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What’s an “unpopular” spending or money decision that actually works well for you?

417 replies

HonestTealPoster · 08/04/2026 15:34

For me, it’s not budgeting. I’ve tried it before and found it quite stressful, I ended up overthinking every purchase. These days I don’t follow a strict budget. I just spend fairly naturally and because I’m quite frugal anyway, I still tend to save more than I spend.

Is there anything you do that might go against the usual advice but works for you?

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DilemmaDelilah · 09/04/2026 08:56

Mine is... if you haven't got it, don't spend it, for everything except emergencies.

So - no credit cards/loans for holidays, birthdays, Christmas, nice days out, new clothes, beauty treatments etc. Save up for the big items, put money back to pay for Christmas. If you have something spare at the end of the month that you don't need for something the following month then by all means splash out on Alton Towers, an expensive gig, a fancy new coat just because you want it, but don't borrow for those things.

Stripedbanana5 · 09/04/2026 08:33

I read through a few pages and a lot of the thread replies are mundane, typical, financial advice.e.g not buying coffee when out and about

OP asked for "unpopular".

Clogblog · 09/04/2026 08:29

ThatWaryLimePeer · 09/04/2026 08:23

That’s what I do/did. I just checked my ISAs, I made between 11 and 14% in the past year.

Indeed. On average, it is supposed to be around 10% but mine averages more like 13% over the last few years

Shardonneigghhh · 09/04/2026 08:26

I bought my council house. It was a fantastic financial decision, which I have often seen disapproved of on Mumsnet.

InMySpareTime · 09/04/2026 08:25

Paid off my student loan unnecessarily early. I was a SAHM, the loan was only £5k (yes, it was that long ago!) and it saved a load of hassle every year proving to SLC that I had no earnings and no benefits either.

ThatWaryLimePeer · 09/04/2026 08:23

Clogblog · 09/04/2026 07:45

And also it depends on your approach to investments generally

On average, stock market returns around 10% which is considerably higher than most mortgage rates. So I don't do early mortgage repayments, I put that money into my S&S ISA.

That’s what I do/did. I just checked my ISAs, I made between 11 and 14% in the past year.

everyoldsock · 09/04/2026 08:10

Coffees about four times a week when I’m out and about. It’s irrelevant I can make better tasting coffee at home for a fraction of the price.

I’ve nearly saved up for a house deposit but will be delayed because I’m going on a bucket list long haul solo trip in the autumn that’s costing £2.5k. I don’t earn much and have no partner to help cover costs, but I think with the state of the world now that life’s so short.

I’ve done the sums and won’t be stretching to buy a three bedroom semi or a nicer two bed terraced house compared to the kind of two bed terrace house I’ll be buying. I want low repayments with wriggle room to overpay and that mortgage will be paid off within ten years (and all the years reading posts in Money Matters it seems that most people advise ploughing money into pensions and other investments rather than overpaying mortgages).

PassCaring · 09/04/2026 08:08

tokennamechange · 08/04/2026 21:00

Agree with lots of the things said, but for me it's not considering the sodding 'Sam Vines boots theory' as the epitome of financial wisdom.

An aphorism written for a faux-medieval fantasy novel in the 1980s isn't directly applicable to the real world consumerism of the 2020s but people still quote it like it's a directive sent down from on high.

I fully accept there may be some, occasional examples where the overall premise - which boils down to it's better to spend more and buy something of really good quality, once, than to buy cheap and have to replace it repeatedly, which ends up costing more in the long term, still applies.

But, generally, in 2026 UK, firstly spending more often doesn't result in significantly improved quality, but just means the extra money goes towards branding, advertising, shareholder profits, etc. I have £5 tops from primark/asda that are going strong after 20 years, and £50 ones that went bobbly after a wear or two. Same with electricals, or household items, or even cars. Even if it means slightly better quality, it doesn't mean 10, 20 or 50 times better, which is what it would have to work out as for the cost/benefit to be worth it.

Secondly, most people don't have just one pair of footwear, so the analogy doesn't work. In real life, how many people hold on to the same capsule item (whether boots, coat, white shirt) for 5, 10, 20 years, and don't lose it/stain it/lose or put on weight, change their circumstances (if I followed MN advice and bought an expensive 'capsule wardrobe' of timeless work classics in 2019 they'd still be languishing almost completely unworn 5 years later now I wfh), or just, heaven forbid, want to look vaguely fashionable given even 'classic' items such as jeans and boots can look out of date within a fairly short space of time.

Strongly agree with this when it comes to consumer goods. A £20 Asda toaster will do the job of the £250 Dualit one. Maybe not for quite so long but not a tenth of the time. The £230 difference could be earning interest or put towards fun things.

Melarus · 09/04/2026 07:47

In the 00s I had an offset mortgage. They seem to have completely fallen from favour - I never hear people talk about them any more, not sure why. It worked really well for me and I paid it off earlier than expected.

Clogblog · 09/04/2026 07:45

ahshggs78 · 09/04/2026 07:12

This is absolutely advised on MN. The “unpopular advice” as per the thread (perhaps more common now for millennials and younger) is to not fret it and accept we will have mortgages for the long haul with house prices these days. You only have to look at mortgage lengths now and the average age of buying to see how different it is generationally.

