come on a parenting website for Mums

I dont get this either! If you love being childfree so much and are revelling in the freedom of your life without children to do whatever you want, why on earth would you hang out, read and then comment on a thread about mums struggling with kids???

Thats quite sad and what a waste of your precious child free time.

Huh?
My DC will be paying taxes too.
Nobody needs to show Uriah Heep like humility and gratitude. Thats not what OP is saying.

There are so many different topics here that don't entail being a parent, do you have to have kids to read a book, own a cat, have an interest in home decor, do crafts?
There's a childfree board for goodness sake. Banning people for being childfree is the absolute stupidest thing I've read today.

Maybe show a bit of humility and gratitude that all those child free people are paying taxes to support your subs and handouts.

It's in direct response to the OP saying that doesn't happen when it blatantly does, all the bloody time.

"It would be like me going onto a forum for people who can’t have children and saying “well I’ve got three and it’s amazing”, it is just completely insensitive to the situation and adds nothing"

Except it wouldn't be like that at all

At the time of writing the first 5 posts showing on AIBU for me are (to paraphrase): downstairs loos X2, how some people have more savings than others, MIL issues and food banks - none of these are connected to being a parent or not.

I am childfree and do plenty of things in my spare time. I'm sorry you find it sad that I enjoy occasionally enjoy browsing AIBU, with it's topics that don't relate to kids.

to find childfree comments on parenting forums insensitive?

Anytime I refer to MN at a parenting forum I get jumped on because apparently it’s so much more than that 🤣🤣

So I guess you reap what you sow.

I totally agree. Must have a sad life if they are childfree with no intention of having kids and the only thing they can do in their free time is come on a parenting website for Mums.

I think if Mumsnet sees posts like "this is why im childfree" their accounts should be banned as its not the experience us actual Mums want.

I agree OP. It’s got much worse in the last few years. Most childfree people are absolutely fine and I’m sure don’t waste their time doing this, but some seem to make not having children their whole personality and use it to shit on others. Weird. It’s best to just ignore them.

I'd say that Mumsnet (despite the name) isn't really a parenting forum - it covers so many topics.

But whatever the topic there tends to be people doing similar, so it's not a parent v no-children issue.

Check out any post about someone considering going low contact/no contact with their parents - someone will undoubtedly be along to say that their mum is dead and they'd give everything they own for 5 more minutes with her. It doesn't matter if the OP has detailed a horrific childhood and years of significant abuse, someone always says it.

Or any post about influencers. There is always someone who comes along to smugly point out they don't even know who the person is and don't care about influencers.

But that doesn't really fit with what the op is saying. Offering the perspective of the adult child is one thing. It's potentially quite helpful. Offering the perspective that you are so glad you never had kids so you don't have to deal with adult children is clearly completely unhelpful.

Totally agree, how pathetic!

Yep. I get this.
But I have narcolepsy so I have a good comeback 😅

I have noticed what you are saying OP, but it’s common on all threads about anything. Someone will come on and say that holidays are getting too expensive and somebody will pipe up that they don’t have holidays and don’t understand what all the fuss is about.