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Shocked by what my BF did to me

212 replies

Catchase1 · 09/04/2026 19:17

This happened at the weekend but has kind of dragged on to the week. I don’t live with my boyfriend but we’ve been together a few months and we spend every other weekend at one of our houses. We were at mine this weekend just gone. We have a quite ‘jokey’ relationship and banter a lot. On Sunday, he hovered over my face (having taken his shorts down) and broke wind. I was in bed on my phone at the time. I went mad at him and he kept defending it as a joke and says that I always joke about doing it to him. I said yes, a joke. I’ve told him I want space, he has attempted to apologise over messaging and asked to call me. I just feel like it’s a line crossed even if it was done purely as a ‘joke’. Is it me or is that the ultimate disrespect?

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Illbefinejustbloodyfine · 09/04/2026 19:22

rwalker · 09/04/2026 19:20

That’s grim but not totally unexpected as you threaten to do it to him so that kind of sets the tone really

I agree with this. He knows now.

PinkNailPolish2026 · 09/04/2026 19:21

Dump him. Imagine being intimate again with someone like that. Yuk.

rwalker · 09/04/2026 19:20

That’s grim but not totally unexpected as you threaten to do it to him so that kind of sets the tone really

AgentPidge · 09/04/2026 19:20

It's in really poor taste but it sounds as if he doesn't know where you draw the line. If he's apologised and learnt his lesson, I'd forgive him.

TikTokker · 09/04/2026 19:20

You joke about doing it to him? I mean it’s disgusting and I wouldn’t put up with it but I also wouldn’t say I’d do it either.

HoppityBun · 09/04/2026 19:20

My ex did this. Looking back, he hated me.

Villanousvillans · 09/04/2026 19:20

Utterly disgusting. There would be no way back for me, after that.

Zanatdy · 09/04/2026 19:19

Gross, disrespectful and not something that i’d find remotely amusing. YANBU.

ohwtf · 09/04/2026 19:18

Any man who did that to me would get a swift punch to the bollocks, and marching orders.

TillyToeTaps · 09/04/2026 19:18

🤮

DiddleyDeeDee · 09/04/2026 19:18

Thats disgusting.

SoSadSoSadSoSad · 09/04/2026 19:18

Foul man. Dump.

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