AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

Why do you not think to let your SIL know well in advance, so they she doesn't waste her money and time? It's so selfish and unkind to let her buy them and then reject them.

It's not up to her to contact you to ask. You're the one with the preference that's at odds with most people's expectations. Yet you're putting the responsibility' on her.

Rude.
They dont need to eat the eggs straight away - chocolate does keep.

.My dad used to freeze our Easter eggs (take out any treats in the middle).

Next year donate 2 eggs to a refuge for the children there. My daughter and I fled DV a few years ago and would have really appreciated an egg for her at a time when I had no money.

I don't understand how some children seem to end up with so many eggs. My daughter got 2 this year. One from me and one from a friend.

The time to say that you don't want your kids to have Easter eggs, is well before the event. You don't reject a gift that has already been bought with love.

I spent ages choosing eggs that I knew my granddaughters would love (to their different tastes etc) so would be very hurt if my DD had told me they weren't welcome.
Had she said beforehand that she wanted to limit their chocolate, I'd be fine about it.

Mine have a large pile that they won't get through - DH and I will be eating some especially whatever is still there when the next influx if chocolate comes (Halloween being the next big one). Maybe SIL knew the kids wouldn't get through all the eggs they already had and thought you might prefer to eat them yourself rather than SIL eating them. Especially if you were making a special trip to give them!

The day after Easter Sunday there was a radio segment on what to make to get leftover chocolate out of the house and I was rolling my eyes but even listening to the presenter some people watch junk food so much that Easter and Christmas properly stressses them out!! It was rude of her and worse given how lovely the eggs sound but it was probably an irrational thing she couldn’t help.

She’s ungracious and unreasonable to turn down a gift on her DC’s behalf.

If she thinks they’ve had too much chocolate, she could tell them they can only have a little at a time or save it for next month.

Maybe she’s worried they won’t eat it and she will!

Don’t drop them off especially but give to your nieces when you next see them.

Because that's what people have always done for children at Easter. If you don't want you child having it all then tell people in advance and or donate it to food banks so other children can enjoy them. It's really not difficult.

My 8 year old has about 8 eggs, loads of bags of sweets and loads of those mini eggs

there is no way she can eat them all

why do people think it’s ok to buy my kid all this shit? Its not kind, its a dreadful gift .

All that sugar and processed shit chocolate drives me nuts

thorntons crap

She is rude but dont buy them eggs next year

kids do get too many eggs.

ask yourself this: you’re buying these eggs because it gives you joy. It’s not that kind to the kids

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surely you having them is better than them going straight to the bin (the other place some things end up if parents can't use them).

Why would they end up in the bin? If you don't want them surely you can pop them in the donation trolleys at the supermarket?

YANBU. It’s rude, if she didn’t want her kids to have too many eggs then she should have told you at least a month before Easter. I’d be taking the eggs along at next meet up to give to the kids anyway. Especially as you’ve been chasing for an Easter meetup because she was away.

I sometimes do this to SiL, and I know it must feel awkward and not nice, but sometimes parents do know their children best. I always say thank you though, she should have been more polite. Number 1, my children and most children, have no clue who gives them what, so don't worry about the kids thinking badly of you. Number 2, yes in theory chocolate can be doled out slowly but - you have no clue how much they've ended up getting (I hate waste and there's always waste after easter as it doesnt really last that long before going a bit white and manky), also some children do better with that than others, I've 1 with adhd and she finds eating things slowly really hard. If you threw her a new Easter egg, she'd want it right now, despite all the other open chocolates and an inevitable melt down would occur.
I often say "please don't" to certain gifts if I know it'll create waste, or inadvertently upset the kids (too much sugar, not going to be allowed it - toy weapons fall into this camp, not age appropriate etc). Maybe next year just pop her a message and ask what the kids would like. I wish SiL would do that rather than attempting to bribe the kids with stuff she knows or forgets they can't have or aren't allowed etc.
Sorry you feel hurt by it. I don't think it's personal and surely you having them is better than them going straight to the bin (the other place some things end up if parents can't use them).

I feel like this was more of a throwaway comment than a rejection. You tried to meet up over Easter they were going away, you tried to meet up when they were back but it didn't work for them so rather than the back and forth with her seemingly increasingly difficult and you trying to find a time to pop over, she's just said don't worry about it they've got loads of chocolate already

I have 4 sons and remember the sickening amount they got when they were younger. I rationed the eggs & kept the rest in our garage & i would make either rice crispie / cornflake buns or brownies with it with them at the weekend. It got rid of a fair amount very quickly and sometimes i'm not ashamed to admit, if I was due on my period I would eat one with no shame.

Would have been good to have known that your SIL and her children don't have them, you know for future years. Other than that, perfectly reasonable.

Maybe you feel her delivery was off, but I don’t think she’s wrong in principle. It’s also possible she had no idea these are special unicorn eggs and probably assumed it’s more generic Cadbury crap, in which case she’d feel it was just adding to an already existing pile of the same thing. Regardless, just take it on the chin. The kids won’t even think about it.

It was a nice but unwanted gesture. She's not obligated to accept your gift I'm afraid. And as mum she makes the rules for her kids.

It might seem shitty but she probably has her reason and tbf saying no is a good enough reason in itself.

Next year don't do the egg thing ...unless your buying them for yourself at half price the day after lol

Me too. Easter eggs are usually huge and it’s enough that the parents buy them one. If extended family starts doing it too they will just have a ridiculous amount of chocolate to get through and they are just small children. It will also lose its charm in a way as it all becomes too much.

That wouldn’t bother me at all. We’re well past Easter now and the kids won’t care.

Yes, SIL should have said beforehand. But still she's right to prioritise her kids' health over politeness.

We did get given two eggs from my BIL which we did accept gratefully but my kids are now very well trained sadly to be like Charlie from the chocolate factory where he got a nibble a day and still thankful for it haha. I'm not risking their teeth any more after the problems dd has had.

In the long term SIL needs to establish a routine whereby gifted chocolate goes straight into a treat cupboard to be rationed later.

I think it probably was a bit rude in how she expressed it - I would have thanked you for them and accepted them but probably not have wanted to give them to the kids (in which case you wouldn’t have got to “see their faces”) - I completely sympathise with her feeling that kids have had too much chocolate over Easter and not wanting to add to it, especially after Easter is over.

It also sounds like you were discussing making a special trip to drop them off whereas the original plan wouldn’t have put you out, so it’s possible she thought she was doing you a favour and saving you some hassle?

I'm quite surprised at how many posters have suggested the OP should now buy alternative gifts for these children after already buying eggs. If the parents don't want easter eggs then they should make this clear before others have kindly brought them. It's not rocket science.

She’s rude. If she wanted to limit the amount of chocolate she needed to tell the family BEFORE Easter, not reject already purchased eggs.