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AIBU to expect my husband to buy lubricant for sex?

413 replies

Orangeducks · 09/04/2026 08:47

For years me and my husband have used lubricant in sex because otherwise I bleed/ it chafes and isn't that comfortable. The bottle ran out about a month ago and I asked him to buy more (I know I could buy it but im a teacher and terrified a student/parent will spot me buying it). Its always been him that buys it. He just keeps forgetting and the last couple of times we've had sex without it but I bleed and its become like a joke that he hasn't bought it. We were about to have sex earlier and I got annoyed that he hadn't bought any yet. I explained that I play my part in our sex life by going to the pharmacy every 3 months and getting my blood pressure checked etc to get the pill and put artificial hormones in my body every day (he refuses to get the snip though were definitely done with kids) as well as all the other stuff that women accept comes with sex (I get thrush fairly frequently) and that I felt it wasn't much to ask that he picked up a bottle of lube. I am almost always with the children (they attend my school) as well so any time I'm shopping, they're with me. He works away 3 days a week so has a lot more time alone and I am very rarely out of the house with out my kids and don't fancy going to the lube aisle with them! He's just stormed out and said I could buy it and now is sulking.
AIBU to make it his responsibility to buy it?

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Seeline · 09/04/2026 08:53

I think you're a bit daft not wanting to buy it, but if it's always been his job, and he isn't contributing anything else then he either buys it, or he doesn't have sex.

Why won't he have the snip?

OMGitsnotgood · 09/04/2026 08:53

How do people get through life if they can’t solve simple problems like this?

Orangeducks · 09/04/2026 08:51

We share an Amazon Prime account with his mum so definitely don't want to order it on there 😆

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Secretseverywhere · 09/04/2026 08:51

I do think if your mature enough to be having sex you can manage to buy some lube. He’s Also bring a dick. Just buy some online from Amazon /boots and you can carry on with the ostrich impression.

VickyEadieofThigh · 09/04/2026 08:51

I wouldn't be having sex at all without lube if I were you. And I don't see why he cannot do this one thing.

PinkNailPolish2026 · 09/04/2026 08:50

He's just stormed out and said I could buy it and now is sulking.

I don't know how people put up with sulking men, he’d be sulking an awfully long time if he was my DH. It’s simple he either buys it or no sex, his choice.

BMW6 · 09/04/2026 08:50

Just put it in your trolley at Asda or whatever!

Tableforjoan · 09/04/2026 08:50

I mean just put some in with the general
shop or ordering from Amazon. It’s not that hard.

Providing you want to also have sex
that is.

Bigtreeesss · 09/04/2026 08:49

Have you heard of Amazon 😂

but don’t have sex with him if it causes you pain. Why put yourself through that

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 09/04/2026 08:49

Amazon? I can understand why you don’t want to buy it in person.

OvernightBloats · 09/04/2026 08:49

Buy it online if you are embarrassed about buying from a shop.

KitsyWitsy · 09/04/2026 08:49

I think it's ridiculous that you can't buy it yourself. That's irrational and needs addressing.

Or just order from Amazon.

BrightLightTonight · 09/04/2026 08:48

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