To tell/not tell family after cousin hit BF with scooter? Both don’t want me to

If all he did was sit in a seat (sounds like there wasn’t another????) and then refuse to move.

im not sure thats that bad?
I’d have made mine sit on the floor or my lap or get another chair at that age.

💯 % tell your aunt befpre he kill’s someone, if you don’t and this happens you’ll feel even worse and actually condoning the behaviour, the boy needs help.

re your bf, 23… if he don’t want to go hospital that’s his problem he’s an adult, personally I’d kick him out for the night though as if he decides to expire from head injury it’s not your problem. Also sounds like a bit of a dick, so my advice is to kick him out for good - they only get worse.

Dont surround yourself with angry males, of any age, put yourself first.

You should really tell your aunty. Because your cousin in the wrong for reacting like that. And for your bf really getting rude to your cousin. You should of back your cousin and ended it from there.

You should really tell your aunty. Because your cousin in the wrong for reacting like that. And for your bf really getting rude to your cousin. You should of back your cousin and ended it from there.

Need to tell your cousin's mother. Also need to probably ditch your boyfriend if he gets kicks out of winding up nine year olds

Hospital.
Tell cousins parents.

I'm not excusing the boys behaviour at all. It's bloody extreme and "anger issues" doesnt cover what he did. Clearly the boy and his parents need help with hos behaviour.

I was asking whether OP had witnessed all the interactions beforehand, as OP states they are not 'happy' with the BF. It just sounds like there might be more that triggered the cousin.

He is a grown up?

He shouldn't struggle to say it, it's what happened.

And he got battered out of the blue by a 9 yr old boy USING A SCOOTER. Of course that's going to hurt, and cause some damage.

A 9 yr old throwing a punch at an adult - different story.

OP - you did the right thing in telling your aunt.

You had a duty of care towards your cousin as he is a child and you were the adult present. A duty of care involves telling the parent of any dangerous or disordered behaviour and it is absolutely not a normal reaction to hit someone in the face with a metal object, twice, and then deliberately stamp on them. Any parent would want to know what had happened in such an incident.

So given all that, it wasn't your BF's decision as to whether your aunt was told.

Your BF is an adult and can make his own decision about going to A&E - it's good that he went - but either way you do not call an ambulance for a swollen wrist. Unless there is bone poking out through the skin or uncontrolled bleeding.

I hope your aunt is able to address your cousin's behaviour and get to the bottom of why he reacts so violently, I hope your BF has suffered no serious damage and I hope your BF realises how nasty he was, and that his behaviour was out of order even if the only reaction had been your cousin looking sad.

Agreed, it's concerning that the mother was directing blame at the boyfriend.

I wonder if he's seeing violence or rages in the home or if he's on the receiving end of them.

If she's a good mum then she should get him help, I know she will be concerned that he'll get in trouble but with early intervention she may be able to prevent this from escalating. I know a mother who was concerned her son was a psychopath and brought him for assessments and therapy etc.

If he does end up being extremely violent and dangerous when he's older the parents will be to blame for not getting him help and doing their best to give him a chance. It's not like he can take himself off to a therapist or interventions. It's the parents job to do so.

Please tell us that your bf is in A&E, and that no lies were told as to how his injuries were sustained. The BF might have been rude, but your cousin's reaction is really worrying and authorities should be aware.

Must have been the victim’s fault, right? You don’t think this little shit would have piped up about it being something else when his mum was told about it? Some people are just violent psychos and yes, it usually starts in childhood. And the OP has said the cousin has anger issues generally.

@Zanygreenan we're you with them the whole time, to be sure thats all you BF said/did the entire time your cousin was there?

For you, your aunt to not be happy with him, and your cousins extreme reaction, it sounds like it may have been more than something being said in a 'mean way'.

BF is an adult
If be doesn't want to go to A&E you can't force him

"hope this incident makes him reflect that he just can’t casually be a dick."

Right so if it was a female f getting battered , she should also reflect that she can't be a dick / bitch whatever. Guess they were asking for it?

Sounds like victim blaming to me....

Christ, who rattled your cage. Take a pill.

Yeah, fuck accuracy! Let's all just make it up as we go along 😄

I’m not saying he has to lie but a man is going to struggle to say I got battered by a 9 year old.

Oooh yay let’s victim blame and invent a whole back story about how he deserved to be hit with a scooter. Wonder if you’d be saying the same if OP was the one that the cousin lamped. Or maybe his mum. Some kids are vicious thugs, like this one. I hope for the love of God that the mum takes it seriously or we might be reading about her in ten years time, as we did with Angela Shellis. From the way that she directed her annoyance at the boyfriend though, I doubt that very much and this horrible boy will continue to harm people.

He absolutely should NOT lie to anyone "to protect your cousin".

The police need to be informed.

This was a serious violent assault with very little provocation by a 9 yr old child on a 23 yr old man!

@Kokonimater
most likely he doesn’t want anyone to know he was attacked by a 9yr old thug, stop looking for excuses for the child who could have killed him.

That might be reasonable advice for a possible broken wrist. It's not reasonable advice for multiple serious head injuries.

It seems odd that your boyfriend does not want you to tell anyone.

Has he got something to hide? Did something happen between your cousin and your boyfriend when you were not present?

A head injury impairs judgement. Fairly recent proticol is that the emergency services take over care, using guidance, rather than allowing the patient to refuse treatment. This was after deaths, because people were allowed to say they felt fine. It's also why we don't allow boxers to decide to carry on. However, the BF accepted that he needed to get himself checked out.
@Zanygreenan your BF is happy to take advantage of someone he thinks he's physically stronger than, you need to think about that. The boys parents should be using this incident to get their son help. He will soon be able to be criminally charged and events will take over.