And also it depends on your approach to investments generally

On average, stock market returns around 10% which is considerably higher than most mortgage rates. So I don't do early mortgage repayments, I put that money into my S&S ISA.

Tiredalwaystired · 09/04/2026 07:37

Twenty years ago we bought our first house on what would be comfortably on one and a half salaries so I could afford to go part time if we had children.

Two children later and we are still in the same house. I now work full time again. We could have stretched ourselves many times over the years but we decided to stick, have extended (cheaper than moving) and will actually pay off our mortgage in a couple of years.

yes sometimes I wish we had had a bigger house but it’s always been fine and it has allowed us to live in our chosen way. Not so easy to do these days sadly.

Steelworks · 09/04/2026 07:17

My dh always buys coffee when he gets to London for work. He could wait until he’s in the office and get free coffee, but it sets him up for the day after the commute in. It’s only once or twice a week so not every day.

BlakeTheBlackBird · 09/04/2026 07:14

Gillthepill · 08/04/2026 17:15

I know this isn’t good for businesses and will be unpopular but I buy a glass of wine then top up using my own wine for the next glass. Easier if we’re sitting outside. The wine i like at the chain I go to is £12 for a medium glass. I can get a bottle for that. Same if I go to the cinema, bring my own snacks and drinks. Otherwise it would be very expensive to go out socialising financially.

You take your own wine into pubs?

ahshggs78 · 09/04/2026 07:12

ReadingSoManyThreads · 08/04/2026 23:24

Paying off mortgages as quickly as possible. For some reason people on MN don't advise it. But I'm all for Financial Freedom and living debt-free.

This is absolutely advised on MN. The “unpopular advice” as per the thread (perhaps more common now for millennials and younger) is to not fret it and accept we will have mortgages for the long haul with house prices these days. You only have to look at mortgage lengths now and the average age of buying to see how different it is generationally.

LittleThingsMakeMeSmile · 09/04/2026 06:20

VividDeer · 08/04/2026 19:20

Expecting to fund retirement from inheritance from boomer parents 😅

Yes, inlaws for us, I think many people plan the same but won't admit it

RominaDina · 09/04/2026 01:22

ReadingSoManyThreads · 08/04/2026 23:24

Paying off mortgages as quickly as possible. For some reason people on MN don't advise it. But I'm all for Financial Freedom and living debt-free.

Same here. Wee have a modest home, but live mortgage free.

hellywelly3 · 09/04/2026 01:12

Buying snacks at the cinema. Sometimes going to the shop beforehand I’d end up spending more on stuff we didn’t need. Same with picnic. Just get a meal deal each rather than loads of food that doesn’t get eaten and has to be carried around afterwards

Crushed23 · 09/04/2026 00:55

HonestTealPoster · 08/04/2026 15:34

For me, it’s not budgeting. I’ve tried it before and found it quite stressful, I ended up overthinking every purchase. These days I don’t follow a strict budget. I just spend fairly naturally and because I’m quite frugal anyway, I still tend to save more than I spend.

Is there anything you do that might go against the usual advice but works for you?

Me too! I feel like the odd one out on MN 😅

My life is too unpredictable / spontaneous / whimsical to ever have a budget really. And I like it that way.

I too manage not to over-spend and to save, all without a budget.

user1492757084 · 09/04/2026 00:17

Usually I don't buy bottled water, take away hot drinks or fast chocolate sweets.. I never pay for parking in the street and have only ever received two fines. I order a hamburger pattie on it's own. I carry cash for everyday use. I pay for quality tyres on my car. I pay my children's car insurance.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 08/04/2026 23:24

Paying off mortgages as quickly as possible. For some reason people on MN don't advise it. But I'm all for Financial Freedom and living debt-free.

inickedthisname · 08/04/2026 23:18

RominaDina · 08/04/2026 22:36

I've never bought or sold anything on Vinted, eBay or similar. I buy from actual physical shops and when I have a clear out, I give it all to the charity shops.

I do this too! Well, I give my clothes to my DSis to sell and she always says “don’t you want to sell them?” But I just can’t be arsed! 😂

Thisisnotadrillwakeup · 08/04/2026 22:45

Hotterthebetter · 08/04/2026 19:00

Same here. Our FA asks why we need him when we disregard 75% of what he advises 🤣

Why do you pay an FA and disregard their advice. So odd!

Just don’t give them a fee or a % of your wealth especially if you don’t actually rate the advice you are paying for?

RominaDina · 08/04/2026 22:36

I've never bought or sold anything on Vinted, eBay or similar. I buy from actual physical shops and when I have a clear out, I give it all to the charity shops.

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 08/04/2026 22:35

Had an interest only mortgage back in the 90s / noughties and did very well on it. Mortgage paid off early. Then they fell out of favour.

I don’t do meal plans or budget at all yet I probably spend less than most people. I shop little and often, stopping at the supermarket on my way home from work each day and then again on a Sunday afternoon and look for yellow sticker bargains to build a meal around. Meat and fish are expensive so it makes sense to seek them out in the reduced to clear sections and then pad it out with veg and carbs which are relatively cheap.

UnemployedNotRetired · 08/04/2026 22:34

Hotterthebetter · 08/04/2026 18:54

🤣🤣🤣

Hope you don't squander the rest.