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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 2026-04-10T22:18:13+00:00

When DD (10months) wakes, I change her and then give her milk. I then pop her in her playpen where she happily plays with toys. I then make a coffee and watch some TV - play pen is infront of TV (well TV in on wall, playpen is infront of couch). I sometimes just watch her and occassional look up at TV sometimes I will watch the TV. I enjoy having my morning coffee and she is happy playing. After 30mins / 1hr or so I then take her through to kitchen where I give her actual breakfast, porridge, yoghurt, etc. DH wfh and when walking past livingroom popped head in to say hi. He looks shocked thst I had a coffee and was lying on sofa watching TV. He asked was mummy having a day off and that the play pen isnt for me watching TV and that im being lazy. I was so annoyed. Is he right?

vintedandminted · 11/04/2026 03:03

I mean this as advice not criticism, your problem is you need to baby train sleeping. Your little one needs to be sleeping now 7 till 7. She needs to be self settling. If you had a good sleep pattern you would have time for self care, watching tv, food prep ect. This is where you need to concentrate your efforts. Make sure she is having regular solids to keep her full and start dropping day time naps. It sounds like she's in charge all day long not you.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 03:02

Wellretired · 11/04/2026 02:54

You have a 10 month old and DH has only just noticed you do this? Shows how involved in the child care he is. He can sit with baby for 30 minutes himself and ket uou have your bresk in peace if hes yhat worried. Honestly, its fine to give yourself a bit of a breathing space before a full on day. Some posters obviously have doubts about any screens at all for young children and you could think about dome of the practical solutions that have been suggested.

Weve only had the playpen for 5 weeks or so

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 03:01

BlackCat14 · 11/04/2026 02:55

Sounds very similar to my morning! Up around 7.30am with my 8 month old, change him, feed him his bottle. Once he’s had his bottle and he’s full of beans, he goes on his play gym with all his toys whilst I sit next to him with my breakfast watching Corrie.

My programme is Eastenders! 😂 I know its dramatic and a bit rubbish but I do love it 😂 used to watch corrie years ago

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Manicmondayss · 11/04/2026 02:57

Does sound lazy but it’s what I did with my first who was an easy baby

BlackCat14 · 11/04/2026 02:55

Sounds very similar to my morning! Up around 7.30am with my 8 month old, change him, feed him his bottle. Once he’s had his bottle and he’s full of beans, he goes on his play gym with all his toys whilst I sit next to him with my breakfast watching Corrie.

Wellretired · 11/04/2026 02:54

You have a 10 month old and DH has only just noticed you do this? Shows how involved in the child care he is. He can sit with baby for 30 minutes himself and ket uou have your bresk in peace if hes yhat worried. Honestly, its fine to give yourself a bit of a breathing space before a full on day. Some posters obviously have doubts about any screens at all for young children and you could think about dome of the practical solutions that have been suggested.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:54

Also how is it lazy
Morning coffee after feeding, changing dd and letting her play happily.
Then doing housework and cooking dinner.
Wtf am I lazy?! I wish I was at times.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:53

VioletsAreBlue33934 · 11/04/2026 02:48

Yep, lazy. Way too much screen time.

My 18 month old never saw a tv/screen until about 14 months. He now ocasionally gets a bit of low stimulation TV when he's sick or pooped, about once a week.

You'll regret this in years to come.

I dont think I will.
I'm sure some screentime whilst I do housework and cook dinner isnt doing any harm.
Considering she can play independently, hitting all milestones, can say some words, is very social, loves being read to, loves her food, has a variety of clubs and outings every week. She is doing just fine, thanks.

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VioletsAreBlue33934 · 11/04/2026 02:48

Yep, lazy. Way too much screen time.

My 18 month old never saw a tv/screen until about 14 months. He now ocasionally gets a bit of low stimulation TV when he's sick or pooped, about once a week.

You'll regret this in years to come.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:45

Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:28

I'm not arguing!
You know nothing about my baby or my situation.

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Its crazy that this hit a nerve which was me being nice!! But u had no issue arguing and trying to act better "you dont care about the science", right.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:43

Kitchen not baby proof at all. Plus limited by space. Playpen will be much better. When she is a little older I will definitely get one of those stool things where they stand, safely, and watch coking or get involved. They look great

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AlwaysHungry123 · 11/04/2026 02:36

