Acquitence went to kiss toddler

From your OP, it sounds like you did need help and surely she could be forgiven for thinking that, too?

I get not wanting people you don’t know to kiss your child, but that doesn’t really seem to be what happened.

We’ve had the loveliest experiences in Greece when my DS was little.

I remember him being about 2 and wouldn’t settle over dinner. The taverna owner came over, picked him up and walked him round the gardens so we had time to eat our food in peace. Every bar and restaurant we went in, they made a fuss of him gave him ice creams etc and were very affectionate,

We went back to same island when he was 13 and went there one evening - she remembered him and was amazed how big he was now

Mums have an instinct to step in and help other mums - it’s a good thing

Because she has had to type out the same response to various people.

She has said mock kissing, do you really need the ‘mock’ repeated every time?

Give OP a break, she is dealing with a pile on from dozens of posters.

The lie is in the OPs posts. She first said about mock kisses and described what she meant by that (I.e. not actual kisses). In further posts she started getting huffy and exaggerated, asking posters if they would be OK with a friend kissing their kids. Posters were responding to say that there was no kissing. The OP was just trying to skew the narrative as the truth wasnt getting her the response she wanted.

Ha, they may have thought secretly that your blue-eyed children were vampires

My Greek friend used to tell me that some of the older people she knew on Crete would side-eye tourists with blue eyes and mutter 'vrykolakas' under their breath. Pale-eyed people in older Greek folklore were often associated with undead creatures or vampires.

Because she has had to type out responses to various people.

She has said mock kissing, do you really need her to add the ‘mock’ every time?

Give OP a break, she is dealing with a pile on from dozens of posters.

That's so lovely! I know a few vicars (all women) who absolutely would do this (and quite possibly do)! Nice of the older women at coffee to do that too. A generation or two ago this would have been utterly unremarkable. How things have changed.

We're way too precious about the extended community taking an interest in our lovely children. The vast majority of people do not have: paedophiliac tendencies; harmful intent; cooties. Most people are kind and want to help.

Hi, I'm budgetbuster... I have the capability (as do the vast majority of people on this thread who have agreed) to read.

The thread title bangs and OP bang on about Kissing a toddler. Then she quite clearly says the toddler wasn't kissed. She's lying to cause a drama that just didn't happen.

Any more questions?

She didn’t say anything to the acquaintance.

Why are you accusing OP of calling her disgusting and trying to undermine her?

Why do you keep saying she kissed him when your description of what she did says she was inches away from him and making kissing noises?

She did not kiss him

What she did was more the equivalent of going psstpsstpsst at a cat to soothe them.

You clearly dont want to be disagreed with, you only want posters to agree with you that she was wrong and disgusting but at least try to be consistent. Don't keep saying that she kissed him when in your own description she did nothing of the sort.

And…when someone obviously doesn’t like you having their child on their lap and takes them away, don’t compound your behaviour by getting into child’s face and making kissy faces. The mum doesn’t like it, that should be enough.

There are many mums who would be fine with this, but OP is not, and she is allowed her boundaries.

On her own admission the woman didn't kiss her child, yet she keeps saying she did. Is that telling the truth?

Making kissing sounds is the same as making goo goo sounds - silly noises to distract a baby. You have totally overreacted.

We went on holiday to Greece with our kids when they were toddlers. The number of Greeks who picked them up, cuddled them and fussed them was amazing. Each time they said what beautiful blue eyes they had. They had never seen such blue eyes and were fascinated by them. The child loved the attention and we thought how sweet it was. I don't think anyone was traumatised by it.

Oh for heavens sake OP, your friend or acquaintance was being nice! Can't you see that? She saw a distressed toddler who can't self-regulate and needed distraction, and she was trying to cheer him up.

People are so bloody ODD about other people interacting with their kids. Don't blame the rest of us when your children grow up equally strange and unable to interact with other people, will you?

So she doesn't like something relatively harmless. It isn't a reason to accuse someone who was trying to help of doing something disgusting and trying to undermine her.

Who are you to accuse her of being a liar?

Op you asked if you are being unreasonable. When people then reply that yes you are, you seem to be getting angry. Why ask if you don't actually want the opinions?

So she didn’t kiss your toddler.

She was obviously trying to help you.

No good deed goes unpunished. 🙄

We are telling her to stop lying... there's a difference

And?

She doesn’t like it.

Stop telling women not to have boundaries.

This ^
its just different approaches to parenting. You looked like you needed help for her ( maybe you didn’t but it’s how it looked from outside) so she came and helped.
If this person is older distraction of a crying child by someone’s else was actually a popular technique in the olden days.

Let me guess - precious first born?

You're wildly overreacting here. She was only pretending to kiss them, probably to distract them or make them laugh. This isn't the same as some planting an actual kiss on a newborn. And you're verging on insane for objecting to her sitting with your child in her lap while you're right there.

I've been on my own at parties with kids on lots of occasions and I've always felt grateful when another mother helped if she felt I needed it. That's part of what makes a sisterhood.

What's a mock kiss??
Being two inches from his face, lips puckered, kissing sound

And the problem is?