AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

I’m on the side of the mum here. If the kids have way too much chocolate they really don’t need any more. Yes she could have accepted them and then hidden them away but you’d have set a precedent for next year. I never buy my GC Easter eggs, their parents say they get too much so that suits me.

Honestly, you’re making this about you (and her). Stop it.

Gifts are only gifts if given freely, for the pleasure of giving. Not to ‘buy’ a reaction or gratitude - which is what you seem to want.

She is not being rude, she’s being sensible and honest. You’re coming across as pushy, whingey and rather childish.

The kids don’t care. They had Easter chocolate at Easter. At this point it’s just excess and greed - not great behaviours to encourage. You missed the boat, better luck next year.

She should accept a gift then by all means hide them or repurpose if she wants to. I’d take them and explain that you’d be happy to get something less chocolate based next year if she’d prefer.

I know a few people this year didn't buy chocolate eggs this year as they have seen lots of things online about Cadburys etc using palm oil instead of milk in a lot of their products now. Still, I think it is rude to decline a gift when someone has spent good money on said eggs. At least just fake gratitude and then perhaps just throw them in the bin when you aren't around instead of point blankly refusing them.

She’s being fussy and rude - she could easily accepted them and popped them in the cupboard (in years past we’ve still had eggs left in the cupboard in the Autumn and have just broken them up and used the chocolate in home baking such as muffins or cookes etc).

At this stage I would just eat them (or plan to repurpose them in cooking) but perhaps send your DNieces a card with some money/book token in stead. Perhaps next year you could check with SIL whether she is happy for you to buy the kids eggs or whether she would prefer non-edible easter gifts. With ours, gven they only ever ate one egg on Easter weekend and got bored of chocolate thereafter, we worked out with family/DGPs etc to do money/toys alternatives so that they did just have one quality egg from ‘all of us’ and everything else was a welcome [healthier] bonus.

My dd has teeth troubles and is now under strict rules from the dentist and so the kids' gifts at Easter from the in laws were things like Easter craft sets and Easter themed lego. It was so thoughtful of them. I did buy them each a small egg which we're getting through slowly and they are happy.

I'd wonder if there's something like that going on, and the GP or dentist has said no more sweet stuff. Your SIL wasn't very tactful but she was right to prioritise their health and well being over politeness.

It wouldn't bother me. The Easter eggs are probably causing issues already and she doesn't want more adding to the problem.

She sounds odd.

I would have asked if the SIL was happy for you to get the kids Easter eggs before buying them. I find the amount of chocolate at Easter unnecessary for young kids. I got my Dd a small gold Lindt bunny and some mini lindor eggs and that was plenty. Don’t need huge amounts of chocolate that lasts for days / weeks. I don’t want my DD eating chocolate regularly and that’s ok to say that.

Thoughtless because she didn’t acknowledge the gesture. Didn’t say thank you and just dismissed it .

Really rude.

When mine were small and we had too many we made things like rice crispies cakes. She should accept them and be grateful people care about her offspring.,

@ShabbyChic999 Could you offer an alternative gift to your nieces? A little toy Easter Bunny or something? So that they know you're thinking of them but isn't adding to the pile of chocolate that is threatening SIL's fragile mentality. Or even some lovely cards?

Why does it need to go in the fridge, chocolate goes really hard in the fridge surely the cupboard is fine

Thoughtless — an offhand remark, perhaps?

Does your SIL often make rude remarks?
I mean, you know her, @ShabbyChic999
Is she normally rude does this just add to the pile or was this out of character?
I hope it was out of character.
I’m sorry.

Incredibly rude. If she's got too much chocolate for her children then either keep some back or chuck a few of the eggs in the food donation point in the supermarket. I can't abide people being so rude about others doing something nice for their children.

I am 100% the person who would do that - I actively tell people please do not give my kids presents, and if you absolutely have to give them something make it books. I find it incredibly stressful that people feel comfortable putting things into my kids lives that i don't want for them.

Plus, chocolate is actively bad for them - I try to keep my (very very young kids) of it almost completely - so it also depends on how much she is like that in general and therefore how much you should have been able to guess she wouldn't be keen. If they are scoffing cake and chocolate all the time as a family its a bit unreasonable, if she is super careful and they barely touch the stuff then its not. It also depends on the ages of the kids. If they were 9 and 10 - its a bit controlling - if they are 3 and 5 its very very reasonable.

Rude and thoughtless ! Absolutely .

Rude

She doesn’t want her children to be having more chocolate and that’s fine.

Although I’m struggling to get past the word ‘smallies’ 😳

The eggs will keep in the fridge and if he wants, that is where SIL can keep them, that fool

This!

But alternatively, maybe she didn’t want to put you out, or just didn’t fancy having visitors?

Well yes, but this is now just another job for her to do, and another argument for her to have with the kids when they see the eggs and want them NOW.

The problem is that if she's polite about it, then you will give her kids eggs again next year. She clearly has enough chocolate, and doesn't want any more.

Easter eggs aren't like birthday presents where there's an expectation that they should be exchanged. I think she's wise to avoid creating an expectation / tradition in your family where you feel obliged to run around swapping easter eggs.

Bloody rude, and ungrateful. When the kids are older tell them you bought them eggs, but their mum didn't let them have them 🤣