Count yourself lucky OP that you are able to have that time to yourself. We didn’t have a playpen but we put the staircase at the top and bottom and baby proofed the house so my DCs could crawl everywhere. I’d put them in the morning on the floor in the living room to have my coffee and they played happily. I never watched tv until they were in bed because I felt I could never focus on it. I played music for them and I’d be on my phone reading. Then we’d go out doing thongs for the rest of the day.
my children are very happy entertaining themselves and don’t need constant attention. I feel like they need time to use the initiative and potter around. Their lives are way too overscheduled. Everyone judging you here are probably damaging their children with constant overstimulation.
as for cooking, I’d also let them to crawl around the kitchen, it was challenging but this is how I cooked. I made one of the cupboards available to them to pull out all the utensils they wanted so that kept them entertained for a while.
as for the husband, leave the baby with him for a day so he can show you how the perfect parenting is done 🙄

pieceoffluff · 11/04/2026 02:35

Honestly these comments are bat shit, if a baby isn’t happy sitting in a play pen playing they will let you know. There’s only so much cooking you can do whilst a 10 month old plays with pots and pans (about 5 minutes in this house!) and having time to yourself in the morning…enjoy it because as we know with these little ones the only constant is change! As for your other half, talk to him, tell him how you feel?

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:30

Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:28

I'm not arguing!
You know nothing about my baby or my situation.

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No but it would be impossible to have the exact same baby and situation. Everyone experience, baby, etc is different. So I don't need to know anything about your baby / situation to say that... it's true.

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Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:28

ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:26

No point arguing about it. We have different styles, different babies, different situations, etc. Thanks for your input tho

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I'm not arguing!
You know nothing about my baby or my situation.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:26

Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:24

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No point arguing about it. We have different styles, different babies, different situations, etc. Thanks for your input tho

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:24

Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:15

My owna opinion about the toys felt irrational to me! I feel much clearer about the phone screen time. But why would you care about my opinion on morning coffee if you're not listening to the science on the phone screen time?

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The playpen has been amazing. I mean we have pretty much lost our livingroom but she gets to crawl around safely and she can pull herself up safely too. Its just amazing how one little person has so much stuff 😂

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Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:24

ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:19

Its not that I dont care but it has been a godsend to allow me to do stuff. I do feel guilty putting on ms rachel at times. But its not so I can pop my feet up and crack open the prosecco. Its to allow me to cook and clean kitchen! Heaven forbid.

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Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:20

movinghomeadvice · 11/04/2026 01:37

I wouldn’t be giving a phone to watch miss rachel at that age. I was still wearing mine in the baby sling/carrier when they got fussy at that age. Is that a possibility?
I’ve always struggled to cook with a child under 2 around, so I meal prep and do a lot of slow cooker meals.
I never had a playpen with any of mine.

There's nothing wrong with a playpen, it's really sensible that age.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:19

Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:15

My owna opinion about the toys felt irrational to me! I feel much clearer about the phone screen time. But why would you care about my opinion on morning coffee if you're not listening to the science on the phone screen time?

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Its not that I dont care but it has been a godsend to allow me to do stuff. I do feel guilty putting on ms rachel at times. But its not so I can pop my feet up and crack open the prosecco. Its to allow me to cook and clean kitchen! Heaven forbid.

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Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:15

ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:08

So instead of your opinion. Your going to tell me what was published last week? Ive already looked at that, thanks. Plus I wasnt asking for opinions on entertaining whilst I cook and do housework in kitchen. Morning coffee was what I asked. Mind u I have had some good suggestions and am going to use baby monitor tomorrow when I cook

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My owna opinion about the toys felt irrational to me! I feel much clearer about the phone screen time. But why would you care about my opinion on morning coffee if you're not listening to the science on the phone screen time?

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:08

Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:06

I didnt say she was watching TV.

How long is she watching the phone while you cook? That's the bit that is not good, based on last week's report on screen time for young children.

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So instead of your opinion. Your going to tell me what was published last week? Ive already looked at that, thanks. Plus I wasnt asking for opinions on entertaining whilst I cook and do housework in kitchen. Morning coffee was what I asked. Mind u I have had some good suggestions and am going to use baby monitor tomorrow when I cook

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Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:06

ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:03

She isnt watching the tv at all. Playing with her toys etc. I know this for a fact as I am watching her and sometimes she has her back to the tv while playing with toys.

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I didnt say she was watching TV.

How long is she watching the phone while you cook? That's the bit that is not good, based on last week's report on screen time for young children.

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ILoveFatFaceSocks · 11/04/2026 02:06

Mulledjuice · 11/04/2026 02:00

You cant be constantly looking at her and at the TV.

How long is she watching Ms Rachel on the phone while you cook

Big difference between 30 and 60 mins in the playpen while you watch TV in my head. I'm interested in other's responses.

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If even that.......
Just because tv on doesnt mean I dont take my eyes off it. Sometimes it ends up being background noise whilst I just my coffee while I am staring at my baby. I dont know, max time 45mins. But I am doing housework in the kitchen. That isnt everyday. Max time on an average day is probably 20mins. Sometimes dad will take her whilst I cook but that isn't everyday. Everyday is different.

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