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Shocked by what my BF did to me

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Catchase1 · 09/04/2026 19:17

This happened at the weekend but has kind of dragged on to the week. I don’t live with my boyfriend but we’ve been together a few months and we spend every other weekend at one of our houses. We were at mine this weekend just gone. We have a quite ‘jokey’ relationship and banter a lot. On Sunday, he hovered over my face (having taken his shorts down) and broke wind. I was in bed on my phone at the time. I went mad at him and he kept defending it as a joke and says that I always joke about doing it to him. I said yes, a joke. I’ve told him I want space, he has attempted to apologise over messaging and asked to call me. I just feel like it’s a line crossed even if it was done purely as a ‘joke’. Is it me or is that the ultimate disrespect?

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Bringemout · 09/04/2026 23:34

Dump, it’s gross, you don’t want to date someone this stupid.

Eggybreadwithnuts · 09/04/2026 23:32

Teens do that to each other....DUMP!!!

TellingBone · 09/04/2026 23:27

'How different, how very different from the home life of our own dear Queen'

said someone once

67eleven · 09/04/2026 23:23

Classic case of Fart About and Find Out.

Warmlight1 · 09/04/2026 23:19

FieryA · 09/04/2026 21:58

That's not something to be particularly impressed by or brag about.

It might be but only if he hasn't farted in front of any other women

FiveShelties · 09/04/2026 23:10

This almost reads like a spin off from the Poo Troll🙄

Isheacheatingbastardthen · 09/04/2026 23:01

Wait you’ve joked about doing it to him, he’s turned the tables and now you are traumatised he’s done it?! Makes no sense. Total over reaction on your part.

Busybeemumm · 09/04/2026 23:01

Draw some boundaries. There are jokes and having fun, but this can quickly cross over into being disrespectful. I would think about what kind of relationship you want.

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 09/04/2026 22:58

Grim.

Zennia · 09/04/2026 22:57

I couldn't be attracted to someone after that. Where is the respect, the romance? Why is he playing practical jokes with you like you're both 14 year old boys?

greenteaandlimes · 09/04/2026 22:52

My ex did stuff like this - if ONLY I had got rid of him sooner, instead I accepted his “it’s just a joke, get a sense of humour” bullshit and wasted years. I wish I’d had Mumsnet back then!

dontthreatenhim · 09/04/2026 22:51

AStonedRose · 09/04/2026 20:28

It's sexual assault.

Dump dump dump

What's sexual about it? 😂

Pherian · 09/04/2026 22:49

Catchase1 · 09/04/2026 19:17

This happened at the weekend but has kind of dragged on to the week. I don’t live with my boyfriend but we’ve been together a few months and we spend every other weekend at one of our houses. We were at mine this weekend just gone. We have a quite ‘jokey’ relationship and banter a lot. On Sunday, he hovered over my face (having taken his shorts down) and broke wind. I was in bed on my phone at the time. I went mad at him and he kept defending it as a joke and says that I always joke about doing it to him. I said yes, a joke. I’ve told him I want space, he has attempted to apologise over messaging and asked to call me. I just feel like it’s a line crossed even if it was done purely as a ‘joke’. Is it me or is that the ultimate disrespect?

Ewww that’s minging. Please tell me you’re dumping him.

Stolengnome · 09/04/2026 22:46

Randomlygeneratedname · 09/04/2026 19:48

Sometimes I fart behind the fan so it blows into DH face.

😂😂

Wordsmithery · 09/04/2026 22:41

I actually imagine he is quite confused. I mean, he called your bluff, didn't he.
Play silly games, win silly prizes.

Monzo1ss · 09/04/2026 22:39

ChiliFiend · 09/04/2026 22:09

The people saying "it's just a fart" are equating this to him just farting in the same room as her. He got up super close to her face, while naked, and then farted in her face on purpose. It's not remotely the same. Just imagining it makes me want to retch.

Exactly!

some of you have really poor standards, no wonder this forum is filled with people with relationship issues. Bottom barrel

Happyjoe · 09/04/2026 22:38

MsSmartShoes · 09/04/2026 21:23

I’ve been with my husband for over twenty years and he has not once farted in front of me.

Am jealous! He's a keeper :-)
After being with my better half for a year, I bought him a mug that said 'my farts hospitalise small children' because they are so vile.
I miss the days so much where he'd not fart in front of me, now I can barely get him to get off his (stinky) bum and open a window.

Notascouser1990 · 09/04/2026 22:38

Ugh. Probably going to be an unpopular opinion with many (and of course you should be able to have a laugh with your partner), but I hate "jokey"/"bantery" couples. All of the ones I've known eventually turned emotionally or mentally abusive (usually the man seeing how far he could go). I don't do "banter" and my ex would always try to wind me up with stupid immature shit like this, then I'd get called an "uptight cow" etc for not finding it funny 😂

Monzo1ss · 09/04/2026 22:37

I’d end the relationship over this, farting in someone’s face on purpose is akin to spitting in their face. If that’s a kink for you then fine, but otherwise, it’s extremely disrespectful.

If you wouldn’t fart in your mate/parent/colleague’s face as “banter”, why do so with the person you’re dating? Your girlfriend/partner/wife etc should be someone you treat with more respect, not less. If he farted in anyone else’s face, he’d get punched in the face as it is not a social norm, so why’s he doing it to you and acting surprised that you didn’t like it?

Illegally18 · 09/04/2026 22:37

MuskIsACnt · 09/04/2026 21:55

No you don’t need boundaries, some of the people responding are totally nuts. It’s a fart, who cares.

I really couldn’t get worked up about a fart.

It's deeply, deeply unsexy.

DripDripAprilshower · 09/04/2026 22:35

I always joke about doing it to him.

I suggest you get a more sophisticated sense of humour

ProudCat · 09/04/2026 22:34

Just explain to him that you're not fart positive.

Crudd99 · 09/04/2026 22:32

ohwtf · 09/04/2026 19:18

Any man who did that to me would get a swift punch to the bollocks, and marching orders.

Agree.

LydiaFunnyGums · 09/04/2026 22:25

Revolting little shit! You would be mad to continue your relationship with him. Get rid!

Happyjoe · 09/04/2026 22:24

I think it's time to change your words perhaps, stick to Monty Pyton's 'I fart in your general direction'! It may be safer going forward..

My brothers used to do this to me on occasion, they'd hold me down while the other farted. It's foul but they were children! I have not much liking for my brothers as an adult, fair to say (farting was only part of a long list).

Only you can decide going forward OP if this is a dealbreaker. If happy otherwise, perhaps give him 2 strikes before out...

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