I am a terrible wife!!!

I thought you'd left your husband and written a post about it and advertising your products etc?

Don’t offload your guilt onto other people too lighten your load! You have a crush you’re not going to act on, keep it where it should stay, in your head!

I’ll help you fight @ExtraOnions for Greg. No idea how we’ll split him - he’s quite tall, I understand, so I think vertically might be more fair than horizontally.

As soon as I posted, that was my EXACT thought! 😂

If that's what you meant, op, you're doing absolutely fine. At least you're not being a creep like with that poor other poster today whose husband is ogling other women while on holiday and texting his mates about them. Now that is a shit spouse.

Don’t be daft! Your husband doesn’t come clean to you every time he has a wank. Let it slide.

I assume she means she masturbated while thinking about the crush. There is nothing wrong with doing that in my opinion.

You're being too hard on yourself OP. Your married, not dead from the waist down.

If thoughts were real I'd probably be divorced and I'd almost definitely be doing a long stretch inside 😂

Calm. You’ve had some thoughts and let them wash over you. That’s normal and you didn’t act on anything. The end.

Don’t create unnecessary drama by speaking about this. You did nothing wrong.

Do you often have some anxious thoughts like this OP? That’s where I would take this

You can have Bob, but I'll fight you for Greg!

What do you mean you "indulged" your feelings? What exactly have you done? No one would surely be this eaten up with guilt simply for finding someone else attractive, so are you saying that you have done something you're not proud of?

I agree.

You have done nothing wrong. It's normal to have the odd passing fancy, most of us do.

Leave it behind you now, please stop worrying.

You are definitely not a bad wife.

OP I had a mega crush on a work colleague when my mum was unwell last year. I also spoke to chat gpt about it which was helpful in one way but also kind of made it into something bigger in my head than it needed to be.

nothing ever happened between me and the colleague. Both of us are married so nothing ever would. A few smiles to each other and a bit of teasing on his part - that was it. I have not told dh and never will - I didn’t do anything wrong at all.

it’s faded now. Just naturally on its own. Looking back I wish I had not agonised over it so much.

PS I agree with the AI bot that 'confessing' is about your relieving your feelings, not fixing things

You fancied someone, you had a few fantasies, you saw it was wrong - and that's it. Stop catastrophising.

The post I quoted is AI bollocks and this is a forum for humans to talk to one another. So please don't flood it with inane AI bollocks.

Also it was terrible 'advice'.

Delete the chat between you and chat gpt now. Then go and read a book or do some gardening or go for a run and forget about it. Maybe work on filling you’re life with something meaningful/ creative so you are not so vulnerable to these infatuations in the future.

You have done nothing wrong. It’s normal to have attractions to other people. It happens. The important thing is you didn’t do anything about it and you no longer have the attraction. Please do not tell your DH - there really is no need.

Well we all get fanny flutters when channing tatum (or take your pick) comes on the tele, we're not dead!

I think you need to think about why you think this is so bad. I imagine your husband isn't the most attractive man in the entire world so there is going to be others you find attractive, completely normal behaviour.
You're not a stepford wife, or amish, or some kind of wife slave...

The only thing I'm "judging" you about is using a robot to validate your feelings.

I despair for humanity.

Other than that, you found a guy good looking. What is the big deal or did I miss something?

You do not need to tell your husband every private thought and fantasy you have. Inside your own mind and imagination you are free. It's your private space. And the only time you cause harm or hurt is if you let what should be inside out, in actions or words. So do not hurt him over something he should never know.

No one cares if you “are here.” You being here and human doesn’t mean this comment didn’t come straight from ChatGPT, which any of us could have asked, including OP. Next time, share an original comment or be prepared for people being sick to the back teeth of positive, verging on sycophantic, AI slop. I’d actually be fine with you not being human, as long as you didn’t post such obvious “ChatGPT fake therapist” guff.

I told DH I was willing to watch the football with him because the teams in question had some magnificent bums. I was (99%) joking, but he had a good laugh (and I would have watched anyway, GO SCOTLAND 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿). I’m married, not dead. I hope to still be like this when DH and I are 80.

Don't compound your mistakes by telling him. You may feel better, but he'll feel worse. Don't do that to him.

Fucking hell, OP.

You had a momentary crush; you talked to ChatGPT about it and got over it. You know you’d never want to jeopardize your marriage.
Why in the world would you either tell your husband OR think you’re a terrible wife?
Look, marriage doesn’t mean you never get a crush on anyone outside your marriage. That happens; crushes pass. It means that you know crushes are just stupid crushes, it’s nothing compared to what you and your husband have, and you’re not going to do anything about it. I swear, a man would never give this even another second’s thought.
Please stop torturing yourself, OP - you do not need to “come clean” to anyone for having private thoughts.

Were you by any chance raised in any particular religion or by conservative or strict parents (even non-religious)? I only mention this because women already torture themselves over this stuff, but some religions teach that thoughts are as bad as deeds, which is, of course, pretty difficult for humans to live up to, since we can’t always control our thoughts.

Normally attractions like this are due to boredom- not necessarily with your husband but with life in general.

Find something to take your mind off it. Start planning an exciting trip, DIY project or new hobby that will keep your mind busy.

You've not done anything wrong and the fact you still feel guilty indicates you're a good person.

Tell your husband only if you're prepared for him to turn round and tell you that he has a massive crush on someone at work and has been asking AI about her behaviour but that he would still never do anything.

This was nothing like an emotional affair. This was a brief crush and some slightly daft usage of ChatGPT.

OP, don’t breathe a word. Just delete the chat, learn from this and move on.