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Shocked by what my BF did to me

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Catchase1 · 09/04/2026 19:17

This happened at the weekend but has kind of dragged on to the week. I don’t live with my boyfriend but we’ve been together a few months and we spend every other weekend at one of our houses. We were at mine this weekend just gone. We have a quite ‘jokey’ relationship and banter a lot. On Sunday, he hovered over my face (having taken his shorts down) and broke wind. I was in bed on my phone at the time. I went mad at him and he kept defending it as a joke and says that I always joke about doing it to him. I said yes, a joke. I’ve told him I want space, he has attempted to apologise over messaging and asked to call me. I just feel like it’s a line crossed even if it was done purely as a ‘joke’. Is it me or is that the ultimate disrespect?

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Random321 · 09/04/2026 20:31

No, I couldn't be with some that immature and disgusting.

AStonedRose · 09/04/2026 20:28

Daisymay1000 · 09/04/2026 20:26

Can’t believe some of the comments on this. “Dump him”. It’s a fart!!😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭 not exactly the most dignified way to have a laugh but bloodyhelllllll imagine ending a relationship over a fart😂

It's sexual assault.

Dump dump dump

MissDaisy1982 · 09/04/2026 20:28

Some people are turned on by that, he was just testing to see if you have a fart fetish

AltitudeCheck · 09/04/2026 20:28

Perhaps he thought your 'joke' was an invitation?... maybe that's his kink and he thought he'd struck gold when you tested the waters by saying you'd do it to him!? 😱

susiedaisy1912 · 09/04/2026 20:28

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This.

Daisymay1000 · 09/04/2026 20:26

Can’t believe some of the comments on this. “Dump him”. It’s a fart!!😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭 not exactly the most dignified way to have a laugh but bloodyhelllllll imagine ending a relationship over a fart😂

outerspacepotato · 09/04/2026 20:26

That would be the end.

The ultimate ick.

Butt, you joked about it more than once and he did it. Why do mad if you kept it going?

CharlieEffie · 09/04/2026 20:22

Its vile. But you joke about it so he thought it was your kind of humour. Now he knows the boundaries and limits. Id give him another chance

Imisscoffee2021 · 09/04/2026 20:20

His shorts were down so no barrier to the poo particles flying from his arse? I mean I'm no stranger to a jokey fart in your general direction sort of thing but that's absolutely vile. Unhygienic and really mean spirited actually.

DespairMode · 09/04/2026 20:17

Play stupid games win stupid prizes

ModestlyPrudent · 09/04/2026 20:15

Randomlygeneratedname · 09/04/2026 19:48

Sometimes I fart behind the fan so it blows into DH face.

Your behaviour is disgusting not funny!

ModestlyPrudent · 09/04/2026 20:13

@Catchase1 wtf was he thinking? He’s not a keeper OP. I feel desperately sorry for his future wife. Absolutely vile behaviour. There’s nothing funny about it. Pure disgusting 🤢

Netcurtainnelly · 09/04/2026 20:13

is he 12

Anyahyacinth · 09/04/2026 20:11

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So you can’t complain if some hits you …if they previously said “I could hit you?” that’s just a nonsense argument.

You can joke about lots of things, what you DO in reality is obviously totally different and joking is not permission 🤦‍♀️

Ooodelally · 09/04/2026 20:10

Vile.
Joking about it is also disgusting.

DuckyDolittle · 09/04/2026 20:07

Even if he apologised, I just wouldn't fancy him anymore so there'd be no point.

Ohhhwell · 09/04/2026 20:07

So one said it and ther other did it.
Ffs split up and grow up the bloody pair of ya.

Moonlightfrog · 09/04/2026 20:07

Sorry OP but you have been seeing him a few months and he thought it would be funny to fart in your face? Nah……..throw this one away, he has no respect for you and he’s disgusting.

Sudagame · 09/04/2026 20:05

How does you joking about farting in his face in a conversation between a couple even come about. Stay together then at least you're not spoiling another couple.

Paveparadiseputupaparkinglot · 09/04/2026 20:03

TikTokker · 09/04/2026 19:20

You joke about doing it to him? I mean it’s disgusting and I wouldn’t put up with it but I also wouldn’t say I’d do it either.

This! Such a lady…

UncannyFanny · 09/04/2026 20:02

OP: I like to joke about farting in my boyfriends face.

Also OP: My boyfriend farted in my face and I don’t know what to do.

MN massive: Stop joking about farting in your boyfriend’s face, like duh!🙄

momtoboys · 09/04/2026 19:59

Is your boyfriend 12? That is not how adult men behave.

properidiot · 09/04/2026 19:58

Absolutely not my humour at all but plenty of people find farts funny. You have joked about doing this to him - he did it and now you're pissed off. I think you need at accept some responsibility for the 'jokes' in your relationship. Why did you joke about farting in his face? Weird.

Hatty65 · 09/04/2026 19:56

You both sound pretty gross. The romance is well and truly dead in your relationship.

Maybe with the next one don't threaten to fart in his face? Just a suggestion from Miss Manners.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 09/04/2026 19:56

Not this again.
Someone posts this exact thread every couple of weeks.
I've no idea why.

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