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AIBU to tell MIL to stop criticising DS’s fake tan?

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Sam155320 · 12/04/2026 18:13

DS had a fake tan today, MIL expressed in an indirect way non stop about how it doesn’t look good. Should we have told her to stop after 3 times of telling her to

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PollyBell · 13/04/2026 02:59

Blondiney · 13/04/2026 02:31

People are still wearing fake tan in 2026? 🫤

Fake is still in it seems tan, nails, hair, lips, eyelashes any anything else a person can fake and we are still told it is meant to look good, if people don't all look the same how they can manage to go on reality tv?

Blondiney · 13/04/2026 02:31

People are still wearing fake tan in 2026? 🫤

Beenwhereyouareagain · 13/04/2026 02:23

B1anche · 12/04/2026 18:42

Like this?

😆😆😆

PollyBell · 13/04/2026 02:03

fake tan looks terrible on anyone it is called fake for a reason

IAmBeaIDrinkTea · 13/04/2026 02:03

GardeningMummy · 13/04/2026 01:46

THIS! Why on earth would a man wear fake tan?!

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Could say the same about women. It can look daft on women too

GardeningMummy · 13/04/2026 01:46

ExOptimist · 12/04/2026 18:35

I think any man who has a fake tan deserves to be ridiculed. Surely his friends are going to take the piss anyway. If his grandma's comments annoy him he can tell her himself, doesn't need mummy to do it for him.

THIS! Why on earth would a man wear fake tan?!

NormasArse · 13/04/2026 01:38

ExOptimist · 12/04/2026 18:35

I think any man who has a fake tan deserves to be ridiculed. Surely his friends are going to take the piss anyway. If his grandma's comments annoy him he can tell her himself, doesn't need mummy to do it for him.

Do women who have fake tan also deserve to be ridiculed?

KellsBells7 · 13/04/2026 01:36

My Nan had no filter. I don’t think there was a hairstyle or outfit that escaped comment! If my hair was curly she liked it straight, if it was straight she liked it curly! I just used to roll my eyes, I certainly didn’t want or need my mum to speak for me - and I was younger than your son.

There was no malice in her, it was just generational differences and an absence of being able to keep her mouth shut! She did the same with my cousins. She’s been dead many years now and we still laugh about it, and still have a lot of “can you imagine what Nan would say about this” moments!

CorvusPurpureus · 13/04/2026 01:03

Fairly sure that anyone in my family having a fake tan in 2026 would provoke a smirk from…well, literally everyone in the extended family.

However, it’s rude of the grandparent to make unsolicited personal remarks, yes.

Does a 25yo want to argue with his gp because they think his fake tan looks silly? If so, he can absolutely tell them ‘Grandma, you’re being rude, I like the way it looks, & I think it’s inappropriate to make personal remarks’.

The one thing that definitely doesn’t need to happen is you wading in. 25yo ds is a competent adult who can decide for himself if he gives a scooby that his grandmother has an opinion on his beauty regime.

Ohthatsabitshit · 12/04/2026 23:49

VividPinkTraybake · 12/04/2026 23:38

As an adult I couldnt think of anything or embarrassing than my gran criticising my tan...apart from my mum defending me....

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As an adult I can’t think of anything more tedious than listening to someone making snide comments about another adult. I’m perfect happy voicing that.

VividPinkTraybake · 12/04/2026 23:38

Ohthatsabitshit · 12/04/2026 19:33

Well I’d tell her to pack it in. Who wants to sit and listen to someone being mean to someone else about how they look?

As an adult I couldnt think of anything or embarrassing than my gran criticising my tan...apart from my mum defending me....

VividPinkTraybake · 12/04/2026 23:36

This is genuinely ridiculous, and if real

Your 25 year old son would not like you standing up for him in front of his gran

LazyTiger26 · 12/04/2026 23:14

You can tell fake tans from a mile off and the various oranges makes me giggle but hey whatever floats your boat

ThePoshUns · 12/04/2026 21:32

👏👏👏👏

thistimelastweek · 12/04/2026 21:11

5128gap · 12/04/2026 20:23

Did ya like it did ya Darlin'?
Fake tan..? Wot a load of old shit.

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I did like it. I did Darlin.
But what a fuckin cheek to dis the fake fuckin tan even you're the fake fuckin granny.

5128gap · 12/04/2026 20:23

thistimelastweek · 12/04/2026 20:10

Your Catherine Tate granny is perfect.

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Did ya like it did ya Darlin'?
Fake tan..? Wot a load of old shit.

IAmBeaIDrinkTea · 12/04/2026 20:11

B1anche · 12/04/2026 18:42

Like this?

Damn, beat me to it 😂

thistimelastweek · 12/04/2026 20:10

5128gap · 12/04/2026 20:07

I'm hearing
"Ad a fake tan av yer Darlin'? Oo doan it look lovely! Ad a fake tan av yer? Doan e look andsome?
.....welll!! What a fuckin' eyesore! Looks like someone's made up a bath of bisto and e's fell in"

Your Catherine Tate granny is perfect.

5128gap · 12/04/2026 20:07

I'm hearing
"Ad a fake tan av yer Darlin'? Oo doan it look lovely! Ad a fake tan av yer? Doan e look andsome?
.....welll!! What a fuckin' eyesore! Looks like someone's made up a bath of bisto and e's fell in"

ThejoyofNC · 12/04/2026 20:00

Sometimes fake tan looks ridiculous. He's plenty old enough to tell her to stop if he can't take it.

BauhausOfEliott · 12/04/2026 19:54

MidLifeMayhem · 12/04/2026 18:51

I think you are a bit out of touch

‘Out of touch’ for thinking it’s really fucking rude to keep making negative comments about someone’s appearance?

OP, either tell her to stop being obnoxious or encourage your son to do so.

I realise he’s a grown man but I think a lot of adults do want to avoid having a go at their grandparents, to be honest. I think most of us do feel much less comfortable saying saying “Oh, do shut up, you’re being tedious” to our grandparents than we would to our own parents.

Ohthatsabitshit · 12/04/2026 19:33

Well I’d tell her to pack it in. Who wants to sit and listen to someone being mean to someone else about how they look?

ThePoshUns · 12/04/2026 19:30

Has he got turkey teef as well?

Endofyear · 12/04/2026 18:57

He's 25? That's old enough to speak up for himself!

MidLifeMayhem · 12/04/2026 18:51

I think you are a bit out of touch