AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

Exactly. Throwing away anything someone has bought you is wasteful, and horribly disrespectful and rude. If I knew someone had done this to something I had bought- for them or their DC - they'd get fuck-all else from me again, ever.

Probably because if you think Cadbury's is absolute junk you wouldn't inflict it on strangers either?

I think it's poor quality in comparison to old Cadbury's but just about ok.

YANBU. Very rude. It's a chocolate egg, not a 50 pound tub of lard!

Then SIL should have expressed her preference well before Easter.

Any parent will be aware that family members who love their child, will plan to get them an Easter egg. It's a cultural given. So if you don't want your kids to have them, you politely mention it on plenty of time. You don't rebuff a family member who's put time, money and love into a gift.

Why are you throwing it in the bin. Why not just donate it at the supermarket so others can enjoy it, throwing it away is so wasteful.

That is really rude of her. I'd take a step back.

I’d let it go because at the end of the day, her kids, her decision….but she could have taken them gracefully and just kept them for the kids at a later date. They have good expiry dates. She could have eaten them herself, or even used them in baking with the kids. I think it’s rude of her not to accept them.
im sure we’ve all been given presents that aren’t very us, not our cup of tea, something you’d never use or buy….but we accept them graciously and with thanks. That’s just manners!!!

Our kids only get eggs from us, that's more than enough. We pay attention to the chocolate they eat, so wouldn't want to give them most supermarkets eggs which are mostly made of sugar and don't actually contain much chocolate.

They had Cadburys from grandad last year that ended up in the bin (of course we didn't tell them), so glad no one gave anything this year.
I wouldn't mind the small eggs but the giant crap would be a pain to get rid off without upsetting anyone.

Thats rude, she could have made a biscuit cake out of them and shared the cake with grandparents and ye.

She was ungracious. I have a similar SIL, one who sent messagea through her mother "can you tell Roses that if she buys the dc clothes again, they must be pure cotton, the mug with dn's name on it is too heavy fir him to use, the picture of MIL and FIL - the glass broke in the post". Result, I stopped buying them anything.

Separately, if things like sweets and chocolate are banned the children never learn to self regulate. Ours had tons of eggs as lottlies - they loved them but they were a five minute wonder and the children were pretty meh about eating them --which meant there was a plentiful supply of chocolate for dh and me. Neither were they the children who grabbed a handful of boscuits when the plate was handed round or put out at a party.

DH and his SILs grew up with rationed treats. DH is 64, I still find Mars bar wrappers snaffled in his pockets.

Honestly, my DC had a chocolate egg from the Easter bunny, a chocolate egg from school for end of term, some mini eggs over Easter and a chocolate egg hunt at grandparents (checked with me first that chocolate eggs are ok), and I think they had way too much.

I would be furious if random relatives started adding to that - chocolate is terrible for their teeth, has caffeine in it and is highly addictive.

Next time ask a parent in advance whether they’d like chocolate eggs for DNs, this way you won’t waste money or chocolate.

Can't believe how rude she is!!
My son can't have commercial Easter eggs as he's allergic to sugar but he's taken part in Easter egg hunts and we've thanked anyone who's given him an egg. (We've then swapped them for something else and his dad's had the eggs!)

What an old misery your SIL is. Poor children. Rationing the fun.

I can see your SIL's point - I remember my heart sinking when my large family would get together at Easter and the exchange of multiple eggs started. However, I love giving gifts and would have felt quite deflated at her response if I was you. I'd probably look at it in the wider scheme of things - do you mostly get on/feel valued by her etc. We can all be a bit thoughtless at times and maybe she just wasn't thinking? Or, maybe this is just how she is and if you have a few examples of this thoughtlessness then you can adjust your effort accordingly.

Your SIL was a bit rude. Maybe choose a non-chocolate gift in future if you want to gift something to your nieces.
(Not the same but in the same vein. My mum, for a few years, told me she hadn’t bought my two children anything for Easter as they would already receive enough chocolate. It really irritated me. We didn’t expect anything. But if the real reason was too much chocolate, she could have given them literally anything else!)

If I was SiL, I then would be rude and tell you I said no and meant it and for you to take them away with you now, as you were leaving.

Some people are very controlling about these things. I would be pleased with the thought and effort. I would also like to see the kids faces. It's only once a year.

I've actually used up excess celebration chocolate to make cakes etc for later.

I agree with this. Let their parents buy them eggs. Chocolate is bad for them, it's not your place to give it and she was setting a clear boundary. I'd be interested to know how old the kids are.

I agree with this.

You can’t say “please don’t buy eggs” to people who don’t usually. But if they do, you should say that beforehand.

If you don’t normally buy eggs OP, then I don’t think your SIL is wrong here. Why is it rude to turn down a gift, but not rude to insist that someone accept a gift and be grateful. I think it’s weird to think “you must let me give your child this gift, regardless of any other considerations, and if you don’t, you’re the rude one”. She should be polite with her decline though.
But if you do normally buy eggs, she should have said sooner that she didn’t want them.

My kids have way too much as well and I wouldn’t take more. I don’t think she was being awful. The last one we received I felt bad as I knew it was going straight to food bank.

i find having the masses of Easter eggs a bit of a pain.. I have very limited storage and they take up a lot of space and take a long time to get through them all. I don’t let my kids have massive amounts at once so one Easter egg will last a while. I’d never be rude enough to refuse them though!

To be fair, I doubt she is setting her children any kind of example here, good or bad, as I assume they are completely unaware of the interaction. They aren’t learning anything from it.

Nope. Her children are probably not aware of the exchange.

Seems a lots of people have chosen this thread to parade their manners high horse.

If the relationshipim is generally good, it's not rude to say "let's not bother now with planning a meeting only to drop off some chocolate". It's just the OP being overinvested.

Do you always take them eggs, OP? If this is something you usually do, she should have mentioned it in the run up to Easter

If you don't usually buy them Easter eggs it would have been weird and presumptuous for her to issue a "don't buy my children chocolate" edict.

I sympathise with her need to cut back. We usually had two eggs per child at Easter but one year they were given seven, which was ridiculous.

My friend's kids got twelve each from extended family and they took the hump when my friend asked them to stop buying them