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AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

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ShabbyChic999 · 11/04/2026 23:46

In the scheme of things this is not a major problem but I'm curious to know what you ladies think.....!!!
I got lovely unicorn Thorntons eggs for DH little nieces but at the last minute my in laws went away for Easter so we hadn't dropped the eggs to them. We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back but when i mentioned we had eggs for the girls my SIL said to keep them ourselves and that they had enough chocolate. Again I know it's not a major deal, I just felt a bit flat as was excited to give them and see their faces. I know kids have all eaten too much chocolate at this stage but I just think now they'll think we didn't get them any egg! Curious to know if you think she's being too fussy or has a point?

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purpleme12 · 12/04/2026 00:13

Yes if I've spent money on something for someone (and let's face it they're not likely to dislike the Easter egg) then yes I'd want them to have it

Otherwise I may as well have spent that money on something else!

So yes I'd not be happy

ChocolateAddictAlways · 12/04/2026 00:11

Chocolate can always be put in a cupboard and eaten later!

I think it's a bit rude to decline when someone has gone to the effort to purchase it but maybe SIL didn't think you would mind (especially if you have an otherwise positive/good relationship?)

Krevlornswath · 12/04/2026 00:10

It's very dismissive of the effort and cost but ultimately I'd let it go at this point, it is up to her after all. I'd probably have said something to her at the time but don't think it's worth taking up after the fact. I'd just enjoy them myself instead or donate to the food bank,

Next year I think I'd send them something else or only bother if I knew I was definitely seeing them. The kids clearly get plenty so aren't actually missing out, I doubt it's something they'll actually have noticed when they've been busy on holiday and are gifted plenty of eggs.

Ribbonwort · 12/04/2026 00:05

ShabbyChic999 · 11/04/2026 23:59

Yes I have teens now and also remember with smallies that there's so much chocolate but I would put some away and dole it out gradually if there was too much and say "this was from x etc"

You seem very set on your nieces knowing they were given eggs by you, OP. I honestly don’t think small children think in those terms: ‘Boo, nasty Auntie Sarah didn’t give us eggs this year!’

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ShabbyChic999 · 11/04/2026 23:59

Yes I have teens now and also remember with smallies that there's so much chocolate but I would put some away and dole it out gradually if there was too much and say "this was from x etc"

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AnSpideog · 11/04/2026 23:54

I get what she is feeling because my heart sinks with the amount of eggs the kids are given and then I have to make sure they don’t eat ridiculous amounts of chocolate.

but yes she was being rude. And it is not fair on you.

Picity · 11/04/2026 23:52

This is totally irrelevant but I bought one of those eggs after Easter and they don’t have any inner foil wrapping so most of the chocolate had gone all white.

Aiming4Optimistic · 11/04/2026 23:50

Yeah, that's rude AF!

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 11/04/2026 23:49

Meh. Just eat them yourself. They probably won't give it a second thought. Many kids only get eggs from mum, dad and grandparents anyway

User1839423790 · 11/04/2026 23:49

I could never be so rude! I’d just tell the kids they’d had enough chocolate so it could go in the cupboard for next week. I’d be miffed too.