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What do you find hot in a man? What do you think men like on a woman? Lighthearted Friday chat 🤷‍♀️

243 replies

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 12:08

In a man:
Muscles
Height (sorry)
Aura - are they strong or weak?

I think straight men notice:
Skin (does it have that dewy look)
Shape
How much you care for yourself (manicure, hair, etc)

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freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 22:06

landlordhell · 10/04/2026 22:05

My taste in men- Tall( over 6ft), clean, polite, kind, calm.
DH likes a pretty face and a fun spirit

I think theres something to be said for men liking a fun outgoing spirit in women 🤔

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landlordhell · 10/04/2026 22:05

My taste in men- Tall( over 6ft), clean, polite, kind, calm.
DH likes a pretty face and a fun spirit

Cel77 · 10/04/2026 22:03

Wit
Eyes
Mannerisms and body language
Voice
Smell

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 22:02

DollydaydreamTheThird · 10/04/2026 21:52

I've never had manicures or even done them myself but I've not been short on men. I think that is bollocks. Not all men want a barbie doll. I think most are genuinely looking at boobs, legs and bums. Personality is obviously important as well not that anyone on this thread is mentioning that. You're making men seem as shallow as anything! 🤣🤣🤣

I dunno why the manicure comment is getting so many people's backs up?! 😄😄😄

I mean - are your nails neat and clean? Are they filed nicely? You dont have odd length, unkempt nails, do you? That's what I mean

Kind of like you take good care of yourself and arent at all scruffy?

Ofc personality is important - but its looks i'm concerned with today 🤷‍♀️

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DollydaydreamTheThird · 10/04/2026 21:52

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 12:20

Really?

Maybe straight men like them clean and neat though?

I've never had manicures or even done them myself but I've not been short on men. I think that is bollocks. Not all men want a barbie doll. I think most are genuinely looking at boobs, legs and bums. Personality is obviously important as well not that anyone on this thread is mentioning that. You're making men seem as shallow as anything! 🤣🤣🤣

Carpedementia · 10/04/2026 21:50

Someone you can talk to for hours without noticing time go by, that you get on with and that you have a laugh with, both for men and women.

BitOutOfPractice · 10/04/2026 21:49

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:02

And when you question someone's age because they harmlessly post about something trivial, youre gonna get a meme telling you where to go - bringing down the vibe with YOUR aura

#unwatch

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:48

HelenaWaiting · 10/04/2026 21:40

Oh, I'll take that. I thought I'd bored him to death 🤣

Definitely not! Even for a non car person, someone doing that is interesting at the very least! I'd find it cool myself, but i filled up the windscreen washer thing and was extremely proud 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🙈

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HelenaWaiting · 10/04/2026 21:40

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 19:33

I'm not gonna lie girl, he came to the conclusion that you were a lesbian 😩😩

Oh, I'll take that. I thought I'd bored him to death 🤣

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:25

whereareallthegods · 10/04/2026 21:19

Quite right, good rule to follow. I have to say he doesn’t care if I get my hair or nails done though!

That is good - you want your husband not to care about these things 🙌

I do think the average man is attracted to a woman who takes care of herself

That includes having your hair and nails done (nothing super long or anything, but neat)

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whereareallthegods · 10/04/2026 21:19

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:14

Two dogs - married!

I dont make the rules 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Quite right, good rule to follow. I have to say he doesn’t care if I get my hair or nails done though!

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:14

whereareallthegods · 10/04/2026 21:07

Fair point. But, my DH walks both our Pom AND our retriever off lead, together. That might confuse you 🤣🤣🤣

Two dogs - married!

I dont make the rules 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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whereareallthegods · 10/04/2026 21:07

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 20:32

If hes walking a pomeranian, I'd assume hes married or gay and not look twice

If hes walking a golden retriever/labrador off lead though ..

Fair point. But, my DH walks both our Pom AND our retriever off lead, together. That might confuse you 🤣🤣🤣

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:06

Or... David Haye - as of a minute ago

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freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:03

TheNameWasOnceChosen · 10/04/2026 20:48

Slim with muscles, dark hair, blue eyes and shorter than me, if my exes are anything to go by.

I'm 5'11 and exes were 5'7 and 5'8.

Did you not find it awkward being out with them and kissing them? 👀

Genuine question, not being rude?

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freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 21:02

BitOutOfPractice · 10/04/2026 20:47

Well piss off yerself Gordon. I mean, when you communicate in memes the question has to be asked. It’s hard to judge your aura 😳

And when you question someone's age because they harmlessly post about something trivial, youre gonna get a meme telling you where to go - bringing down the vibe with YOUR aura

Go Away GIF by Bounce
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Arlanymor · 10/04/2026 20:49

Blimms · 10/04/2026 12:09

Intelligence, integrity and a good moral compass.

First post nails it as per usual and I would add that I love arms, lower arms, the bits that hold you in a cwtch, that's shallow but it is also true for me.

TheNameWasOnceChosen · 10/04/2026 20:48

Slim with muscles, dark hair, blue eyes and shorter than me, if my exes are anything to go by.

I'm 5'11 and exes were 5'7 and 5'8.

BitOutOfPractice · 10/04/2026 20:47

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 20:31

I'm a grown adult thank you very much!

Well piss off yerself Gordon. I mean, when you communicate in memes the question has to be asked. It’s hard to judge your aura 😳

Dymaxion · 10/04/2026 20:44

Generous, and by this I don't mean showering me in gifts, if anything its more about being generous in spirit.
Someone who is optimistic, glass half full type.
Sense of humour similar to my own.
Ability to think critically.
Physically ? relatively clean ticks my boxes, otherwise I don't really have a type as such. Although I don't particularly like men with no body hair, much prefer the hirsute male, massive muscles personally don't do much for me either.
A fully fledged adult.
Not misogynistic.

JHound · 10/04/2026 20:43

Firesidechatter · 10/04/2026 17:03

I do find this argument odd though, it’s like the posters have never met an intelligent woman who is in a happy relationship. A doctor, lawyer.dentist, vet. Banker, business manager. They think all intelligent women are single

its utter nonsense, and I’d even hazard a guess we all know couples were the woman seems way smarter than the man.

Talking about commonly recognised things and also what the results of studies show is not saying not one single man on the planet finds intelligence attractive (although I would assessing intelligence by their ability in one field is odd.)

JHound · 10/04/2026 20:41

Firesidechatter · 10/04/2026 16:59

That’s different to wanting a woman less intelligent, wanting an equal is normal for both genders.

The studies say otherwise but equally women have no issue with a man being more intelligent than she is.

JHound · 10/04/2026 20:40

Illegally18 · 10/04/2026 16:58

Men don't want a woman who is more intelligent than themselves.

Or even too intelligent.

yikesss · 10/04/2026 20:32

Consistency

freedomformeismotherhood · 10/04/2026 20:32

whereareallthegods · 10/04/2026 20:25

Maybe? If it’s a “look how hard I am” ears cropped massive breed? Perhaps not. If it’s a well trained dog or even better, a teeny, tiny dog? I’m in. It takes a man very secure in his sexuality to walk a Pomeranian called “Elle” and pull it off 🤣🤣

If hes walking a pomeranian, I'd assume hes married or gay and not look twice

If hes walking a golden retriever/labrador off lead though ..

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