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DH doesn’t want me to take pain relief for a better diagnosis

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nevermatchtoesandfingers · 10/04/2026 13:02

I have Endo and Adeno, currently swapping gynae. Not happy with my current treatment path. Next step before another referral is an internal ultrasound (again) as part of the pre referral obs. They are extremely painful for me due to the Adeno So I planned to take some Valium and codiene before so it wouldn’t hurt. He thought that was wrong and are currently not talking because he thought my strategy to avoid paid wouldn’t give them them the best diagnosis. Please assure me he is 1000000000% in the wrong ai

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SugarPuffSandwiches · 10/04/2026 13:13

What's the random ai on the end of your post mean?
YABU to ask MN - since when does it matter what your husband thinks about pain relief for you?
It's not his body, is it?!

BillieWiper · 10/04/2026 13:13

Well if you've got access to valium and codeine that sounds like a very sensible time to take it.

He sounds absurd and what business is it of his what you put inside your body? And how the hell would he know how it feels to have pain in parts of the body he doesn't even posses?

It sounds misogynistic almost.

PragmaticIsh · 10/04/2026 13:13

How is this ANY of his business at all?! Jeez, I'd be telling him to go fuck himself.

Burntt · 10/04/2026 13:13

The test is the ultrasound not wether or not it hurt you.

also it’s your body not his

Musicalmistress · 10/04/2026 13:12

I don’t understand his logic - how does avoiding pain relief allow for a better ultrasound? It doesn’t at all, you’d be squirming around and even more tense so the whole process would be more difficult for both you and the practitioner and ultimately more painful/stressful for you - for what? So they can see how much pain you’re in? Does he think they wouldn’t believe you when you’ve told them?
I simply can’t get my head around why he would want an exploratory medical procedure to be any more painful and stressful for you than need be!?!

outerspacepotato · 10/04/2026 13:11

Ask the doctor about pain medication pre procedure.

Is your husband a doctor? If so, he should leave your pre procedure care to your doctor. If not, he's not your doctor and you can ignore his fucking shit.

Women are so under medicated for pain during a lot of painful medical procedures it's fucking ridiculous and he can shove his views on pain meds up his ass and I hope it hurts.

toomuchfaff · 10/04/2026 13:09

Pay no attention to such drivel about pain relief and medications unless you actually forgot to mention his MD status and his professional knowledge about your case.

Go and check with the actual qualified MEDICAL professionals associated with your case.

TeflonBoot · 10/04/2026 13:09

He is talking shite

Fast800goingforit · 10/04/2026 13:06

For an internal ultrasound? How would not taking pain relief change the outcome? You know your own body and I'd just be wary about the codeine if you find it constipates you as this might potentially make it more difficult to get the images needed.

ProseccoPie · 10/04/2026 13:05

He’s absolutely wrong!
Theres no way an ultrasound can be done well if you’re wriggling around because you are stressed and on pain. The operator needs you to be relaxed, still and co operative
Good luck.
Your husband is an arse!

Credittocress · 10/04/2026 13:04

As the doctor or practitioner before the appointment whether you can take something, not mumsnet