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To Think That DD School Are Covering Up Teacher’s Unprofessional Behavior

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MrsJLL · 11/04/2026 14:27

DD is age 10. She bright and sporty. Very sociable, happy at school and doing really well.

I was recently at the school gates waiting to collect her. The mums tend to stand around chatting in little groups.

I was stood close by to many other mums but was just checking something on my phone so was alone but only about 1 to 2 meters away from everyone else.

A teacher approached me and unbelievably announced within earshot of the many of other mums that she has diagnosed my daughter with ADHD because apparently she acts like the “other ADHD” kids that this teacher knows

I was really shocked and upset as we have never had any SEND contact and this teacher is just a class teacher. Other mums definitely heard what the teacher said and also saw me being upset. The teacher then walked off after I got upset and refused to elaborate.

I subsequently made a complaint to the Headmistress about the teachers conduct and the fact she had discussed sensitive medical information in a public place, thereby breaching data protection /GDPR.

The response came back from the head that the teacher was not acting on behalf of the school when she said those things to but was speaking in her own capacity and on her own behalf.

Therefore, whilst it was regrettable, she hasn’t done anything wrong and neither has she breached any data protection laws because the information she gave me about her opinion of my daughter’s mental health was not the “official view of the school” so it doesn’t matter that it was overheard by various people.

The Head then reiterated how confident they are in this teacher’s professionalism.

That is apparently the end of the matter as far as the Head is concerned.

it has really upset me and I feel like the school are covering up for this teacher.

AIBU?

what should I do next?

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MrsJLL · 11/04/2026 14:35

YourAvidKhakiPanda · 11/04/2026 14:32

Edited after reading the post a bit more as I read headteachers response. That's a shame they're not willing to say the teacher was wrong.

Sorry this happened to you. I'm a teacher and this sounds incredibly unprofessional. When this issue comes up, I would typically keep the parent informed of any behaviours e.g. I noticed Sarah was finding it hard to sit still in class today etc.

Then once a picture is built up call the parent in for a 1:1 meeting to discuss further support and the possibility of a referral.

The teacher definitely needs some work on how they deliver this kind of news, hopefully it can be resolved by the SLT and the teacher can learn from this.

Edited

Thank you

as a teacher do you think it’s possible to speak to a parent on school grounds about their child but be speaking in a “personal capacity” and not a professional capacity?

this is what the school are saying this teacher has done and I can’t get my mind around it

it sounds like BS to me but welcome your thoughts.

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Rainbowdottie · 11/04/2026 14:34

It was unprofessional for them not to call you in and have a meeting, however formal or informal, with you.
schools will always back the teacher though. The teacher probably has got into trouble over it, it’s just not shared with you
(retired teacher)

YourAvidKhakiPanda · 11/04/2026 14:32

Edited after reading the post a bit more as I read headteachers response. That's a shame they're not willing to say the teacher was wrong.

Sorry this happened to you. I'm a teacher and this sounds incredibly unprofessional. When this issue comes up, I would typically keep the parent informed of any behaviours e.g. I noticed Sarah was finding it hard to sit still in class today etc.

Then once a picture is built up call the parent in for a 1:1 meeting to discuss further support and the possibility of a referral.

The teacher definitely needs some work on how they deliver this kind of news, hopefully it can be resolved by the SLT and the teacher can learn from this.

freedomformeismotherhood · 11/04/2026 14:29

Yanbu, she was trying to embarrass you and dd in front of the popular mums.

No advice though but I agree x