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Ditzy women

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 15:25

... Drive me bloody bonkers. Just that really . I'm probably going to be flamed but seriously - I notice them more and more and maybe its my mindset ( driving, parking, meandering taking ages to decide in front of a supermarket fridge, forgetting appointments we've made, at work not knowing whst meetings are about etc.)

Anyone share my frustration!

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 08/04/2026 16:14

I think I'd piss you off 😩 - i try to be together but my mind goes a mile and minute whilst my dd runs a mile a minute! Chaos today

bluescarf · 08/04/2026 16:14

Really?

Seeing a snapshot, a brief moment of one woman’s life and you’re creating your own wild narrative that they are ‘ditsy?’

We all meander now and then when we’re not in a hurry, sometimes we’re so freaking stressed out we can’t decide whether we pull the fish fingers or the fish pie out the supermarket freezer.

This goes for men and women, surely?

You sound pretty stressed OP, think you need a quiet, restorative meander in the fresh air to soothe yourself.

Wednesdaysotherchild · 08/04/2026 16:14

I’d take 10 ditsy women over one aggressive entitled man.

ThePoshUns · 08/04/2026 16:13

The only people I see dithering in front of fridges are men

tichbrew · 08/04/2026 16:12

@UniquePinkSwan And if anyone on a thread about a mans poor behaviour suggests women do the same do you also pop up to say "do you post the same about men on women bashing threads"? Hope so.🙄

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/04/2026 16:11

WhatAMarvelousTune · 08/04/2026 16:05

Olivia Colman is bad for this I think. The woman got into Cambridge ffs (I appreciate she left quickly, but she did get in) but put her on the Graham Norton sofa and suddenly she is unable to string a coherent sentence together “oh gosh aren’t I so ridiculous I’ve literally completely forgotten every single thing about this film i starred in and that it is my job to promote ha ha ha what am I like”. I refuse to believe that’s her actual intellect, but I wish it was because putting it on is worse.

Being about the same age, I occasionally forget what I was talking about mid sentence. My brain is full and the RAM is a bit too small. The hard drive is fantastic.

mondaytosunday · 08/04/2026 16:10

The woman I know who I would describe as ‘ditzy’ is actually a rocket scientist! An aeronautical engineer. But jeez to talk to her you’d wonder how she manages to get herself dressed in the morning.
There’s always been a type of person who acts hopeless and useless and somehow manages to get stuff done for them. And often these people are women.

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:10

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/04/2026 16:08

Internalised misogyny

When do you go back to school for the new term again?

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Whatever- crack on if it upsets you that's your issue not mine 😘

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:09

Lifelover16 · 08/04/2026 15:32

I disagree - most women I know are juggling work, family, appointments for kids, food shopping cooking, remembering everyone’s birthdays, keeping house clean, paying bills, booking holidays and days out. I think women are amazing!

We are ! And we do it all - perhaps I need to have more compassion for it but its precisely because of doing all these things I don't have patience with the ones that have all the time in the world to be slow and sometimes making themselves look incompetent and giggling like a school girl about it 😂

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DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/04/2026 16:08

Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:05

I am a woman. And no its not just them but mostly yes . How is that Sexism to want my own sex to be more ON IT . ARE YOU A DITZY ONE ?

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Internalised misogyny

When do you go back to school for the new term again?

Internalized sexism - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internalized_sexism

SomeTameGazelles · 08/04/2026 16:08

UniquePinkSwan · 08/04/2026 16:06

And when people on here start bashing men, do you say ‘what about all the women?’ Hope so

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Ask yourself why ‘ditsy men’ isn’t an expression you will have heard with any regularity. See also ‘shrill men’, ‘bossy men’, ‘hysterical men’. It’s not that complicated.

UniquePinkSwan · 08/04/2026 16:06

tichbrew · 08/04/2026 15:31

Why just "ditzy women", what about all the men who do all of those things?

