AIBU to expect my husband to buy lubricant for sex?

And what about the contraception? They both need it but she does that as well.

This. ^ I find it bizarre that you won't just buy it @Orangeducks Surely to goodness though, if you are getting 'chafed' inside when having PIV sex, his penis will be getting chafed too!

If you're too scared to go into a local shop, go out of town, or order it off the internet. That's a thing now ya know! 😜

You said your marriage is good and he’s a good man though. And as many have mentioned this doesn’t need to be a balanced transactional thing of who does the most sex admin, you can just order it online, you could even stick it on an Amazon subscription then nobody has to think about it. It’s a mountain out of a molehill. If your marriage is unbalanced then tackle that, but this particular thing doesn't need to be an issue.

I know what you mean. Vaginal dryness can be really common during times of the month and lube shouldn’t be embarrassing. Sometimes it can just be to enhance the motions and add comfort.

I think it’s awful you feel the need to partake sexually if your comfort and enjoyment are being put on the back burner and laughed at. I certainly wouldn’t be partaking in it if he doesn’t care about you during the act.

My opinion is it is you who needs it, therefore you who buys it tbh.

How does his mother think you produced her grandchildren?
I think I heard something about being able to have separate identities within prime but haven’t yet had time to look into it.

I feel a wider conversation may be required with your husband. Mine doesn’t want the snip either and I wanted to come off the pill to check my natural hormones, so we now use condoms and it tends to be him who checks we have any and remembers to buy them. He prefers sex without, but it’s up to him to choose between the snip and condoms, and he’s choosing to cover up. Going without either is out of the question. It’s fair to share the responsibilities as you say! And it isn’t ok to sulk. At all.

I hope your husband will admit that his attitude is really hurtful in this context.

It really isn't about lube.
Its that you are married to a selfish, sulking pig.
He sounds vile.

I think you are "boiled frog" analogy that you accept all that you do.

He sounds absolutely vile.
You should reach out to talk to a domestic abuse charity because you really don't seem to realise how poor his behaviour is.

Are you in the mood for sex unlubricated personally I think chafing hurts and bleeding from friction shouldn't be "endured ".

Well make your own for goodness sake.

Read the thread - its not ACTUALLY about the buying of the physical lube, its about him not caring if doing it without the lube causes her pain and discomfort.

Blimey, why is it unreasonable for a woman to expect a partner who works part-time to pick up one item from a shop or for that matter order online. Is it because he is a man? Yes she can do it, but also sort can he, he said he would get it but didn't, if it were his mother's birthday card would you expect the wife to step in? I hope not. Men can do things, they aren't children, it's just some men behave like them.
Op you're not being unreasonable.

It’s not about the bloody lube!!! It’s about a woman who feels her husband has prioritised his needs over hers and this is an example of it. He wants to put his dick in a hole and doesn’t care it if causes bleeding, as long as he gets to ejacukafe. If he was thinking of her through any of this process he would have bought a few bottles of lube and put them in the bedside drawer.

This falls into the same bracket of women getting very upset over forgotten birthdays or their Christmas presents being a bar of soap and some garage flowers. It shows a lack of thought at a time where the woman could be front and foremost. I couldn’t give a shit about presents because there is enough thought and consideration being given to me across the year. If I was already feeling neglected and distant from my partner abd he also then forgot my birthday or threw a bar of chocolate my way, I would have further evidence of him not giving a shit.

Agree with this. Vaginal oestrogen will help.

OP I think you should ignore those who are telling you to buy online or not be embarrassed to buy in the supermarket.
It’s not about the lube, is it?
No sex until he performs this one simple act. He could even order it online! Or go to the supermarket and buy it! Everyone says it’s easy, so he should be able to manage it.
Then perhaps you could stop putting all those nasty hormones in your own body

Sorry OP but you sound ridiculous.

You could go to a shop if you really wanted to. There must be a shop that isn't on your doorstep that you could pop into or order online. You can set up a new Amazon account or order from a different retailer online.

You are entitled to say no to sex if it's going to be painful but listing all these excuses why you can't buy the lube makes you sound pathetic.

You don’t need to use Amazon to buy things online.

You can also do click and collect at the supermarket.
Just do an online shop and add it to your regular shopping.

You’re the one who needs the lube…go and buy it fgs. I don’t understand all this angst over buying it and you’re making excuses why you can’t do it. And why are you having sex without it when you know it’s painful and makes you bleed. Honestly, you’re a grown up and acting helpless. And he shouldn’t be having sex with you when he knows you don’t enjoy it without lube.

How do people not look at the posts that are easily solvable and not think ‘maybe there’s more to it than lube?

I have an Amazon Prime account that I share with my DH, I don't get to see what he has ordered, and presumably he doesn't get to what I have ordered! I was under the impression that only two adults in a residence could share their Prime accounts, and they do need to have the same address?

1. You could amazon it
2. Why are you forcing yourself to have sex if it hurts and you bleed? That can’t be enjoyable for you.
3. Why is a man who is meant to love you laughing at hurting you during sex?

He should absolutely take responsibility and I am actually quite disturbed that he is happy to have sex with you when he knows it causes pain

But of course you should be having any sex that you don’t want or that causes you pain. So you’re NBU about that.

Straight from Google:

You can hide Amazon orders by using the "Archive Order" feature, though this must be done via a desktop browser. Archiving removes items from your default order history view, but they are still visible in a separate "Archived Orders" section. Note that this is not a perfect security feature, as archived items can still be found.

How to Archive (Hide) Orders

1. Log in to Amazon on a desktop browser
2. (or set your mobile browser to "Desktop Site").
3. Go to Returns & Orders.
4. Locate the item and click "Archive order".
5. Confirm by clicking "Archive order"again.

Important Things to Know
Limitation: You can archive up to 500 orders.
Accessing Hidden Orders: You can view them by going to Account & Lists > Archived Orders.
Best Alternative: For complete privacy in shared households, it is recommended to set up an Amazon Household, which allows two adults to have separate, private accounts while sharing Prime benefits.