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AIBU / Ridiculous re putting extra mileage on my car

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MileageWoes · 09/04/2026 11:28

DH works from home, I work full time in the office. He is having major car trouble and will be without a car for the next few weeks. Obviously he doesn't need a car for work but he has a hobby that he travels to so is using my car morning and evening to do this. It's a 40 mile round trip, twice a day so means that he's putting over 500 miles extra on my car every week! I think he should cut back to once a day until he gets his own car back and he thinks I am being very unreasonable as it will only be for 3/4 weeks.

I WILL NOT BE DISCLOSING WHAT THE HOBBY IS! (I don't want to out myself and it's really really not relevant to my question)

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CJ50Mum · 16/04/2026 22:15

EllesmereCats · 15/04/2026 16:19

That has literally nothing to do with the original issue.

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You were the one said about a shared household & sharing things.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 15/04/2026 16:23

5foot5 · 09/04/2026 11:30

I don't have a strong opinion about the car mileage but I am sure I won't be the only one agog about a hobby he does twice a day, every day. Potentially HIBU for that.

I'm presuming he has to unlock/lock every day whatever it is.

EllesmereCats · 15/04/2026 16:19

CJ50Mum · 14/04/2026 14:03

With the husband working full time & at a hobby twice a day is he sharing the housework, gardening, looking after kids etc, I highly doubt it

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That has literally nothing to do with the original issue.

WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo · 14/04/2026 16:30

katepilar · 12/04/2026 08:47

Its ok to make mistakes.
They will be pointed out. You need to be ready to take the consequences. Its ridiculous when you react in such an irritated tone. Noone is going to check the whole thread just to check out if you realised you have typed a wrong word.

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Just like you’ve “taken the consequences” for your post? Give over.

CJ50Mum · 14/04/2026 14:03

EllesmereCats · 12/04/2026 14:55

Are you married, or not? You have a shared household, so you should be expecting to share things.

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With the husband working full time & at a hobby twice a day is he sharing the housework, gardening, looking after kids etc, I highly doubt it

Moaning5 · 13/04/2026 23:38

Still here, still checking in, still waiting to see what the hobby is !!

Daftypants · 13/04/2026 08:41

TheMillionthBeautyAddict · 09/04/2026 11:31

Sorry when is he actually working (or is he a roadie for The Proclaimers?!?!)

🤣🤣🤣

EllesmereCats · 12/04/2026 14:55

MileageWoes · 09/04/2026 11:28

DH works from home, I work full time in the office. He is having major car trouble and will be without a car for the next few weeks. Obviously he doesn't need a car for work but he has a hobby that he travels to so is using my car morning and evening to do this. It's a 40 mile round trip, twice a day so means that he's putting over 500 miles extra on my car every week! I think he should cut back to once a day until he gets his own car back and he thinks I am being very unreasonable as it will only be for 3/4 weeks.

I WILL NOT BE DISCLOSING WHAT THE HOBBY IS! (I don't want to out myself and it's really really not relevant to my question)

Are you married, or not? You have a shared household, so you should be expecting to share things.

toomuchfaff · 12/04/2026 12:05

katepilar · 12/04/2026 08:47

Its ok to make mistakes.
They will be pointed out. You need to be ready to take the consequences. Its ridiculous when you react in such an irritated tone. Noone is going to check the whole thread just to check out if you realised you have typed a wrong word.

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Suffice to say, You’re a bit late to the thread, its already been pointed out.

And “consequences” for a word mixup feels a tad dramatic.

DoubleEspressoForMe · 12/04/2026 09:42

I've never understood this attitude. What are cars for if not to put miles on?! Its like saving something for best and never using it. The whole purpose of a car is to cover miles. I'm honestly always baffled by this attitude. Although I suppose if its hire purchase or finance and has a amount of miles you can do before you have to pay extra charges, thats perhaps different. But you've not mentioned that and for a few weeks it shouldn't make a massive difference.

katepilar · 12/04/2026 08:47

toomuchfaff · 11/04/2026 10:04

Do you think in the 2 days and 500 comments since I said this originally that no one has pointed that out.... 🤔 Or that youre the first to realise?

Thank you. I meant additional, I typed annual. I'm dyslexic and post menopausal - words get mixed.

Anyway, have a brilliant Saturday, hope its filled with sunshine.

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Its ok to make mistakes.
They will be pointed out. You need to be ready to take the consequences. Its ridiculous when you react in such an irritated tone. Noone is going to check the whole thread just to check out if you realised you have typed a wrong word.

CJ50Mum · 12/04/2026 06:42

Blondeshavemorefun · 11/04/2026 19:29

It’s for a few weeks. So won’t be 24k

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But he does do 24k miles per annum in his own car for the hobby, no wonder the car will take a month to fix

LoftyPlumLion · 12/04/2026 05:13

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/04/2026 22:55

cosplay?! No one is doing that a 5.30 am every day!

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Hey! Don’t you judge those furries!

PowerfulFireHorse · 12/04/2026 05:11

PixelDreamer · 09/04/2026 11:37

Horses...

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That was my guess too!

TheClangyClunk · 12/04/2026 04:57

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/04/2026 22:55

cosplay?! No one is doing that a 5.30 am every day!

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Maybe he’s cosplaying as a lamplighter from ye olden days.

Bjorkdidit · 12/04/2026 00:33

Usernamenotfound1 · 11/04/2026 20:10

Maybe he “works nights”, goes back for breakfast, leaves when everyone goes to school/work, then back for tea time before leaving for work again…

🤔

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Ooh, interesting. But he'd have to contribute financially to two households and eat two breakfasts and dinners.

OP have you seen this hobby location for yourself and seen him doing it and talking to the other people who do it?

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/04/2026 22:55

LoftyPlumLion · 11/04/2026 18:11

A few miles to allow him to cosplay should be ok in a marriage.

cosplay?! No one is doing that a 5.30 am every day!

notnorman · 11/04/2026 22:55

Dogging?

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/04/2026 22:54

I am guessing wild swimming, which would explain why it has to happen at the same place every day. Every wild swimmer I know is addicted to it.

CocSoc · 11/04/2026 22:18

Detectorist?

HaveANiceFuckingDay · 11/04/2026 20:33

500 miles a week !!! Wowser, seems like im in the minority as if be pissed off too on a car thats old like yours
If its only for a " few weeks " I could get less pissed off but if it went on for longer than like 6 weeks or more I would ask him if he could get a hire car ? Is it in a garage and you're covered by insurance to get a hire ?
How often do you use yours ? Is it impeding on your usage ?

SarahsHoneydew · 11/04/2026 20:14

toomuchfaff · 09/04/2026 11:32

You're begrudging your DH use of the car for a hobby they enjoy because its resulting in 500 annual miles.

That seems ridiculous to me. What is wrong with your marriage that 500 miles on the car is a breaking point?

It’s 500 a week not a year

Usernamenotfound1 · 11/04/2026 20:10

robbys82 · 11/04/2026 19:56

isn't he having an affair?

Maybe he “works nights”, goes back for breakfast, leaves when everyone goes to school/work, then back for tea time before leaving for work again…

🤔

robbys82 · 11/04/2026 19:56

isn't he having an affair?

Blondeshavemorefun · 11/04/2026 19:29

Marieb19 · 11/04/2026 19:15

This hobby is adding 24,000 miles per annum to your car, which is impacting it's value and lifespan. I think i would have more of an issue with a partner this amount of time every day on a hobby. It sounds more like an obsession.

It’s for a few weeks. So won’t be 24k