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To not understand what this parent was thinking?

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Frequency · 08/04/2026 20:59

While out with my rottweiler x this afternoon, I noticed he was panting more than I was comfortable with, so I abandoned our walk and took a detour to the nearest shop to buy him a bottle of water.

I crouched down at the edge of a very wide path to give him a drink. I wasn't paying attention to what was around me because I was watching the dog, and no one had any reason to be near us anyway. The pavement is about 8 feet wide on that street, if not wider. We were right at the edge, by the shop window.

The second I stood up, there was a toddler, eye-to-eye with my dog. He must have run up behind me while I was kneeling. He was literally nose to nose with the dog, reaching his hands out to grab/stroke the dog's face.

My dog is friendly but a little wary of small children, so I tend to keep him away from them.

Luckily, DD was with me and had spotted the kid and managed to hold his hands before he grabbed the dog's face and loudly told him, "Sorry, he's scared of kids, and he's just trying to have a drink, can you leave him alone, please?" She had to say it loudly because his mum and her friend had continued walking and were now a good 10 feet away from us. At this point, the mother then shouted at her other small child (around 7 or 8) to "get the baby," so the dog now had 2 kids to contend with while the mother kept walking away, ranting about how the young girl was supposed to be "watching the baby."

DD has anxiety and was really shaken by it, and can't stop thinking about how much worse it could have been if our dog were not friendly, or if the kid had managed to grab the dog's face and spooked/hurt him.

I still just cannot fathom what the mother was thinking, allowing her toddler to run up to a strange dog who was obviously eating/drinking, get nose to nose with him to try to grab him, and then send a second child over after she's made aware he is not a friendly dog?

Surely it is common sense to know that nose-to-nose with a strange, large breed dog, who is eating/drinking, is not a safe place to be, no matter how friendly the dog is?

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Happyjoe · 08/04/2026 23:17

MyLimeGuide · 08/04/2026 23:05

I have.

You need to check your source.

Whattodo1610 · 08/04/2026 23:16

MyLimeGuide · 08/04/2026 23:05

I have.

You’ve heard wrong. They’re not illegal. Nor should they be. Much better temperament than little yappy snappy chihuahuas/shitzu etc.

RockyKeen · 08/04/2026 23:16

RoaryLion1 · 08/04/2026 22:50

Came on to say exactly this. Sounds like there was bad parenting at play here but even with parents paying attention there’s always a risk of toddlers rushing off. It sounds like even with an attentive parent, if the toddler dashed at your dog and scared it the dog could have reacted badly? If so, if you can’t trust your dog around children it needs to be muzzled.

This .

Pearlstillsinging · 08/04/2026 23:15

There are some strange/ridiculous answers on here, OP but the actual answer to your question is that some people have no sense at all.
We used to have 2 Rottweiler bitches, the softest, friendliest dogs you could ever meet, who had been very well socialised from being tiny, bred from parents with super temperaments.

We took them to an agricultural show one June, found a quiet corner to sit on the grass to eat our picnic. Along came a school.party, a class of 6 yr olds. The staff for some reason decided to sit around us, we weren't worried, we knew our dogs were trustworthy.

As is often the case, one child's name was repeated by the staff several times, he took no notice and the next thing we knew Harry did a somersault that put him and his sandwich right under the nose of one of the Rotts!

All ended well but who on earth decides that it's a good idea to sit other people's children that you are responsible for next to a couple of Rottweilers? And as for allowing the child who needs most supervision to be closest to the dogs! Words fail me!

I did have a word with the teacher in charge but he didn't seem to be able to see a problem.

You are not alone, OP.

CaffeineAndChords · 08/04/2026 23:15

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hifriend · 08/04/2026 23:15

Frequency · 08/04/2026 22:20

Are Reagles (I hate stupid, made-up names for mongrels, but that's what he is classed as at the vets) known for aggression?

Also, whether he is intimidating is a matter of personal opinion; I happen to think he is the dopiest-looking thing I've ever seen in my life.

He is absolutely beautiful and only a little dopey looking! I agree it is frightening that people aren't more careful, I also have a big dog most adults are wary of but have had the odd small child get a bit close. I'm normally on high alert whenever a child is in the vicinity just because I find they are less aware.

My rescue is a mix but her main breed is known for dog aggression. I didn't know this when I adopted her and dog's trust didn't inform us. I didn't choose her because she looks intimidating, we just applied for the first dog that we met the criteria for. I should have researched the breed more but the research I had read at the time (pre the XL bully attacks) said that breed is not a good predictor of behaviour. I've since read more on the subject and my understanding now is it's more about not breeding from dogs with certain traits etc and that reputable breeders will therefore produce better behaved dogs (so basically I think mongrels like mine are probably higher risk). But I'm not sure it's fair to say any dog with reactive or anxious behaviour shouldn't exist so that people can allow their kids to roam freely without supervision? My dog has to be under control in public, why doesn't your child? Although I appreciate many dog owners' idea of under control isn't mine, but the dogs I regularly see that are out of control are breeds like retrievers, poodle crosses, frenchies and small fluffy things, not rotties. In my experience large dog owners are more responsible.

Happyjoe · 08/04/2026 23:15

Whattodo1610 · 08/04/2026 23:14

Such a dick comment, it really is. 🙄🙄
Give me a Rottweiler over a yappy snappy little chihuahua/terrier type any day.

Only dog that's ever bitten me was a small dog. Small dog syndrome is a thing!

TheTulipsAreOut · 08/04/2026 23:15

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 23:13

🤣🤣🤣

To be fair, the average dog is cuter than the average baby (even if I’m not a dog person) 🤣

Wouldn't like to have to choose...

but dog v neglectful mother... no contest!!

