10 month old DH said i am being lazy.

I do housework i want to clarify my last post. Its just I found i was absolutely knackered when he was finishing work. Then having his dinner made and I was still doing all bedtimes etc and wake ups. So now when I do bedtime he does some housework. He thinks this is totally unfair but I wasnt in charge of all housework before pregnancy so why is it now my job?? He suggested cutting back baby groups to do more housework. Told him to f off!

So out of everything your advice is marriage counselling? After I've repeatedly asked what your point is? Any advice / opinions about my child/routine? Do you have kids?

😂😂😂 thats why I never replied I was genuinely like wtf 😂😂

I remember telling dh what I had at a cafe I went to. I like to ramble and tell him every little detail 🙈 I mention how dd has toast and butter. He asked the salt content. I said I didnt check as most of it ended on thr floor. It was more about texture and keeping her occupied. She had a tiny bit to eat. Her went off on one, you shouldn't be ordering blindly do u know how bad salt is etc. I told him that if he feels that strongly perhaps he would like to be more involved in meal making? The following weekend we went out. I wasnt planning on ordering for dd as I had brought her some snacks. He scanned the kids menu and asked proudly, shall we order her the mac and cheese. We didnt. But I thought how idiotic!

This is around 8am. Change her, feed her. Then pop her in playpen, she sits happily and plays with her toys (its huge and she has lots of toys there). I love having my coffee and watching a bit of telly. Its literally only 30/60mins and I only do this as she doesnt nap in her cot, never has! She would only nap in her moses basket months and months ago. Next to me, travel cot, big cot - nope. So all naps are contact and they have to be in bedroom or she wont nap on me lol so my morning coffee is my downtime for the day. Obv if she stands in the playpen and is looking at me I instantly give her attention and play. Or if she is every grumpy in there I take her out.
He said I have no reason to need a break first thing in morning and what is that teaching her etc.

I was confused with you both 😂😂

I actually cant see any post where you've offered advice or your own experience. Correct me if im wrong. However, If im right, why is that? If not being nasty or bitchy... what were you setting out to do?

I just wasn’t quite sure what you meant to be honest, after a couple of posts I was getting quite confused!

Hahaha sorry I am sleep deprived, but also if you had no clue what I was wanging on about why didn't you point out it wasn't you as I clearly referenced these comments numerous times 😂😂

All your posts are pointless, add no value and are no nasty. Youve also made things up.

so what's wrong ? because no happy person sits on mumsnet and does that ?

That wasn’t me….

"I'm not a nan I'm a much more recent mum and I've watched as all the mums who didn't let their baby ever fuss, co-slept, contact napped now have primary aged children who are crap sleepers, because no they never did get much better or learn to get to sleep by themselves. As a result their kids struggle to regulate their emotions as they are constantly shattered."

Because I didn’t say that….so I have no clue what you are wanging on about. That was someone else that you are angry at so you are confusing me with your anger. I think all parents should do what works. Wear your kids, fine, sleep train, fine. No screens, fine. Bit of Peppa Pig, also fine.

Also not sure why you think it is outdated. I had a look online and if it is about PUPD I already said that it isn’t meant to be used after 6 months, the book says that. I’m not sure what is outdated? Anyway, it is up to others if they want to try it or not. Do what suits. I also know someone who did cry it out, her kids are also fine, even if I disagreed with her. Turns out there is more to healthy child development than how you get them to sleep as a baby.

I am very surprised with some responses. Yeah you are lazy? Some people i think make shit up on this website. "When DD was one I renovated a coffee, cured cancer and ran a marathon everyday, yet u have a morning coffee. Disgusting".

Again you've neglected to mention why you put down other parenting styles when you said all those kids who coslept etc. are all apparently emotionally disregulated unlike your thriving children...

That's what annoyed me. You are being the sanctimonious mum you claim not to be by making such untrue and silly statement. It implicitly suggests you've done something right and are "reaping the rewards" of your parenting choice and they've done something wrong. On top of that what you suggested is literally not recommended anymore, but, as I said it was your self-righteousness that irked me most.

Please try and read what I'm actually saying. I told you what annoyed me initially but you chose not to adress it and pretend I was annoyed your kids weren't emotionally disregulated 😂.

Oh and FWIW I am far from crunchy and would never home school my kids. I speak to mine in French and that's about as far as any education for me goes 😂.

Look genuinely, I am glad your kids are doing well. Your initial tone and advice just came across badly.

People attacking people for no reason
You cant be happy as no sane or happy person does that