DD 14 is doing a fairly time intensive extra curricular activity.
The group has had a new leader for the past 18 months. At first, DD received lots of positive feedback, she was asked to demonstrate activities and told she set a great example for younger participants. She felt really valued and welcome.
Over the last 6 months, though the leader has more or less ignored her. Aside from a single well done in the autumn, there’s been nothing. It’s not just about praise the leader chats warmly with others but no longer engages with DD at all.
She’s effectively ignored, if not slightly ostracised. DD has plenty of friends, so that’s not the issue, it's that she feels she is no longer good at this activity when she has actually improved.
She told me today she feels the best she can hope for now is just to exist in the group, not thrive. She still loves spending time with her friends from the activity many from her primary school, so nice to still stay in touch.
She’s been made to feel invisible and it is taking a toll, undermining her confidence.
So AIBU to say something to the person running the club? Based on other people's experiences any feedback is pushed back and they act in a defensive way. Or would this be begging for attention which may be used against dd at a later stage?
What’s the best I can hope for when essentially criticising this person for not paying attention? How can I phrase it so dd doesn’t sound needy or loses face?
She will naturally move on from this group in about 10 months time.
YABU - say something
YANBU - Keep calm and carry on don't say anything, only 10 more moths to go.
Essentially if I say something, am I being precious, should dd at 14 just deal with it or does this require parental intervention. She doesn't want to quit.