10 month old DH said i am being lazy.

It may sound odd but look at amazon for dementia toys. They are often cheaper a do ones that can be clipped to adults wrist etc, so can easily attach to stuff with press studs. Also slip mats are great on highchair tables under the sensory tray, makes it harder for them to knock it on floor.

Mine was on permanently when mine were little, either cbeebies, whatever I was watching whilst he's I drank my coffee or music videos whilst I pottered around to get jobs done whilst they played with their toys or laid on the playmat.

When they got older they used to request a specific song based on the video and they would jump around having fun.

Doesn't seem to have done them any harm, at 8 and 10 they can walk, talk, read, write and are don't fine at school.

This is a great idea.

I think you are doing a great job. Parenting is the hardest job in the world and people are so judgmental about it. The Ms Rachel thing is fine as she is probably just hearing the noise and not bothered by the screen. To find out just turn her chair the other way so she can't see the screen. Then you will have your answer. Play pens are great and much safer than having a loose baby crawling when you have to leave the room. Plus it has taught her to play on her own and not need adult interaction all the time.

Well done to you for finding a way to have a bit of rest before you start a busy day. Most men have zero idea what looking after a baby/toddler entails and how exhausting it all is.

Does he never have a coffee break? Bet he gets his lunch in peace too…

You are choosing to have your rest at a time that works. Baby is in a good mood and happy playing. It’s also a good skill to develop for them - playing on their own

The only thing I’d switch is the screen whilst you are cooking. I think it’s a bit of a trap to fall in to and they are still very young. You don’t want screens to be the only thing that keeps them quiet. So I’d also do toys in the high chair.

Eventually we want kids to be ok with being a bit bored at times. So when they are older they need to be able to sit in a restaurant without a screen. So I would limit use until older and in specific situations.

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New government guidance is for no screen time for under 2s unless an interactive activity (eg sitting together and looking at pictures on your phone). If you add up the exposure to the tv in the morning plus ms Rachel whenever you’re cooking - seems like quite a bit.

You asked what you were doing wrong.
I do indeed know Ms Rachel. I have 4 grandkids and foster child who has SEN including non verbal and they love her.
Kids learn to cry very quickly for things they want, even if I was wrong, which I was so I apologise, it wasn't meant to come across as a dig at you. Sorry again.
It sounds like you were perfectly happy until your dh questioned you.
I also have no problems with play pens.

Baby seems quite happy entertaining themselves and its good that you have one that can.

Yep. This is an underrated skill op.

I never understand when people say their babies/dc cannot entertain themselves as our were good at it - but then it was something I prioritised as I think it is when the best learning happens.

Blocks, train sets, stacking cups ... all those old fashioned toys are brilliant for this

It doesn't matter... it still counts toward screen time for her. But you need to stop focusing on what other people think and sort out your husband.

As I said, I wasn't judging you despite your, you know best comments. I have kids which are now adults and 2 of which are ND, so I wouldn't judge any parent trying to get through early years.
As I said, if you are happy with s reen time, which you obviously are, then it's only DH's problem and he can do something about it.
If she doesn't like being restricted, could you get a smaller play pen in kitchen so she's not in high chair until last minute? When a bit older maybe a play kitchen so she can 'cook' with you?
If you are happy with everything and it's just you feel like your dh is having a dig, then tell him that he is making you feel like shit, and it's making you question your parenting.

Would you like a cookie?

I used to love doing thks when my daughter was young. It’s such a lovely non rush start to the morning. I have two now and never get to it!

Absolutely nothing wrong with it at all.

Mums these days are expected to be all singing, all dancing, entertainers and educators from the minute they get out of bloody bed! The pressure to constantly be 'doing something' with baby and giving them 100% attention all day is ridiculous.

Honestly, having your downtime in the morning is fine and if it makes you a better Mum for the rest of the day then so what? Baby seems quite happy entertaining themselves and its good that you have one that can. Don't feel bad about having some time to collect your thoughts for the day and enjoy a coffee before the busy day begins.

Ignore all the negative comments mentioning screen time too. Sometimes its needed so you can get stuff done and as long as baby isn't plonked in front of the TV all day it won't do them any harm.

It’s ok to be lazy sometimes anyway, being a human being doesn’t mean you have to be productive and slaving away all day, nothing wrong with resting, relaxing or making life easier for yourself.

She has screen time for an hour in the morning and whilst you're cooking.
If she cries for Ms Rachel, this is learnt behaviour.
She has more than the recommended screen time for her age.
I am not against screen time for kids and I don't agree in judging parents trying to cope.
Be realistic with yourself about the amount of screen time you are giving her. Then if you're happy, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
If you DH doesn't like it then he can take her off screen time and do something with her.