I received a wedding invitation a while ago and the RSVP date is coming up so need to reply.
I want to say no because it says “Mrs John Smith and Mrs Bob Jones have the pleasure of inviting you to…” These are the B&G’s mothers, their first names are not John and Bob.
Also, it seems like a very posh do and I’m afraid me and DP might stand out and not in a good way. This isn’t any kind of reverse snobbery, just being objective.
Also (this might be the most relevant part) I haven’t really seen any of my extended family for 20ish years, since they disapproved of ExH for racist/cultural/religious reasons. I’ve built up my life without them and although I’m sorry for how things are I didn’t really have a choice back then.
So my AIBU is:
YABU: go to the wedding, build bridges, etc. Cousin getting married was a young child and had no influence on her parents, aunts and uncles reaction to ExH.
YANBU: stay home, you’re doing ok as you are. No need for any bridge building.