AIBU to expect my husband to buy lubricant for sex?

YANBU
Of course you don’t want kids you teach (presumably teenagers) seeing you buy lube. It would be all round the school in minutes. There would probably be a TikTok made about it. Anyone saying who cares if a 17 year old sees you buy lube hasn’t worked in a school.
”D” H should defo buy it.

Boots, Superdrug, Lloyds all do online, nit sure why this is such a drama.

Tell him if he wants sex to arrange to get lube somehow. And that it's off the table until he does.

My teacher friend puts all sorts though the Morrisons check out where quite a few of the students at her school work.

Shes never had a snigger much to her disappointment and she’s tried hard 😂

Order online.

Tableforjoan yabvvvvu if you think students won't care 😂 😂 😂

Set up a separate non-prime account.

Actually though, if you’re getting thrush regularly, how are you buying the cream or whatever you use? Can you get a few tubes of lube at the same time? I agree though, it should not just be you making the effort. Why should you pay constantly for it. Also, is this perhaps a sign things are not right and he’s not that bothered because he’s up to something when working away? Hopefully not

Op I think you are conflating two different things! This is not about the gel which you can order very easily by yourself from an on-line chemist.

The concerning issues here are that:

1. He doesn’t seem willing to go to the slightest bit of trouble for you to ensure your comfort
2. You don’t seem able to say no to sex with him when it’s not physically comfortable for you
3. You can’t communicate about this properly without him sulking.

How is the rest of your marriage? Is he a good husband otherwise?

Edited to say sorry I have just read your update op and indeed you are saying that this is representative of your marriage in general 💐

Why does your husband not care that you're uncomfortable without lube and bleeding after sex?

Do you actually find the sex enjoyable?

Also as a side note… I do understand why as it’s one thing you’ve asked but if it’s causing you the issue I would just sort it.

I say this as someone who also has problems in that area. I get sore and dry and need lube. I recommend yess natural line (you can buy it online!!!) and it will help with the recurrent thrush too. I had awful thrush repeatedly and the dr said it becuase I was getting sore and micro tears and then infected leading the thrush. You need to get some vaginal oestrogen and you will feel so much better

There are lots of places to buy lube online as well as amazon. You sound really angry about DH in relation to sex and him buying the lube may not entirely stop the anger.

Oh god this doesn’t need to be a wider ‘poor women’ debate, sex is suppose to be fun, just order the lube online and dial down the drama.

Order it click and collect from Boots or somewhere, personally I wouldn't be having sex if it hurt and made me bleed, and your husband shouldn't want to either, does he sulk when he doesn't get sex?

We Used condoms for a while, it was always me that made sure we had them. I asked DH once what would happen if we ran out, would he go and get some, he said he’d go without until I went. I get lube from Tesco, scan it quick and put in bag.

If they are teenagers leave them home to do the shopping.

He should just buy it but also it’s easy enough to order online from boots or similar if you don’t want to order from Amazon.

Tbh I’d be more pissed off that he isn’t willing to get the snip after you’ve completed your family!

Agree with others see a doctor about the bleeding and thrush though it shouldn’t be a regular thing.

Her kids might! Mine would have laughed for months when they were teenagers

Ha, the only way I was going to say it wouldn't be reasonable, was of he was a teacher! I know that shame of aisle 🤣 pregnancy tests were a challenge!

Agree with Amazon! (ETA- ignore, but don't share with his mum anymore!)

It's lube, not a gimp mask with matching butt plug.
Just pop it in your shopping basket or order it from Amazon. You're making this into a humiliation ritual without it needing to be!

This.

THIS is the point. I'm surprised how many posters - presumably mostly women - are ignoring the fact the OP'S dh doesn't give a shit about it being unpleasant for her.

Just set up your own Amazon account, takes 30 seconds. Or use Boots online or a supermarket delivery service or any one of a thousand other options.

But I also agree your husband is being completely rubbish not to have bought it, given that you asked, and to carry on having sex with you that makes you bleed. I'd be absolutely horrified if I caused someone an injury like that. Do you actually want to have sex in those circs?

Buy it in the internet like everyone else?!