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AIBU to leave a friend's flat because it was too messy?

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Browndoor25 · 08/04/2026 20:16

Ok so firstly he knows I’ve taken photos and that I’m making this thread. He doesn’t care.

I traveled across the country to stay with my friend for afew nights. I knew he was a messy bugger, but I overestimated my ability to cope with mess. We are good-ish friends but complete opposites when it comes to the house keeping and cleanliness department. He’s gone through a really hard time recently so I can’t be too hard on him. He said he spent days cleaning for me and that his flat is the cleanest it has even been, and he was genuinely offended that I wouldn’t stay. He is such a lovely guy, he offered me his bed and he would have taken the sofa but I just couldn’t. So I’ve booked a last minute hotel! He thinks I’m being a drama queen with my ridiculously high standards. Maybe I am, I don’t know. Am I? I feel quite guilty and this isn’t supposed to be a serious thread. We’ll probably have a laugh over it later in the hotel bar 🫣

AIBU to leave a friend's flat because it was too messy?
AIBU to leave a friend's flat because it was too messy?
AIBU to leave a friend's flat because it was too messy?
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Browndoor25 · 08/04/2026 20:23

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AIBU to leave a friend's flat because it was too messy?
AIBU to leave a friend's flat because it was too messy?
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TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 08/04/2026 20:22

Wallywobbles · 08/04/2026 20:21

Does he know how to turn Henry on?

Show him a sexy hoover?

TwistedWonder · 08/04/2026 20:22

I think you’re completely unreasonable to post photos online to shame your friend

ChickenBananaBanana · 08/04/2026 20:22

Surely for a friend you'd just say oi where's your hoover not take photos to prove you're right

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/04/2026 20:22

It does look filthy.

Pettifogg · 08/04/2026 20:21

Well I'd probably have helped him clean it to be honest. It is a bit grim though with the fag butts on the floor and the debris all over the carpet.

Wallywobbles · 08/04/2026 20:21

Does he know how to turn Henry on?

Wowzel · 08/04/2026 20:21

I'd have got the hoover out and made him help

summitfever · 08/04/2026 20:21

You’re not unreasonable to leave but if that’s the cleanest it’s ever been I’d be asking if his mental health is ok. If he’s just a lazy manky bastard then fair play to him for trying but no he can’t expect you to stay in that, it’s honking.

Overtheatlantic · 08/04/2026 20:21

Can’t he just run the hoover? I would stay but that’s just me, not being bothered by what I see in the pictures.

Hatty65 · 08/04/2026 20:20

I'd have stayed in that as a student.

Now I'm a grown up it looks manky and I would have booked myself into a hotel.

MuffinCrumbs · 08/04/2026 20:20

I'm confused what mess? The carpets need a good hoover but that's it, surely?

Browndoor25 · 08/04/2026 20:17

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