Happyjoe · 08/04/2026 23:14

WearyAuldWumman · 08/04/2026 22:59

My late husband used to be quite annoyed about parents allowing their children to approach strange dogs and poke at them. (No, we didn't have a dog but DH did have when he was younger.)

As he used to say, anyone would react if they were grabbed by an ear or poked in the face.

Yeah, your late husband was spot on. It's about respect and if the children are too young to teach them that then keep them away from animals - all animals!

Whattodo1610 · 08/04/2026 23:14

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Such a dick comment, it really is. 🙄🙄
Give me a Rottweiler over a yappy snappy little chihuahua/terrier type any day.

TheTulipsAreOut · 08/04/2026 23:13

MyLimeGuide · 08/04/2026 23:03

This. How can a toddler be blamed in this scenario? Aren't these dogs supposed to be illegal anyway? I hope you have a muzzle on him.

What are you on about??

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 23:13

TheTulipsAreOut · 08/04/2026 23:12

Yes they can have soulful eyes.

cretinous dog worship 🤣🤣🤣

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

🤣🤣🤣

To be fair, the average dog is cuter than the average baby (even if I’m not a dog person) 🤣

purpleme12 · 08/04/2026 23:13

Frequency · 08/04/2026 23:11

She's 23. Apologies if I made it seem like she's a small child herself. My kids are both adults, which is why my dog is unsure about children. He doesn't know any.

She has four dogs of her own one of them is mine, but I don't tell her that because then I'd have to pay for him. She was walking with me and my dog to keep me company in exchange for me helping her walk her own dogs because she can't manage all four at once.

Cuuuute!

TheTulipsAreOut · 08/04/2026 23:12

AmateurDad · 08/04/2026 23:08

Dogs don't have soulful eyes.

With this kind of cretinous dog-worship it's easy to see why we're in the state we're in

Yes they can have soulful eyes.

cretinous dog worship 🤣🤣🤣

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 08/04/2026 23:12

Treadcarefully11 · 08/04/2026 22:58

The entitlement of dog owners never ceases to amaze me.

One child is worth more than all the dogs in the world combined.

The parent obviously didn’t agree with you or she’d have been keeping more of an eye on her toddler.

Frequency · 08/04/2026 23:11

moonstarsuns · 08/04/2026 23:06

Your daughter helped very well.. how old is she?

She's 23. Apologies if I made it seem like she's a small child herself. My kids are both adults, which is why my dog is unsure about children. He doesn't know any.

She has four dogs of her own one of them is mine, but I don't tell her that because then I'd have to pay for him. She was walking with me and my dog to keep me company in exchange for me helping her walk her own dogs because she can't manage all four at once.

To not understand what this parent was thinking?
To not understand what this parent was thinking?
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TheTulipsAreOut · 08/04/2026 23:09

Frequency · 08/04/2026 22:20

Are Reagles (I hate stupid, made-up names for mongrels, but that's what he is classed as at the vets) known for aggression?

Also, whether he is intimidating is a matter of personal opinion; I happen to think he is the dopiest-looking thing I've ever seen in my life.

Intimidating? As intimidating as candy floss!

He's adorable. I wouldn't have guessed part Rotti. Love Rotties.

how old is your DD?

she did exactly the right thing, we'll doneher. How old is she?

The child's mother was being neglectful. The child could have just as easily run into the road. Or had its face bitten by a more aggressive dog.

Changingplace · 08/04/2026 23:09

Moodnight · 08/04/2026 22:08

Is he a rescue? Did something happen to
make him wary / scared?

Lots of dogs are wary of small children if they’re not around them frequently.

Kids are unpredictable, they run around, make loud noises etc, so lots of dogs can hear easily spooked around them, it’s a natural reaction.

Poppinjay · 08/04/2026 23:09

Any dog could be dangerous when scared. We have a golder retriever that is trained to work with children and adores them. She reliably responds appropriately when approached by children, including the just-walking baby that grabbed her nose for balance once. However, I would never leave her alone with a child and I am regularly shocked by stupid parents who allow their children to approach her without knowing a thing about her.

The OP's point is that dogs should be treated like traffic, steep drops, heavy machinery. You don't allow your children to run up to them and grab them. If you do and your child gets hurt, that is on you.

AmateurDad · 08/04/2026 23:08

CaffeineAndChords · 08/04/2026 22:22

Oh my word. What a gorgeous dog. His eyes are so soulful ❤️

Dogs don't have soulful eyes.

With this kind of cretinous dog-worship it's easy to see why we're in the state we're in

CaffeineAndChords · 08/04/2026 23:08

Viviennemary · 08/04/2026 23:02

Why is a dangrous dog like a rottweiller even out in public if it is known to be unpredictablec and a risk to the public.

This is hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
dogs were here before humans and are allowed to share our space as much as any other animal.
How about bone idle parents start controlling and keeping an eye on their children- especially in public, a dog is the least of their concerns at the moment!!!!!!! It’s always someone else’s fault isn’t it.

purpleme12 · 08/04/2026 23:08

MyLimeGuide · 08/04/2026 23:05

I have.

You're saying A Rottweiler/beagle is illegal?

moonstarsuns · 08/04/2026 23:06

Your daughter helped very well.. how old is she?

Jellycatspyjamas · 08/04/2026 23:06

MyLimeGuide · 08/04/2026 23:03

This. How can a toddler be blamed in this scenario? Aren't these dogs supposed to be illegal anyway? I hope you have a muzzle on him.

If you read the OP she’s not blaming the toddler. And no, rottie crosses aren’t illegal.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 23:06

Treadcarefully11 · 08/04/2026 22:58

The entitlement of dog owners never ceases to amaze me.

One child is worth more than all the dogs in the world combined.

In your opinion.