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Shocked by what my BF did to me

212 replies

Catchase1 · 09/04/2026 19:17

This happened at the weekend but has kind of dragged on to the week. I don’t live with my boyfriend but we’ve been together a few months and we spend every other weekend at one of our houses. We were at mine this weekend just gone. We have a quite ‘jokey’ relationship and banter a lot. On Sunday, he hovered over my face (having taken his shorts down) and broke wind. I was in bed on my phone at the time. I went mad at him and he kept defending it as a joke and says that I always joke about doing it to him. I said yes, a joke. I’ve told him I want space, he has attempted to apologise over messaging and asked to call me. I just feel like it’s a line crossed even if it was done purely as a ‘joke’. Is it me or is that the ultimate disrespect?

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User0311 · 09/04/2026 19:54

No way back for me after that

mumofoneAloneandwell · 09/04/2026 19:53

Ewww

Ltb

ProudAmberTurtle · 09/04/2026 19:52

How did the joking about doing it to him work? Was it obvious that it was so disgusting that it was something that should never be done, or did you give him the impression that it would be horrible but very funny?

deepseaargyllfish · 09/04/2026 19:52

More than the action itself, I’d be v put off my someone who regards this as remotely amusing.

TittyGajillions · 09/04/2026 19:51

How the hell is threatening to fart in someone's face a joke?

DannyDeever · 09/04/2026 19:51

No kids. Early in the relationship. Just dump him, he'll get over it.

somanychristmaslights · 09/04/2026 19:49

So you joke about doing it to him, and then he went ahead and did it himself to you? Maybe he’s totally misread your joke and thought you’d find it funny. I find it strange you’d joke about it in the first place to be honest.

Forresty · 09/04/2026 19:48

You both sound awful.

Drats · 09/04/2026 19:48

Gross. But insinuating you would do it is also gross and it sounds like you’ve joked about it before? I can see why he would think you would find it funny if you’ve laughed about it. It’s a relationship ender for me but likewise I wouldn’t make jokes about farts etc so I think that’s why no one has even done it to me.

Randomlygeneratedname · 09/04/2026 19:48

Sometimes I fart behind the fan so it blows into DH face.

ohyesido · 09/04/2026 19:45

Utterly disgusting. I’d lose all respect for him

Tacohill · 09/04/2026 19:45

You joke about doing it to him?

My DP would never do this to me but then I’d never joke about doing it to him either.

I think you set the bar by joking about it.

However, you’ve told him you didn’t like it and not to do it again and so if he does do it again then it’s over.

Dimpledaisies · 09/04/2026 19:44

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Snoken · 09/04/2026 19:44

You joke about farting in his face? But yes, I couldn't muster up any kind of attraction to any man who did that to me so I would call it a day.

PenelopeAsks · 09/04/2026 19:42

God I hate ‘banter’.

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 09/04/2026 19:41

The idea that this level of immaturity is carried forward into "adulthood" beggars belief.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/04/2026 19:40

Why would you joke about that?

TwistedWonder · 09/04/2026 19:39

Are you both 12?

Maray1967 · 09/04/2026 19:38

rwalker · 09/04/2026 19:20

That’s grim but not totally unexpected as you threaten to do it to him so that kind of sets the tone really

Yes, what he did was grim, but why on earth were you joking about doing it to him? He’s probably assumed from that that it’s ok.

WallaceinAnderland · 09/04/2026 19:38

Fucking hell he has no respect for you whatsoever does he.

Dillydollydingdong · 09/04/2026 19:37

What a strange relationship. Where's the respect? Where's the love? Just humiliation and embarrassment! Yuck!

MrsVanilla · 09/04/2026 19:37

I would have said 'disgusting' if I hadn't read that you actually started it by joking you would do it to him! Sorry, but you had that coming!

TappingTed · 09/04/2026 19:35

As you joked about it I can see why he’d think that you’d think it was funny. You are both being unreasonably and disgusting tbh.

nomas · 09/04/2026 19:34

He is scum. Dump.

Classiclines · 09/04/2026 19:33

Absolutely disgusting from your .bf
But I find the fact you " joke ' about doing it pretty gross as well.

I honestly fail to understand how adults talk to each other, and behave, in the manner of primary school children.