And when people on here start bashing men, do you say ‘what about all the women?’ Hope so

WhatAMarvelousTune · 08/04/2026 16:05

Olivia Colman is bad for this I think. The woman got into Cambridge ffs (I appreciate she left quickly, but she did get in) but put her on the Graham Norton sofa and suddenly she is unable to string a coherent sentence together “oh gosh aren’t I so ridiculous I’ve literally completely forgotten every single thing about this film i starred in and that it is my job to promote ha ha ha what am I like”. I refuse to believe that’s her actual intellect, but I wish it was because putting it on is worse.

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:05

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/04/2026 15:29

It could just be your impatience and sexism. Is it only women who are "in your way"?

I am a woman. And no its not just them but mostly yes . How is that Sexism to want my own sex to be more ON IT . ARE YOU A DITZY ONE ?

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Monty36 · 08/04/2026 16:02

BetteDavisChin · 08/04/2026 15:56

Not really, because if that was the case women would be doing it too.
I've nothing against whistling per se. It's the loud trilling variety that gets me. In the supermarket. By men.

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Oh yes. They are often the types that seem to want to take ownership of your trolley and move it out of their way. Not that it really was in the first place.

Monty36 · 08/04/2026 16:00

I understand the irritation around the supermarket but cannot attribute this solely to women. It is women and men alike, some of whom seem to enter into a sort of trance like state once in the store. Unaware of trolley etiquette or other people they sometimes simply stand and stare ahead. Or if you are keenly picking out an item have fear of missing out and wonder what it is you are buying so come over to see.
Worst are those who section hog, knowing you want to get to something but spend an overlong amount of time selecting an item.

Shopping horrors. But men as well as women.

youalright · 08/04/2026 15:57

I do wonder how some people dress themselves before leaving the house

BetteDavisChin · 08/04/2026 15:56

Ally886 · 08/04/2026 15:49

Is that not just someone in a good mood?

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Not really, because if that was the case women would be doing it too.
I've nothing against whistling per se. It's the loud trilling variety that gets me. In the supermarket. By men.

Lengokengo · 08/04/2026 15:54

Agree about the ditsy clumsy trope on tv. I hated it in Ally McBeal (smart woman falls down often) and couldn’t watch more than 1 episode of the much-raved-about desperate housewives for the same reason. It just isn’t my experience of women.

yes there are annoying people who stop at the top of escalators, or are clumsy, or block the pavement etc etc but they are of both sexes!

Stnam · 08/04/2026 15:52

They are much more pleasant than impatient people who think they are superior.

FallacySunken · 08/04/2026 15:51

FeliciaFancybottom · 08/04/2026 15:37

I agree, it started with Bridget Jones, we were encouraged to laugh at someone who could barely be an adult and cope with adult life, and it spiralled from there. We're meant to think it's charming and endearing when it's just bloody insulting.
I don't know any women in real life who act like that.

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Agree. I am ancient so noticed it with Ally McBeal. So frustrating.

Ally886 · 08/04/2026 15:49

BetteDavisChin · 08/04/2026 15:40

At least women don't (as a general rule) blast my ears with tuneless whistling in the supermarket.

Is that not just someone in a good mood?

randomchap · 08/04/2026 15:41

Wow. Such misogynistic crap.

It's a sunny day, I'm sure you've got better things to do than this

BestZebbie · 08/04/2026 15:41

'Meandering' can be a result of invisible multi-tasking - if you have one task in the shop, to buy one item, you can be swift going in and out - if you need to buy 40 items and several of them require decision-making at the point of sale, there might be some pausing (How many people will be eating this? Will the picky eater have it or do they need something else? If I get this then what about the other thing, can we have that next week? Would this be suitable to be that gift? What size feet do they have now?)

BetteDavisChin · 08/04/2026 15:40

At least women don't (as a general rule) blast my ears with tuneless whistling in the supermarket.