AIBU to want family photo on display?

I’d probably pop it on the console table in the entrance so it’s there as they walk in but not something I even have to look at. Then back away once they leave.

We have this wooden ornament kind of thing that says love this home on it but hidden on ours currently mil got us and made a big song and dance out of. It will be filed away in the shed (bin) in another couple of months 😅

It's a couple of hours to make them happy. Doesn't matter if it's insincere on this occasion. It's your relatives so I'd ignore him

@Ilovelifeverymuch ”force it down the whole family”

really, genuinely…do you mean that?

If so that is the biggest attempt to be contrary I’ve ever seen. It’s a blurry photo up in the corner for approx 2 hours. You don’t have to look at it, draw attention to it. It’s just there. Best case Grandparents may notice it and feel warm and fuzzy inside, worst case no one notices it and it was a waste of time bothering but quite literally no harm done.

You are right. It's a small thing to do to be polite.

But why?
What's wrong with making two older people happy who went to a lot of trouble to give a gift that might have missed the mark but was very thoughtful.
Who does it hurt to display it while they are there?
Sometimes there is no need to be brutally honest.

In answer to your question, no I don’t think it’s awful people pleasing. I’m a recovering people pleaser and I recognise one when I see one! You’re just doing a nice thing for your elderly grandparents. Love them and appreciate them whilst they’re here. You’re not doing anything wrong, you want to put it out. In my opinion people pleasing is doing things you don’t want to do to keep other people happy. Yes you’re putting it out to keep them happy but I’m under the impression you want to do that and you want to show them love and kindness.

He hasn’t said OP can’t put the picture up

Me too. I feel in a real slump because I have very few friends and go out of my way to be good to them but they don't even care about me. I asked to do something for my 40th in October and got told they're too busy. So I'm doing very little for them going forward until they realise.

Of course put it up. He is being a git.

Oh for goodness sake your husband needs to wise up.

I'd definitely put it up. Such a sweet gesture on their part, even if it didn't quite work out.
Why potentially upset them if you could completely avoid it? Your husband can surely suck it up and cope with having it on display for their visit!

I’d put it up for a few hours. Why not?

Display it until they're gone. It's a nice thing to do.

Put it up, put it away afterwards, no harm done

Can you photo edit it to make it clearer ? Lots of apps can help with that, Google phones do it or ChatGPT AI.

she doesn't get to force it down the whole family.

"Force it down" them? If OP 's family are going to be traumatised by a photo being on display for two hours to make the grandparents/great grandparents happy, that's a whole level of snowflakeing that they should be thoroughly ashamed of. Or else get therapy.

It’s such a simple thing to do and will make an old couple happy

def put the pic on display

you can remove it when they go

It's all fine they love each other, still doesn't mean she has to put up the photo especially when the GP are not even expecting it. If she wants to that's obviously fine but even her description of the photo says how she feels about it and she doesn't get to force it down the whole family.

Not putting the picture up doesn't suddenly mean she doesn't love her GPs anymore.

And as I said once you've put up the photo it's actually harder to then explain you not having it up later because she said she only wants to put it up temporarily. Does this mean she will put it up every time they visit and then take it down?

The GPs aren't insisting that it's put up. OP just wants to do a nice thing for them.

They're elderly, they love her, and however poorly it might have been executed, they put thought and effort into that gift. They think the photo is lovely because they love the people in it, and OP loves them.

Of course you put it up. Any discomfort on his part is minimal compared to the pleasure it will give them.

You description of said photo really tickled me lol

Yanbu, I'd put it up

Because he doesn't like it. Why would I want to put up a horrible family photo that they all clearly don't like.

Just tell her grandparents they haven't put them up simple. Once you put it up now you have to do it every time they come over.

Imagine someone giving you a blown up horrible picture like this and insisting that you just put it up to please them, no.

Ah put it up, it will make them happy.

I’d be telling your husband that you’re very comfortable standing up to him and telling him what your expectations and boundaries are, why is he so keen to tell you what you should be doing? Is it only people pleasing if he’s not happy with the outcome?