AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

That's rude of her but you saying "smellies" has probably turned her off.

Of course it’s rude to dismiss a gift someone has bought. It’s not a random piece of chocolate, it’s an Easter egg at Easter. If it was Christmas would you decline a Christmas present from someone because you already had enough?

It’s quite eye opening to see the low standards of good manners on here.

She was rude. You made the effort to buy them for her children, all she had to do was accept them and say thank you. It’s what normal people do. The children could have eaten them at some point in the coming weeks and months, or if she’s that bothered, she could have donated them. Instead, she chose to make an issue out of something that should have been very simple.

Well, she’s not setting her children a good example - how rude and quite hurtful. She couldn’t have accepted them this time and suggested something different for next year.

If her kids already have lots of chocolate she could have used it as a lesson for her kids in sharing, and donated the eggs. You can choose to be rude about something or turn it around into a positive.

I’ve been reading this post amazed at your sister in law’s thoughts that there is such a thing as ‘too much chocolate!’
Most adults would ration out the excess Easter eggs so children were having a normal amount.
Perhsps sis in law feels uncomfortable with the amount of chocolate - as she can’t resist it herself ??

Next year she needs to say ‘please don’t buy chocolate for the children’ in advance.

Next year she will probably moan if the OP and her family come to see them over Easter with nothing for the children.

She's not being rude at all, she's saying the kids have had too much chocolate as it is and that you're better off keeping them yourself for that reason. It's not rude to say no, she may be prioritising her children's health over your feelings.

She was being rude. They could go in a treats cupboard.

Team sil here. She is the one who knows how to manage her kids' diet and how they behave around knowing there's a load of chocolate in the cupboard.
It's not a kindness to dump sugary stuff into a family and expect them to be grateful.
Yes maybe she could have been less direct but would you have taken the hint if she had?

Maybe she feels that trying to force more chocolate on her children is rude as well?

We don't know the history here.

She could’ve accepted them but not given them to the kids. This is what I used to do 😂

Next year she needs to say ‘please don’t buy chocolate for the children’ in advance.

What does that matter? She was rude.

This is how I feel. Yeah maybe it's rude of her to say no now that the eggs have actually been purchased but if she didn't say anything then maybe you would continue buying chocolate next year as well.
Did they buy your teens eggs when they were little? I know gifts don't have to be reciprocal but I always find it tricky when someone does unexpected gift giving as I feel it puts me under pressure to remember and give them something next time.

For those also saying just put it in the cupboard, not all have a long date. Some eggs we have are til July and if you have a cupboard full already then it's likely to go out of date.
We still have Christmas chocolates on the go in our house!

I don’t think she meant to be rude and probably thought of it more as saving you a job. Drop them off anyway.

I have voted YABU because I know some people think the same as this^^ post.

I know a few families who would find it actually very inconsiderate to give something very sugary to their kids.

I am very relaxed about food (especially compared to a lot of people on MN), but I know many parents want to have more restrictions around food and I get it.

It also means I can be relaxed around food as people in my circles tend to be careful about, for example, turning up with a bag of haribo for my kids all the time.

That said, I'd definitely have accepted the eggs and put them away. One friend very politely asked if it was ok to give my kids lindt bunnies weeks ago which it absolutely was. They're still in the cupboard untouched and not because of anything I have said to dcs about not eating it. They just haven't started eating them.

Editing to fix typos

The OP hasn't mentioned a visit, she mentioned drop off. We don't know what exactly is being discussed, but it sounds to me (and it might sound to the SIL) that the main motivation for a meeting is handing over chocolate.

Your sil is very rude as you had already bought the eggs. The chocolate will still be in date for a few months so she could have handed it to them gradually. If it is the case that she is stopping them from eating treats altogether this will end badly on her because the dc will try to eat junk every opportunity they get.

I have two Grandchildren ( 5 & 9 ). They always get plenty of chocolate. This year I bought two packs of Easter Haribro - stapled a £10 note on each packet. They can either spend (on something of their own choice) or put the money in their bank.

Very rude but this is why I don't buy Easter eggs now. I get a small chocolate gifts and a little gift like socks, hairs ties, craft stuff. Still not sure why your SIL keep a egg in a cupboard for a few weeks.

Not generally.

In this case the OP is doing a song and dance about yet another chocolate and expecting others to join in. Sounds over the top to me.

No, good manners would’ve been to respect SIL’s decision, just like you would expect others to respect yours.

I would put good money on that having happened last year and OP being too unaware to have understood the polite request so SIL had to up the ante to be heard.

They are family, trying to arrange a visit with or without an egg needn't be a faff if a mutually convenient day is agreed.

That's how I read "We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back"