Acquitence went to kiss toddler

You say you were flustered and I wonder if her doing this caused you to feel embarrassed or insecure that ‘someone had to step in and help’.
it seems she was trying to be helpful and distract him which is a nice gesture.
if she asked, would you have said no, seeing it as a failure?
doesn’t sound like she did anything wrong or malicious.

What is an acquitence?

So now you’re saying OP should have told the woman not to touch her child?

Wouldn’t that have been more confrontational than what OP did? If OP did that you would be telling her she was spiteful for that too.

OP can’t win here.

You are overreacting, Sarah. She irritated you when you were already irritated by your little boy but it's really not a big deal, time to let it go.

I’m with you on this OP. I’d not assume to step in and pick up someone else’s child randomly. If the child were in danger…..moving vehicles, equipment stacked up etc…..it would be different and I would protect the child.
In your situation OP, I would have asked “can I help, is there anything I can do?” Communication ain’t difficult is it?

Do you mean acquaintance? So you knew this lady from the event you were at? She wasn’t a complete stranger who you never laid eyes on? From the way you have described it, it sounds like she was trying to help you out. Whilst you were packing up and getting the buggy sorted, she lifted him on to her lap and was making kissing / baby sounds. Sounds like another Mum trying to help a Mum out. How long have you known her for? If you have been going to the same group for say six months and she sees you every week to say Hi to, she probably thought she could step in and you wouldn’t be threatened.

Whilst I might do a bit of a double take to make sure she wasn’t dashing out the door with him, I would have said, thanks so much and be on my way.

Massive, unforgivable problem.
Hope you washed your toddler's face with soap and water.
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She didn't make her wishes clear... she instead came to call this woman gross and disgusting and make up lies. I would 100% call that spiteful.

If I wanted someone to know my wishes around my child... I'd tell them. Instead of all this stupid rigmarole.

Why did you bother to post?

No, I’m responding to someone who is saying OP should stop arguing on this thread and have humility.

Why are you all allowed to argue but not OP?

Maybe she had reason to believe that you are a neurotic mother who intends to socially isolate her child as they grow, and wanted the child to witness a normal social interaction.

This is a non event.

The only thing weird is that you were next to him, watching him, yet you didn’t stop her taking him away from you out of your site?

YABVU for letting that happen and not stopping her right there.

She’s not being spiteful.

When someone obviously doesn’t like you having their child on their lap and takes them away, don’t compound your behaviour by getting into child’s face and making kissy faces. The mum doesn’t like it, that should be enough.

Would you be happy if someone ignored your wishes around your child?

This.
I accept that UK culture has turned into this, but its not what I see as usual, and in Spain acquaintances just take babies out of prams to hold and kiss them.

Are you not just pissed off because you weren’t going something about him, and someone else has, and now you feel annoyed at yourself? I don’t think she’s done anything wrong.

The oP started the thread on AM I Being Unreasonable. Most people have told her she IS being Unreasonable. She doesn't like that,.despite asking for opinions. That's not a "pile on".

Or are you suggesting everyone should just agree with her?

Okay, sorry, now you’re being ridiculous. How exactly was she undermining your parenting skills?

Yeah, what a weird bitch she is for trying to help a mother who seemed to be struggling with a toddler? You realise that toddlers can be a nightmare at times, right? That’s just the way they are; it’s nothing to do you with your parenting.

You sound overly sensitive and insecure, but that’s not her fault.

Nor is she the weird one 🙄.

Your really over dramatic and you keep saying in your follow up post she kissed toddler BUT she didn't. Person isnt weird you are!

I would have been grateful she was trying to distract toddler.

You sound like a pain in the arse and if your going to be this insulstated by every interaction with your child, your going to spend lots time being insulted/cross

So why continously ask people "would you like your kid to be kissed" blah blah

She's getting a pile on rightfully because she's spinning a very inaccurate tale and is being really spiteful about a woman who was trying to help her distressed child.

Or maybe you could all show some humility by not piling on to the OP.

I wouldn’t have minded someone doing this to my child but OP is allowed her feelings.

She did not kiss the child.

It’s not a pile on ffs.

The vast majority disagree with her but rather than accept that with grace, she’s doubling down on the fact she’s in the right

Its AIBU don’t ask the question if you don’t want to hear the answer

You sound absolutely insufferable.