DH doesn’t want me to take pain relief for a better diagnosis

This idiot needs to keep his opinion to himself.

He’s 100% in the wrong
its like saying don’t take painkillers before an MRI of your back - it’s not going to affect anything at all
i have adenomyosis and stage 4 DIE and took painkillers before mine as I was on my period when they scanned me

He sounds stupid and controlling

I perform transvaginal ultrasounds. Take the painkiller if you want one. I completely assure you it will not make the slightest difference to the results of the scan

You are clearly not asking, seriously, if he is right?

Just tell him to fuck off and if you want his opinion you will ask for it.

Your husband may be a sadist. He is definitely a moron.

Forgive me but this is one decision you should be making, it has nothing to do with him !

WTH - he’s not talking to you because you want to make decisions about your body.

Utter tosser. Does he have form for being a controlling prick?

An internal ultrasound is 'looking' for something, not assessing your pain.

I've had gas and air for some gynae examinations!

If your communication style is 'not speaking' rather than 'giving some space' you have a problem. If he is not speaking to you, I suggest he has an internal ultrasound himself!

I took valium/diazepam before my most recent ultrasounds for post-menopausal bleeding. (Phoned and checked with the department beforehand.)

Tell your DH to stick a probe up his penis without pain relief.

Your husband is wrong.

It’s not like a celiac disease test where you need to continue eating gluten (even if it causes pain and diarrhea etc )for the test to be accurate. Taking pain meds won’t mask adeno and endo.

If you’re not confident check with a medical professional.

He wants the best outcome for you. But in this case he’s wildly wrong.

I have endo/ando.

I think I understand what your husband is trying to say, and it's probably well intended, albeit inaccurate.

Any internal ultrasound isn't being carried out to assess pain. It's being carried out to see if there is anything causing the pain, scaring, tissue, masses etc.

I had subsequent procedues where I was advised not to take pain meducation in advance as they were trying to determine the impact and pain levels so if it was one of those procedures, he would have a point.

An ultra sound doesn't assess pain so he's wrong in this instance.

I would give him the benefit of the doubt. He's trying to be helpful but doesn't understand the procedures.

When did your dh get his medical qualification?. If it's never tell him to stfu.

What the actual fuck, has it got to do with him? Does he try and control other parts of your life?

Not only is it nothing to do with him but he’s completely wrong. Which is actually beside the point.

You've got a lot on at the moment, so now might not be the time. But it sounds like you need to have a careful think about his behaviour, and what the dynamic is like usually.

The only thing DH would be worrying about would be me, how to make it as easy and comfortable as possible. He wouldn't be having a strop about something he knows fuck all about.

I hope it all goes ok.

No uterus, no opinion

He thought that was wrong and are currently not talking because he thought my strategy to avoid paid wouldn’t give them them the best diagnosis.

The silent treatment is a form of abuse. He's abusing you because you want pain relief during a medical procedure and he thinks he can manipulate you into doing what he says. He's controlling.

He's trying to insert himself into your medical care and dictate what you can and can't do with your body. Also controlling and abusive.

Again, reach out to your doctor and ask about pre procedure pain relief. You might also talk to them about your husband's behaviours trying to control your body. These are some real red flags he's flying.

I mean, ultimately, you’ll have to check with your dr it’s ok to take those meds.

But I don’t see how they could affect your scan, as the scan isn’t measuring pain.

Your husband’s attitude sounds worryingly misogynistic tbh - like he wants you to be in pain.

He stopped speaking to you because you are contemplating using pain relief? Time to spend some time on the Women's Aid website and see if any of the other abusive behaviours ring a bell.

Your husband clearly doesn't have a clue what the appointment is for or how the diagnosis process works. Scans are designed to find physical problems underlying the pain, if they didn't believe the pain was real you wouldn't have been referred for the scan.

Enjoy him not talking to you while it lasts, and good luck with the scan.

Does he think that pain killers remove the thing causing pain and therefore nothing will show up on the scan? And the endo will reform and readhere when the paracetamol wears off?

Or does he think that you won't be believed if you aren't screaming in agony? And does this mean he either doesn't believe you or thinks you're exaggerating?

Possibly AIBU ?

Only you, and your dr get to tell you what meds you take and how, and not your partner @nevermatchtoesandfingers I hope the scan goes as well as it can 💐

Your husband is an idiot. A really stupid idiot.

That’s all you need to know.

I'm not sure how a pain killer or a benzo is going to change the physical structures inside your abdomen which the ultrasound is looking at. I don't think the ultrasound tech will report on your level of pain or discomfort during the scan. Or if they mentioned it, how much influence that would have over the physical findings of the scan. But I'm not a medic so what do I know? Equally what do you or your DH know?
So yes, give the clinic a phone and ask for medical advice on it.

He's not talking to you though??