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To not understand what this parent was thinking?

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Frequency · 08/04/2026 20:59

While out with my rottweiler x this afternoon, I noticed he was panting more than I was comfortable with, so I abandoned our walk and took a detour to the nearest shop to buy him a bottle of water.

I crouched down at the edge of a very wide path to give him a drink. I wasn't paying attention to what was around me because I was watching the dog, and no one had any reason to be near us anyway. The pavement is about 8 feet wide on that street, if not wider. We were right at the edge, by the shop window.

The second I stood up, there was a toddler, eye-to-eye with my dog. He must have run up behind me while I was kneeling. He was literally nose to nose with the dog, reaching his hands out to grab/stroke the dog's face.

My dog is friendly but a little wary of small children, so I tend to keep him away from them.

Luckily, DD was with me and had spotted the kid and managed to hold his hands before he grabbed the dog's face and loudly told him, "Sorry, he's scared of kids, and he's just trying to have a drink, can you leave him alone, please?" She had to say it loudly because his mum and her friend had continued walking and were now a good 10 feet away from us. At this point, the mother then shouted at her other small child (around 7 or 8) to "get the baby," so the dog now had 2 kids to contend with while the mother kept walking away, ranting about how the young girl was supposed to be "watching the baby."

DD has anxiety and was really shaken by it, and can't stop thinking about how much worse it could have been if our dog were not friendly, or if the kid had managed to grab the dog's face and spooked/hurt him.

I still just cannot fathom what the mother was thinking, allowing her toddler to run up to a strange dog who was obviously eating/drinking, get nose to nose with him to try to grab him, and then send a second child over after she's made aware he is not a friendly dog?

Surely it is common sense to know that nose-to-nose with a strange, large breed dog, who is eating/drinking, is not a safe place to be, no matter how friendly the dog is?

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Llamamaman · 08/04/2026 23:42

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 23:29

Well it isn’t the OP’s fault, the child shouldn’t have gone up to the dog and as the child was presumably too young to know that, the parent should have have control of it

Can you imagine any other deadly animal being able to roam around where humans are? Muzzle your dogs. They’re killers

RockLobsterRockLobster · 08/04/2026 23:42

Some of the posts on here are absolutely ridiculous! I can’t underhand how anyone can be a dog hater, and think it wasn’t the parent’s fault here.

That was a perfect example of bad parenting! Well done to your daughter too. She sounds lovely and will grow to be a responsible dog owner. Unfortunately, there are stupid parents everywhere!

suburberphobe · 08/04/2026 23:42

Kids should be taught to treat all dogs with respect, they are animals.

Yea, tell that to 2-year-old me who was bitten by one in a grocery shop while out with my mum.

I love dogs - hate corgis!

StarCourt · 08/04/2026 23:41

Viviennemary · 08/04/2026 23:02

Why is a dangrous dog like a rottweiller even out in public if it is known to be unpredictablec and a risk to the public.

You obviously haven’t seen the photos of her dog the Op posted. Nowhere near a Rottweiler

Mmmm19 · 08/04/2026 23:40

TeenLifeMum · 08/04/2026 22:18

Completely this parent’s fault and bad parenting but, if you think there’s any risk your dog may react badly in such a situation you should have a muzzle on him/her.

I agree completely. Whilst we have always taught our children not to approach dogs unless we know them or ask the owner, sometimes unexpected things happen and owners shouldn’t have dogs that would hurt a child if they got a mild shock

