To tell/not tell family after cousin hit BF with scooter? Both don’t want me to

1. bf can decide what to do about his injuries. (I suggest hospital.)
2. children need to put up with adults taking their chair, I’m afraid, and being told to do things.
3. bf didn’t retaliate but the next person your young cousin hits might do, and then a huge horrible fight develop. That is partly why you tell your aunt. Your cousin needs to be reined in and punished in some way for this attack.

I, like any parent, would want to know about this behaviour and it wouldn't be a shock because it will be happening at home. Evidence of outside is essential to get support.

You will never know how screwed up this comment is.

You really must tell his mother. Perhaps nothing will 'happen' to him... BUT... and it IS a big but, a boy exactly like this was in my daughter's class at school. Nice enough little lad, but if you dared to annoy him, he blew up just like your cousin. The other members of his family were absolutely lovely, and his mother was close to despair over him (it was the 90s, there wasn't much (any) help around for children who didn't fit the 'norm'.
That little lad is now in jail for murder.
Think on, and please do the right thing.
As for your BF, get rid. Anyone who is mean to kids has no place in my life, and shouldn't have in yours

1. BF needs hospital to check for concussion
2. You need to tell your aunt. He hit your BF with a weapon, repeatedly. Then stamped on his wrist. Thats an assult and someone needs to teach your cousin consequences before he ends up arrested.

Your cousin is not nice. He is a violent thug. Stop excusing violence.

Don't be ridiculous.
It was such a minor event to take his chair and tell him to go and play somewhere else (mean tone or not)......until the child decided to whack him across the face with a scooter.

Absolutely no need for such ridiculous exaggeration, would you say the same if he hit a 70 year old man across the face with a scooter? Sometimes older people can be very rude to kids and have very little tolerance for them. Would you see it as him squaring up and baiting him?

You're minimizing what this boy did by trying to claim his actions were in response to intense provocation ie bullying, squaring up and baiting, when that is not what happened at all.

bit shocked you even considered calling an ambulance they are there for folks who cant walk or are unconscious not for people who can sit in a car

very shocked that you normalise this violence and think an apology makes it all ok

I was very ready to say don’t get involved until I read the post, this kid has some serious issues and needs to be sorted, this will escalate and he will do something worse to someone else, likely another child. I think your boyfriend prob just wanted the house to yourselves and prob annoyed a 9 year old little shit had imposed on this. But prob needs to grow up a bit,

@Zanygreenan
So we are 24 hours on from the event.
Did your BF go to hospital? How is he? How's his head and wrist?

Have you heard anything from your aunt?

FYI - if this boy had been just slightly older he would be being done for ABH.
Absolutely appalling behaviour. I hope no one is minimising what he has done

Yes of course you must tell! That is some seriously violent behaviour.

Also I cannot believe that the level of violence your nephew used can in any way be excused by someone being a bit mean to him.

This is massive. Of course you tell his mother.

You're making absolutely no sense. Try again.

This OP gave me the chills. When DS was in Y5 a child in his year attacked a teacher in a similar way (just without the scooter) and the whole school had to go in lockdown as he then went on a rampage. He had the teacher pinned to the floor and was punching and stamping on her. It was horrendous, DS was traumatised as he witnessed it all. It took us a lot of nurturing and a while before he could shake it off. He had nightmares - and he is a pretty tough kid usually.

The child is still in mainstream school (now Y7) but is in a specialist unit as he has tried it again in High School, I fear he will always have that red switch, DS and his mates keep well away from him as they are all still scared of him. They won't forget what they witnessed.

Your BF was a dick but that is as far as I will go on that - nothing deserves what happened to him, I'm not surprised he doesnt want anyone to know - believe it or not he is probably also traumatised.

Your cousin needs urgent intervention. I agree that a short sharp shock visit from the police wouldn't go amiss.

This 💯

"I know! Many scorned women on here will always find a way to hate or blame the man in any situation. Quite frankly is desperate and pathetic."

Well sone women argue that it is ok for women to be violent as they are not as strong as men so it's not dangerous. I suppose it is then hard to argue the violence from a prepubescent child is an issue..

For your cousin's sake please tell your aunt. I'd also be considering telling his school as something is seriously wrong if he is 9 and resorting to this sort of extreme violence.

Your BF sounds very immature as well.

I think you are ridiculous for even considering calling an ambulance for someone with a minor injury . If you don’t drive just get the bus . Ambulances are for emergencies.

And to everyone saying he isn’t a nice boy, he actually is. Having anger issues doesn’t mean he isn’t nice in general.

The type of anger issues your cousin is exhibiting will probably lead to a very long stint at His Majesties Pleasure fairly soon, unless addressed straight away. I am not sure why you are dismissing the level of violence he used, that is a seriously abnormal level of violence for the average 9 yr old. What on earth has happened in his life ?

Your cousin said sorry so it's ok then until he permanently injured someone but keep making excuses.

This is insane, in the normal world, when you get up, that means the chair is up for grabs. That isn't bullying. Get a grip!

He was actually bullying the 9 year old, taking his chair, refusing to give it back, and using a mean tone. It was squaring up and baiting in a macho culture.

Bless you, you evidently missed the part where I said that my comment was regarding op saying,
’I’ve popped into BF and his wrist has swollen a bit more and he can’t move it so I’ve told him I’m either going to call the ambulance or take him to A+E so we’ve decided to take him there’.
Hope that your has been bright and cheery.

Having anger issues doesn’t mean he isn’t nice in general. He told me he was sorry just before they left

I am sure he is a nice boy at heart but having such a hair trigger rage response, that was also extremely violent, means something is seriously wrong. He may have suffered trauma or abuse, or he may have SEN. He needs some sort of help.