Shocked by what my BF did to me

Whenever I feel a bit down and lonely about being single, a thread like this makes me feel as if I lead a lovely life. Seriously, is this what passes as communication between two grown adults.? OP makes a juvenile joke to her partner who then literally carries out the act. Very immature behaviour

Sorry but I'm really confused. He pulled down his pants and farted at you, which is hideous. But you say that You did it to him? Have I missed a post here?

Either way, it sounds revolting, immature and inconsiderate on both parts.

An acquaintance of mine dumped someone for farting in bed. She is perpetually single …

Grim all round, though given your jokes perhaps you belong together.
The last time someone farted in my presence I protectively vomited. There were thirty family members in a private dining room and I was suffering from HG.
I'm fairly well-known for being a bit delicate like that, and this was a teenager. If someone did what your bf did, he better hope I didn't have something heavy handy.

I had strong words with my nephew for breaking wind next to me at the weekend , there’s no way I’d tolerate this from a partner - would be permanent and terminal ick

Is he the kind to send you dick pics? He sounds like he is, thinks a woman is just thrilled to be with him, she should accept anything from him and he can treat her with utter disdain for his own enjoyment

He might have assumed that and he does sound sorry. You could give him one more chance.

Reading this post and the comments I truly now believe I need some boundaries and believe it is a good thing I am single 😅. I would be grossed out but would absolutely not be finishing him for that. It’s literally just a fart.

He treated you like one of his mates. Gross. You're not mates.

That's really really gross but sounds like you both have an immature sense of humour. Really, who AWLAYS makes jokes about farting in their partner's face?I'm also always a bit wary of people who use the word "banter" as it's usually code for being a twat to each other and dressing it up as humour.

If you decide to forgive him I think you should both rethink the boundaries of your banter.

I’ve been with my husband for over twenty years and he has not once farted in front of me.

I thought this too. You dont want him thinking you are one of the lads. You need him to be respectful.

Just sometimes I get the feeling MN stepped in where the Jeremy Kyle Show left off. It's like a visit to the zoo.

Yes, he's disgusting and yes, you bear some responsibility. Raise your standards.

Why is this even a question?

This surely has moved into "just mates" territory? Messing around like a group of 15yo boys? I don't think anyone would do that to someone they actually fancied.

The only man I know to have done this in real life turned out to be an abusive POS.

Get rid.

This. 💯

Absolutely disgusting all around.

I wouldn't joke about this personally but I still think there's a difference between a joke, to actually farting right in someone's face. I feel like if someone joked about doing this to me I wouldn't think it makes it okay to actually do it. But then again I may be biased as I wouldn't joke about it either 😅

I would if it was directly in my face like this. BUT I'd never have said anything that might make someone think otherwise.
As disgusting as it is, I can see why this guy did think it would be laughed off.

I’d be horrified but I don’t enjoy toilet humour. If you joke about this sort of thing then maybe he didn't really think he was crossing a line.
One of my friends told me her and her husband will break wind in bed but will quickly pull the covers over the other one so the are “trapped” with the smell. This is my idea of hell but they find in amusing.

What sort of person are you to threaten someone with breaking wind in their face?? 🤢

Your partner took it too far but you threatened him with it and maybe he thought your bar was set so low he’d action it. Dump him - learn from this and find some manners.

Absolutely vile behavior from both; you for joking about it in the first place and him for actually doing it.

Agree. You are both as bad as each other.

Please clarify this bit ‘I always joke about doing it to him’. What exactly are you saying to him? What brought it on the first time you said it?

You're shocked by it yet you've joked about doing it. I can't see how it's that much of a suprise.