10 month old DH said i am being lazy.

No harm at all
He is a dick and the holier than thous here are too. She is fed safe loved cared for ect you are doing great.

My God! The level of competitive parenting on here is insane! Take absolutely zero notice of it OP - make the most of your relaxed start to the day because in no time at all you'll be back at work and having to get up at the crack of dawn to do everything you need to do before you can leave the house.

As for your DH, I'd ask him to detail a daily parenting schedule for when he is doing 50/50 post divorce as that is what will happen if he doesn't shut the fuck up. And I'd also arrange a solo parenting day for him sooner, rather than later!

Baby is fine, husband is a bone idle dumdum.

Your dh is an arsehole

I voted YABU and you are asking why so I am happy to explain why I voted this way. I was the same, exactly the same when my twins were 10 months. I watched tv in front of them when they played in playpen and let them watch some when I had to do something. I regret it soooo deeply. At 1 year old development check I was concerned at the lack of certain milestones and skills. The doctors told me ‚zero tv from now on, no excuses. Really don’t do that’. And we stopped completely. The difference I saw within a week was astounding. They walked within 2 weeks, babbled almost immediately and so much curiosity and desire to discover the world. I wish I never let it go so long. The brain is so elastic at that age, especially up until 2 years old and every interaction/ play/ book etc helps with their development. If you can, give it a try. I don’t think you are doing a bad job at all, in fact you sound like a wonderful Mama!

Honestly don't worry about this. One of mine switched to waking every 3 hours and actually didnt sleep through til he was 3 in the end. Now he looks like a rugby line backer so it all made sense in the end 😁. All babies are different. Don't let people sleep shame you!

Or the Aunt Lydias.

I don’t think lazy is a fair description. You do a lot. But personally I don’t like play pens and the amount of screen time and I think dh is allowed to vocalise his thoughts, but could frame this as concern for his child rather than an attack.

oh god! I have a 7 month old and we do very similar in the mornings- feed, change, then downstairs I will either put her on the floor surrounded by cushions (she can sit but sometimes wobbles) and put her toys infront of her and she will happily play whilst I make my breakfast. Sometimes she will go in the jumperoo for ten minutes or her walker and watch me in the kitchen. He’s insane for thinking you need to be constantly entertaining them every minute of the day

The mornings sound fine to me. A nice chilled start for both of you, and some independent play for her.
I'd try to do without the screen in the high chair if possible though.

I had a tiny kitchen when mine were small. We baby proofed the hall and put gates on the kitchen door, stairs etc. Essentially turned the hall into a play pen. Quick easy meals only. I used to wash/tidy up once she was in bed.

DC could then watch me cook and I could watch them play. My eldest was a proper wriggler so could get out of the high chair straps and then stand on the tray at 9 months!

The first time I realised she was an escapologist I'd left her in the high chair to grab some washing up from the dining room and come back to find her half wriggled out of the bottom of the high chair... She's nearly 17 now so survived, but that was not my finest parenting moment!

I know right. Easy to spot the men on the thread isn't it.

I just saw this!! Some people eh?!😂

Youre doing nothing wrong OP, sounds like you have a lovely routine. Your DH though sounds a prick. Don't let him make you doubt yourself and dont let him speak to you critically in front of your child. They are only 10 months now but soon they will understand. I would nip that in the bud right now. Did he actually say 'is mummy having a day off' because even reading that makes me want to punch him in the face, and I'm a practising Buddhist 😂. He sounds like an absolute tool.

Sounds like you are doing a great job OP xx

WHAT?? wow

He said I have no reason to need a break first thing in morning and what is that teaching her etc.

What is having an overly critical dad going to teach her about men, eh?! If daddy isn't the one to give her the milk, the porridge and the attention throughout the day but he still feels justified in openly bossing mummy around, what is that going to do to her?

My dc watched CBeebies when they were little and they’re fine - I hate all this reductive bullshit around pregnancy and babies which treats all mothers as completely fucking stupid. We must tell them to watch 0 tv otherwise all they will do is sit their kids in front of Game of Thrones for 18 hours a day. Support for this 24/7 requirement to be a hands on mother? 0.

My dm who is in her 70s talks about tv and films she watched as a child, I don’t understand how far back we’re going to find these ‘perfect’ screen free childhoods, Victorian times? 😁

I think the only thing to do is say Yes, mummy is have a day off, it's daddy's turn. Walk out. Don't return till bedtime, then criticise everything he hasn't been able to do. No one appreciates what you do until you don't do it.

Why can't she have what you and DH are eating? My DC had what we had most of the time as much as possible?

Where is your DH while you are cooking dinner and cleaning the kitchen? Can't he play with DD or take turns to cook?

I do think you both need to start sleep training her. Time and effort now for a better bedtime routine to give you your evenings back will be worth it in the long run.

I see no issue with you having a coffee first thing. I didn't have a play pen and my DC would just play in the floor in front of me or crawl around the room so sounds similar to your DD.

I do think you need to leave the TV off though. While she might not yet be watching it she's aware and it's habit forming. Either enjoy the quiet or put some music on/radio on.

Tell him to feck off

I am just in awe that you have a 10 month old dh and he can talk!!

He's jealous.

So are a lot of mums on this thread by the sound of it. Honestly, you sound like a great Mum.

If he has a problem with the way you parent, he should speak to you away from your DD. I would nip that in the bud, soon she'll be old enough to understanding what he's saying and it's so unnecessary and confusing for a young child.

Enjoy it. My first played happily alone, if the baby wasn’t happy she’d let you know. My second wouldn’t entertain himself for a minute. Enjoy your beautiful calm baby, who enjoys her time with her toy.

Not strictly true.