AIBU to expect my husband to buy lubricant for sex?

Buy it through Superdrug online then. Or Boots. Or Love Honey. I don’t really get what the problem is there, there are multiple options that don’t involve you standing next to a student buying in face to face

But why? You’re acting as if it’s somehow shameful that you have sex with your husband. A lubricant is hardly in the same league as something like a sex toy - more of a medical requirement. Anyway, if you don’t want to use Amazon buy it from an online pharmacy. And no way should you be agreeing to uncomfortable sex - making you bleed! - without it.

Dear Me folks, IT'S NOT ABOUT THE LUBE!!! It's about a lack of effort and respect from her DH. OP, it would absolutely be a hill I chose to die on. In fact, I'd now refuse any intimacy until he's bought some. He sounds thoughtless at best. It's not just your responsibility to make your sex life happen.

YA both BU. He's BU to be having sex with you when it's uncomfortable or painful for you (assuming he knows that) and YABU to be a grown woman who is too embarrassed to buy lube and apparently can't imagine any other means of purchasing it beyond walking into a shop or using a shared Amazon Prime account. You can buy it online from a zillion other places including Boots, Superdrug and supermarkets.

Do you actually want to have sex with him?

I am not easily embarrassed, but if you are it is quite easy to order things like condoms and lube online and get them delivered. It would take a couple of minutes on Amazon and you could get a discount for bulk?

Unless hers come to your home she won’t see what you buy

it’s 2 separate accounts sharing prime

You are a prude not just buying from a shop

equally your dh is a twat to not buy

and you both are mad to have sex if hurts without - why do that ?

Order it from Boots or Superdrug online if Amazon is a problem. And stop enduring sex that leaves you sore and bleeding.

Edited to add: in terms of wanting your husband to take responsibility that’s totally reasonable, but don’t let him off that responsibility by having sex without the lube he’s failed to purchase.

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ffs you are being ridiculous. you can literally buy lube from supermarkets these days or about a million different online retailers who use discreet packaging.

This

Yes I know there's a wider issue here - but honestly just buy it on line through Boots if you don't want to use Amazon

Him not having the snip seems selfish - if you are done having kids then that would be a great thing for him to do. But you need to discuss it calmly and perhaps enlist the help of another friend's husband who has had it to have a chat with him...

He seems a bit embarassed and selfish but if he's generally OK then there is possibly wider things going on - can the 2 of you get out somewhere and chat calmly about it - with you listening too!

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I'm sure his mum knows all about this issue or wouldn't realise what it was.

I was once given a months prescription for the anti fungal PLUS a prescription for my partner. GP said in all likelihood we were passing it backwards and forwards between us.

You can just order from Boots and do click and collect, they box everything. It’s not normal to bleed regularly after sex nor have regular thrush, you should see your GP and also get an STI check as he is away three nights a week…you know the saying if the dog isn’t hungry when he’s home, he’s getting fed somewhere else

Yup OP, I'm on it too, & seems to be working a treat. I've never had an issue with thrush until menopause, then boom!

And for PP, my thrush was treated 4 times until I got vaginal bacteriosis, antibiotics twice to clear it up. They cleared it, but it came back & I'm now on the 6 month anti-fungal. Not pleasant.

This ⬆️. You really need to address the basic problem in your relationship.

Just to agree with pp, go to Boots (or wherever) put it in your basket with other stuff and use a self check out if necessary. You're hindering yourself unnecessarily.
However, there seems to be a bigger picture here, and I think some frank conversations with your husband are essential.

If he's sulking the bedroom is closed.

Not attractive behaviour.

Of course students are going to mention it to each other, that’s what secondary school kids are like. They would get great delight from telling her kids who are at the same school ‘I saw your mum buying lube!’. And don’t forget some teens don’t realise lube is sometimes needed for virginal sex, some think lube = anal sex.

Hard agree with @ColinOfficeTrolley (sorry thought I’d quoted)

I’d hope that if the thread had been worded “AIBU to expect my husband to do one simple thing I asked to make sure I wasn’t in pain during sex” the replies would have been different. The embarrassment issue sort of derailed it but I’m absolutely with OP that if pupils saw her buying lube it would be mortifying.

Order it on amazon, or lovehoney. Not exactly hard. My husband was a teacher at a local school for years, he bought condoms with the weekly shop (he does the food shop), scan and go, chuck in the trolly. Can't say he has ever said to me "omg I can't buy them, someone I teach will see and know we have sex!!" well we have 3 children whilst he worked there so I'm pretty sure everyone knew he was having sex.

I don't think there is enough lube in the world to unshrivel my fanny from that strop.

Not quite the point but why do people still use Amazon for things they can get elsewhere? Tax dodging US company. I do use them but only when I can't find the thing I want anywhere else. And I certainly wouldn't be paying for Prime every month. Rip off

Why not buy it yourself? I always buy it.