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Shocked by what my BF did to me

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Catchase1 · 09/04/2026 19:17

This happened at the weekend but has kind of dragged on to the week. I don’t live with my boyfriend but we’ve been together a few months and we spend every other weekend at one of our houses. We were at mine this weekend just gone. We have a quite ‘jokey’ relationship and banter a lot. On Sunday, he hovered over my face (having taken his shorts down) and broke wind. I was in bed on my phone at the time. I went mad at him and he kept defending it as a joke and says that I always joke about doing it to him. I said yes, a joke. I’ve told him I want space, he has attempted to apologise over messaging and asked to call me. I just feel like it’s a line crossed even if it was done purely as a ‘joke’. Is it me or is that the ultimate disrespect?

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Sartre · 09/04/2026 22:16

You should leave. It’s not something someone who loves and respects you would even think to do. It’s so disgusting.

blueskyandrainbows · 09/04/2026 22:13

rwalker · 09/04/2026 19:20

That’s grim but not totally unexpected as you threaten to do it to him so that kind of sets the tone really

It’s disgusting but you started it so I can understand he thought it was okay.
Do you really think that’s funny?
Even just to joke about it sets your standard of conversation on a very low bar.
I think to take a look at yourself before judging him.

ChiliFiend · 09/04/2026 22:09

The people saying "it's just a fart" are equating this to him just farting in the same room as her. He got up super close to her face, while naked, and then farted in her face on purpose. It's not remotely the same. Just imagining it makes me want to retch.

Spookyspaghetti · 09/04/2026 22:08

If someone did this after five decades it would still be sketchy, but after five months… jeez.

patooties · 09/04/2026 22:07

That’s actually awful - utterly disrespectful 🤮

GlomOfNit · 09/04/2026 22:05

I mean, I find farts funny because I'm fairly earthy, and they're also just a fact of life, but deliberately farting in someone's face is vile. And massively immature. Unless you genuinely do have a relationship built on gross-out jokes and banter, and you do this sort of thing to him too (which would also be vile), I'd be reconsidering. If it upset you, he misjudged a dumb joke very badly, at best. At worst, he's showing you what he really thinks of you.

NeedingASafeSpace · 09/04/2026 22:02

AStonedRose · 09/04/2026 20:28

It's sexual assault.

Dump dump dump

Sexual assault!? Behave!!!

SeekOIt · 09/04/2026 22:01

😂😂😂

pictoosh · 09/04/2026 21:59

Createausername1970 · 09/04/2026 21:58

There is a difference between bantering about something and actually doing it.

If you were happy with your bf before this incident, then make it clear he crossed the line, and if he seems genuinely remorseful then continue the relationship.

If you had doubts anyway, then draw a line under it.

There are few people who haven't done something cringeworthy at some point.

Agree with this.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 09/04/2026 21:59

MuskIsACnt · 09/04/2026 21:55

No you don’t need boundaries, some of the people responding are totally nuts. It’s a fart, who cares.

I really couldn’t get worked up about a fart.

Do you like having your SO fart in your face, then? Interesting... 🤔

Createausername1970 · 09/04/2026 21:58

There is a difference between bantering about something and actually doing it.

If you were happy with your bf before this incident, then make it clear he crossed the line, and if he seems genuinely remorseful then continue the relationship.

If you had doubts anyway, then draw a line under it.

There are few people who haven't done something cringeworthy at some point.

pictoosh · 09/04/2026 21:58

I see these horse around/play pranks type of couples on tiktok, YouTube etc..
Often think that I just wouldn't want to be treated like a little brother.
It's not for me. Where do you draw the line?
Nah.

FieryA · 09/04/2026 21:58

MsSmartShoes · 09/04/2026 21:23

I’ve been with my husband for over twenty years and he has not once farted in front of me.

That's not something to be particularly impressed by or brag about.

Nearly50omg · 09/04/2026 21:57

Every time you fart shit also comes out - even if it’s just a little bit it does come out 🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢

Funnywonder · 09/04/2026 21:57

The pair of ye need to wise up. What a weird thing to joke about let alone actually do🤢

Besidemyselfwithworry · 09/04/2026 21:56

ohwtf · 09/04/2026 19:18

Any man who did that to me would get a swift punch to the bollocks, and marching orders.

omg Me too
thank god you haven’t moved In with this revolting man!

MissDaisy1982 · 09/04/2026 21:55

Catchase1 · 09/04/2026 20:44

No he had nothing on and was very close. Yes to 3+4

Confirmation that butt hole and plums were hovering nearby as he let out a loud stinky fart in OP’s face

This would be unwelcome to many

MuskIsACnt · 09/04/2026 21:55

NeedingASafeSpace · 09/04/2026 21:26

Reading this post and the comments I truly now believe I need some boundaries and believe it is a good thing I am single 😅. I would be grossed out but would absolutely not be finishing him for that. It’s literally just a fart.

No you don’t need boundaries, some of the people responding are totally nuts. It’s a fart, who cares.

I really couldn’t get worked up about a fart.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 09/04/2026 21:54

Are you 10 year old mates or an adult romantic couple?

PinkyFlamingo · 09/04/2026 21:53

AStonedRose · 09/04/2026 20:28

It's sexual assault.

Dump dump dump

It's disgusting but it's not sexual assault for goodness sake

DamnBuster · 09/04/2026 21:53

This sounds like a scene from Shameless. Utterly grim from both of you, you set the tone and he followed your lead.

DaisyDooley · 09/04/2026 21:49

It would give me the ick.
I could never get over it and would be nauseated every time he wanted a blow job that he would fart on my face which would frankly make me vomit.
It’s a fart too far I’m afraid.

Loloblue · 09/04/2026 21:46

Gross but also why are you joking about it yourself...?

Cherryicecreamx · 09/04/2026 21:46

Perhaps I'm a snob but I can't quite get passed how you would joke about doing it to him - and now he has done it. Maybe an apology is enough if this is something you "banter" about anyway..

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