Wishingplenty · 08/04/2026 23:39

I cannot "fathom" the selfishness that are dog owners. It is bad enough that no where is free of dogs, they're literally bloody everywhere, but Mums are literally confronted with dogs everywhere they go, it is literally exhausting trying to dodge them all and toddlers don't know any better. The irony of your post when dogs literally pounce on anyone and everyone when at the park or the beach, and we all just have to smile and bare it, because Fido is just being "friendly" but the same courtesy is not extended to a literal human child is just mind boggling to me. Telling a toddler to go away is also not fine, that is bloody awful. Basically we all have to be tolerant of dogs, but children are not treated with the same respect, they're literally less than! Why does anyone need to own a rottweiler anyway? Children should be able to live in society without the fear of being attacke by someone's pet. That is what you are really saying OP that if your dog snapped it would be the childs fault and not the dogs. Your literally laying blame at that childs feet to cover the fact if your dogged snapped and attacked the child you would be exonerated of all blame. Well you are wrong, because you know what rottweilers are capable of, and if you must own such dangerously stupid dog for whatever ego trip you need, you could at least have the decency to muzzle the beast when your out in public so there would be no need for your horribly self righteous and self absorbed post.

grizzlyoldbear · 08/04/2026 23:38

Llamamaman · 08/04/2026 23:37

Your dog should be muzzled. As if humans should have to tiptoe around an animal to stop it from attacking them.

People like you shouldn’t be dog owners

No, just don't go up to it's face while it's drinking. Common sense.

Llamamaman · 08/04/2026 23:37

Frequency · 08/04/2026 23:01

The entitlement of parents never ceases to amaze me. It is not my job to parent your child. If you want your child to interact with my dog, ask me first and supervise the interaction to make sure your child doesn't do anything stupid, like, for example, grabbing my dog's face while he is drinking.

Your dog should be muzzled. As if humans should have to tiptoe around an animal to stop it from attacking them.

People like you shouldn’t be dog owners

grizzlyoldbear · 08/04/2026 23:36

YANBU It is insane behaviour to allow a toddler to go up to a strange dog's face while it's drinking/eating. I'm wondering if this needs to be a public service announcement for dim people.
This has nothing to do with breed, I don't know a single dog who would respond well to this.

Yeswoman · 08/04/2026 23:36

The risk of a bite sounds like it could be also properly managed by having a muzzle if your dog is "wary of children". Dogs are unfortunately another risk that parents have to contend with, but you should also be doing your bit.

PilatesAndLattes · 08/04/2026 23:35

YABU for owning such a dangerous dog breed and expecting everyone else to fit around you because of your choice.

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:34

Frequency · 08/04/2026 23:29

I think it's 100% the parents' fault. I also think she was very lucky that a) my dog is friendly despite what DD said to protect the dog not the child, and b) that the child decided to put himself nose to nose with my dog and not one of the cars on the main road we were on.

If your dog had attacked the child, you would have been held 100% at fault. So, there's that...

Smilesinthesunshine · 08/04/2026 23:34

Hallywally · 08/04/2026 22:25

Yes the parent was an idiot but also your dog is your responsibility and needs muzzling. I don’t understand why people need to own unpredictable strong dogs.

Utterly pathetic thing to say.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 23:32

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:30

No. If you have a known nervous dog, especially a large one whose history you do not fully know, it is YOUR responsibility to mitigate the risks, not rely on other people to behave how you think they should.

So would you let your kid approach a strange dog so that you could prove your point?

Pearlstillsinging · 08/04/2026 23:30

I should have also said, it was obvious to me that your dog isn't scared of children but you wanted the parent to take notice of their toddler getting in the face of a big dog, let her know that it could have been dangerous and even, maybe, scare her a little into taking responsibility for looking after her own child.

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:30

Happyjoe · 08/04/2026 23:24

No dog can be 100% trusted. No animals.
There comes a time where parents must also teach their children and keep them under control. We teach them about road safety, stranger danger, we keep hold of their hands tight or with a rein close by, same should apply to make them careful with animals. We all have to live in this world, side by side. If everyone does their bit then life would be better.

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No. If you have a known nervous dog, especially a large one whose history you do not fully know, it is YOUR responsibility to mitigate the risks, not rely on other people to behave how you think they should.

Frequency · 08/04/2026 23:29

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:25

True, I kind of was just implying that OP seems to think it's anyone's fault but hers. You are right though, not the child's. Or the dog's!

