10 month old DH said i am being lazy.

Who bloody cares if it's 'lazy'??

Enjoy your slow morning while your baby is happy playing. You won't always be able to have a gentle start to the day so why not enjoy it now.

I think it’s fine to watch tv for yourself. I wouldn’t be putting on for a 10 month old. Can’t you give her pots and pans on the floor and a wooden spoon or something? Ir move the playpen while you are cooking so she is near?

The effects of screen time on under 3s is really bad. My daughter is 3 and 1/2 and did get screen time from 1. Mainly the odd film if she was ill or extra fussy. Then ms Rachel, ms apple and other educational stuff from 2. There were definitely days I’ve given too much screen, I’m not saying I’m perfect and found it easy without. My husband would tend to use screens with her, so I really tried not to at all because I didn’t want her getting too much.

My friends child is a year younger. Has had unlimited screen time. Literally walks around with a phone in her hand. Is more violent than mine, and has a lot more tantrums.

edit as I’ve just seen you say it’s a large play one. Maybe get a pop up ball pool type one?

No she doesn’t. She sounds like a normal parent. Nobody needs to be interacting or educating their child during every second of every day. The baby is happy playing.

It feels rather restrictive. At 10 months old, babies are usually confidently crawling, and getting near to walking. It seems a shame to restrict that.

She is safely playing happily with her toys, I can't see a problem. I never had a playpen for my dc but yours sounds great.

It’s literally fine. The people who won’t let their baby play independently for an hour are the ones who complain when they have a Velcro toddler.

OP if you were working and you employed a nanny, would you be happy for her to watch an hour of TV while your baby was sitting in a playpen?

Turn the telly off and do not give a 10month old baby screen time on your phone. What am I reading?

Same.

That said, first of all, your DH needs to be left with DD for a day without you, from when he first wakes up to after dinner. It’s about to be the weekend; perfect time. Of course he thinks you’re “lazy” if he’s never actually tried to care for DD or make her dinner while she screams in her high chair.

But… maybe this is daft or maybe there’s something I’m missing but couldn’t you just drag the playpen so that it’s temporarily in the kitchen or at least visible from the kitchen? I mean, your problem is she hates the high chair, so the solution is not screen time; it’s not putting her in the high chair until it’s time to eat (can you imagine if we made an adult sit, then trapped them in their chair the whole time dinner was being cooked???? It’s pretty natural that she hates it).

If she’s being read to, why does it matter if that’s sat on the sofa or sat in the playpen?

Same

Tell him self directed play is crucial for development, problem solving, emotional regulation and creativity…why wouldn’t he want that for her and why wouldn’t he think you deserve time to relax …you definitely put in the hours with a 10 month old. Ms Rachel is fab too. If your day starts before 8 you have the right to a break

Controversial opinion, but babies can be quite boring. I loved my mat leave but was secretly pleased to be back at work after a year each time. I relished the brief moments they were willing to chill out without intervention, which is why two kids was great as they entertain each other.

Anyway, I learned I could never work in a nursery or be a childminder. Mine are 16 and 14 now and I love it. Baby stage was fab, but not my favourite.

But if the baby is contact napping on you in
a comfortable position, that’s quite nice isn’t it ?

Turn the tv off fgs

She is 10-months, she has a short attention span. Seriously diving into screen time at 10-months is really bad as the recommendation is zero!

Sounds like you’ve got nailed to me.
if I had my time again I’d be more like heya youve deceived, it’s so much healthier than the helicopter tangle of anxiety social media makes mums into now
she’s safe, you’re connected, carry on x

I think a bit of a slow/ chilled morning is absolutely fine. Some of us aren’t morning people and like to ease into the day, becoming more active later on.

Some people start off the day full of life, but then slow down later in the day. Neither is wrong!

If I was being picky, an hour with the morning coffee (you said this was the max) is a bit long. About 20 mins would seem more usual. But I still don’t think he has any right to comment!

10 month old DH - Is this thread about a dear hamster?

Your baby seems to spend a lot of time stuck in a playpen. And it’s too much screen time. I don’t think my elder child even saw a screen until he was nearly 2.
Why do you sit in the playpen to read? I expect if your baby wasn’t locked in a playpen for so long, she might complain less about being in a high chair for meals.

I clicked to find out why you'd married a ten month old.

Not something I would have done but each to their own. As long as you’re doing plenty of other stuff with baby like daily outdoor time, books, baby groups, swimming etc