Shocked by what my BF did to me

This! It’s absolutely disgusting, but YABU! You can’t ‘joke’ that you’ll do something to him and when he actually does it tell him it’s a line crossed. Forgive him and ‘banter’ a little less..!

Vile

It's gross, but if you've joked about doing it a few times, he probably thought it was fine and that you'd find it funny. I think you're unreasonable to be shocked, under those circs.

He’s not a gentleman, which for me means he has to go. Think better of yourself than to be with a man like this.

Yes but why on earth would anyone joke about it,if I heard a friend do this I would say they were both as immature as each other

It sounds like boundaries have to be discussed. And not in a jokey way!

God men are vile.

I agree with this. Bantz always has that little bit of an edge to it, and then the plausible deniability for when people deliberately step over the line.

Personalised banter is a crap way to have a relationship.

You say want space from him OP? I agree and the further away the better.

Disgusting.
However not serious enough to break up over unless there are other issues.

There is one thing to joke about it and another to actually do it! It’s completely vile and weird to do to someone u fancy or someone u want to fancy u back!
If he is young and recently been at uni with a load of lads? then maybe he just needs a good discussion about boundaries? But there is something slightly abusive about it and if u feel violated then that is important not to ignore. I would find it hard to stay.

You are both unreasonable. If this was a reverse people would be telling you your dh shouldn't have "joked" about it for so long. Your joke wasn't funny nor was what he did. You both did some better boundaries and respect for each other.

He needs to grow TF up. Have you told him you want an adult man in your life not a stupid teenage boy?

Mumsnet has been around for years people still stay with immature partners so nothing changes

My brother did this to me.
But he was about 8.

Massive disrespect and a revolting thing to do to anyone, let alone someone you are sexually intimate with. I would end this and find someone who doesn't treat you like you are six year old brothers.

Somehow you have given him the impression that this low class disrespectful behaviour would be ok.
I can't imagine joking about such behaviour, so maybe this is what happens if that is your conversation level?

He sounds like an utter twat..
You are seeing him a few months?

How you would ever find such a puerile moron attractive again is beyond me.

I can tell you one thing, any man who really cared about impressing a woman, respected and valued her, does not behave like a low class ape.

You have set the tone with your threats, Op.
How does he know what is fun to you?

Give him one more chance and but only after having a serious conversation where you, too, apologise for the disgusting jokes that you made about farting in his face.

Clarify with him what is acceptable behaviour. Remember not to fuzzy the line yourself in future.

Christ that is the ick to end all icks op.

Why do you always joke about doing it to him?
That’s bloody weird, you know?
It’s a disgusting thing to do, but you’ve clearly led him to believe you might find it amusing.

Disgusting. However if you joke about doing it to him then I think you have to accept that he could well have thought that you would have laughed it off. I would take this as a line in the sand. If he crosses it again then that's it. Unless you have the massive ick. In which case he's done regardless and you found out the hard way not to even joke about it, because many men just aren't all that bright when it comes to joking Vs actually doing and knowing where the line is. As the mum of boys, can confirm.

But equating this to hitting is in itself a nonsense argument. Apart from anything else, one's a crime, the other isn't.

Hmmm - this is gross and if someone did this to me, the relationship would not survive. However, it sounds like a joke taken too far given the nature of your relationship. He presumably thought you’d find it funny given you have joked about it.

First step in a very slippery slope