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10 month old DH said i am being lazy.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 10/04/2026 23:18

When DD (10months) wakes, I change her and then give her milk. I then pop her in her playpen where she happily plays with toys. I then make a coffee and watch some TV - play pen is infront of TV (well TV in on wall, playpen is infront of couch). I sometimes just watch her and occassional look up at TV sometimes I will watch the TV. I enjoy having my morning coffee and she is happy playing. After 30mins / 1hr or so I then take her through to kitchen where I give her actual breakfast, porridge, yoghurt, etc.
DH wfh and when walking past livingroom popped head in to say hi. He looks shocked thst I had a coffee and was lying on sofa watching TV. He asked was mummy having a day off and that the play pen isnt for me watching TV and that im being lazy. I was so annoyed. Is he right?

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D3vonmaid · 10/04/2026 23:23

Your post is lacking a bit of context, what time is she waking? 3am or 7am? If it’s your normal morning wake up time, I don’t see what’s wrong with giving her milk and then having your coffee. If your DH is unhappy with the morning provision tell him to get his lazy judgemental arse out of bed and provide the all-singing, all-dancing educational
showcase that she’s obviously missing.

JMSA · 10/04/2026 23:23

I’m sure you do other stuff with her, like take her to the park, play with her, sing, look at books, go to a baby group, etc. So I think it’s ok if balanced with other activities.

DalmationalAnthem · 10/04/2026 23:22

What's his packed itinerary and chores list when he is parenting by himself?

Hadenough32 · 10/04/2026 23:20

He's wrong. Just enjoy it whilst it lasts. Time to relax with a baby/ toddler is few and far between.

lolacherricoke · 10/04/2026 23:20

Not something I would do!! This is something I would do at nap time!!

Disco2022 · 10/04/2026 23:20

Obviously not. He's a dick

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