Am I unreasonable to refuse parcels and ignore toys thrown over?

Put a note on your door re. deliveries.

Put a note on the door stating that you only accept deliveries for - put your own names.
Put her name on another note stating Ms..... lives next door at no. .....
Put their toys back over their garden immediately.
Put up trellis to stop it.

It’s in her first post she is wfh 3 days so being disturbed.

The parcels sound like a scam/fraud if she is using your address.

Re the deliveries: As her level of English is low, it could well be that she has put the wrong house number when ordering through her phone and now it automatically defaults to that and she doesn't realise. I would take this approach first and ask her. Has she got a partner who might understand more, or perhaps the older children have better English and could help you explain it.

Do you WFH?

If the parcels have both your name and address on you need to discuss with Action Fraud.

I would also ask why is she using your address and not getting it corrected, I would be a bit worried about that. But agree with all saying stop taking in the parcels, be strong and the toys will stop coming over if they stopped being retired. Good luck

I dont think you are being unreasonable about the intrusive parcels issue.
Put a note on your door saying you dont accept parcels for anyone other than your households names/list. If the deliveries are with her name on them but your address,alert the deliverer that that person is not known at your address. if mistakes ie her name and her address but accidently delivered to you ,return to sender.
As for the children/garden issues with items coming over the fence,collect them in a bag and leave them on the doorstep with a polite note asking them please not to throw items over the fence. As for noise ,if it normal levels you are being unreasonable.

I would add that slatted trellis to your fence , the parcels are going to be more hard work as delivery drivers don’t care and probably are required to deliver to the actual address . Food deliveries you can send back and she will get credited .

If she's using your address, that's really shady and you need to refuse every single delivery. If you answer the door, tell the delivery person you refuse the delivery, it is for someone who is using your address without your permission. Put up a sign only x and x live here, neighbour is not at this address. She's deliberately misrepresenting your address if so and check your credit reports.

Don't fall for her crestfallen face.

Toys go in a garbage bag. You can return it every so often but if they keep throwing them over, out to the trash it goes.

I'd be worried that she's using my address for other things as well, and not paying bills etc.

If you can’t get her to stop using your address, stop accepting any parcels. I wonder if you can contact the council to ask them to speak to get as her landlord?

The fact she gets her food delivered there too makes me think she’s making a mistake on the delivery address somehow.

The toys I think the idea of only allowing them to collect once a week might work. Otherwise a strict word with her saying it needs to stop.

The way the op is worded, it sounds like the neighbour is using the OP’s address instead of her own, so they automatically go straight to her. Whether this is a mistake (she’s perhaps gotten numbers mixed up or missed if there’s a letter after her house number maybe) or deliberate because she’s lazy/doesn’t want to interact with a man/is doing something dodgy/is credit related etc is anyone’s guess.

Why would she report to social services? The op hasn’t said anything in her op to suggest a need for that. Her questions are purely around the deliveries and the toys in the garden.

Of course the OP knows the younger kids won’t be in school - she was clearly just describing the situation so that we’d understand someone is at home all day, the age of the kids is relevant re the toys in the garden etc.

Re toys over the fence, add a trellis along the top of your fence. Re parcels yes refuse.

Tell her she needs to tell delivery company she’s number x and stop using your address. You can’t take any parcels. Stick sign up saying parcels for your name only. If a delivery knocks and it’s not you say not ours and shut door.
If she’s renting I’d contact her landlord (you can check with land registry who owns property eg council or housing association) and complain re any noise or anti social behaviour.

Both of these are great ideas

You can borrow my dog. He's very handy at chewing up anything that comes over the fence

is she actually using your address? Or do they try hers and then come to yours as she doesn't answer?

If she never leaves the house how come she is missing her parcel deliveries?

All very odd.

Perhaps you could find out what language she speaks and use Google translate to say quite explicitly that you are fed up with it and won't be accepting any more parcels and will no longer be returning toys more than once per month.

We have recently had similar with new neighbours. They were just being lazy with the address and could speak perfectly good English themselves. Unfortunately their nanny who was the only one we ever saw didn't. The final straw came when an Evri driver shouted at me when I didn't have a parcel to give him.

“My first Aibu is am I being unreasonable to now start sending them away even though I know they are for next door.“

of course you’re not! If she’s in all day, she can take her bloody parcels! Don’t answer the door/put a sign up saying named deliveries only/if a driver hands you a parcel for next door say “wrong house” and hand it back.

does She come round to get her packages or do you drop them around?

On the garden, I’d put up some trellis and leave any toy collection until the end of the day and when they come around to ask for them back.

She shouldn’t order anything then if this is the case.

Her parcels are not the OP’s.

I don’t accept deliveries for my neighbours on one side, it was getting ridiculous - three or four a day. She wfh as do I so why she thinks my time is less important than hers really pissed me off!