I think it's 100% the parents' fault. I also think she was very lucky that a) my dog is friendly despite what DD said to protect the dog not the child, and b) that the child decided to put himself nose to nose with my dog and not one of the cars on the main road we were on.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 23:29

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:25

True, I kind of was just implying that OP seems to think it's anyone's fault but hers. You are right though, not the child's. Or the dog's!

Well it isn’t the OP’s fault, the child shouldn’t have gone up to the dog and as the child was presumably too young to know that, the parent should have have control of it

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:25

Jellycatspyjamas · 08/04/2026 23:22

Still not understanding the idea of blaming the child when it’s clear the OP was criticising the child’s parent who walked off without her child, didn’t notice her toddler eye to eye with a strange dog and sent her 7/8 year old back to get the toddler. Must be the dog owner at fault here, absolutely.

True, I kind of was just implying that OP seems to think it's anyone's fault but hers. You are right though, not the child's. Or the dog's!

TheTulipsAreOut · 08/04/2026 23:24

Frequency · 08/04/2026 23:20

Agreed. I always say that this is not a dog; it is a vessel for evil. No one ever crosses the road to avoid him, though. They would if they knew him, though, whereas everyone who meets the rott x comments on how loving he is.

Apologies to anyone with one, but they're the kind of dog you have, when you don't want a dog. A dog barks, these things yap.

Happyjoe · 08/04/2026 23:24

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:18

Then he needs to be muzzled when out in public. The child's 'fault' or not, if you can't reasonably predict his temperament then he shouldn't be in a position where an incident can occur.

No dog can be 100% trusted. No animals.
There comes a time where parents must also teach their children and keep them under control. We teach them about road safety, stranger danger, we keep hold of their hands tight or with a rein close by, same should apply to make them careful with animals. We all have to live in this world, side by side. If everyone does their bit then life would be better.

Jellycatspyjamas · 08/04/2026 23:22

Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:18

Then he needs to be muzzled when out in public. The child's 'fault' or not, if you can't reasonably predict his temperament then he shouldn't be in a position where an incident can occur.

Still not understanding the idea of blaming the child when it’s clear the OP was criticising the child’s parent who walked off without her child, didn’t notice her toddler eye to eye with a strange dog and sent her 7/8 year old back to get the toddler. Must be the dog owner at fault here, absolutely.

Frequency · 08/04/2026 23:20

Whattodo1610 · 08/04/2026 23:14

Such a dick comment, it really is. 🙄🙄
Give me a Rottweiler over a yappy snappy little chihuahua/terrier type any day.

Agreed. I always say that this is not a dog; it is a vessel for evil. No one ever crosses the road to avoid him, though. They would if they knew him, though, whereas everyone who meets the rott x comments on how loving he is.

To not understand what this parent was thinking?
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Rotundra · 08/04/2026 23:18

Frequency · 08/04/2026 22:14

He's just not used to seeing them because we don't have any for him to meet/interact with. He's not a lockdown dog as such, because we got a couple of months before lockdown, but he was a rescue, from a remote rescue in Spain (he was sponsored by a British rescue and has UK rescue back-up)

When we got him, he was scared of pavement, roads, cars, the garden gate, the washing machine... Anything you wouldn't expect to find in a small Spanish farmyard. By the time he was confident enough to get into the park, where the small children are usually found, lockdown was in place, so there wasn't any for him to socialise with.

He's not scared of them, DD said that for effect, I think, but he is wary of them.

Then he needs to be muzzled when out in public. The child's 'fault' or not, if you can't reasonably predict his temperament then he shouldn't be in a position where an incident can occur.

TheTulipsAreOut · 08/04/2026 23:17

Whattodo1610 · 08/04/2026 23:14

Such a dick comment, it really is. 🙄🙄
Give me a Rottweiler over a yappy snappy little chihuahua/terrier type any day.

Me too re handbag dogs, I really don't see the appeal. But I don't mind a terrier (of any variety), but I'd choose a Rottie over them, any day.