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Catcatcatcatcat · 08/04/2026 16:33

What about ditzy men? Are they exempt?

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 08/04/2026 16:33

Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:15

That's super interesting! Perhaps some decide they want to act that way ? Is it clever or bizarre I don't know but thanks for sharing !

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It's just sexism. It's like bossy. Only girls are bossy, boys are assertive.

Same with ditzy, women are ditzy, men are absent minded. No-one minds when a male academic is absent-minded, surely his brain is working on some deep problem. But when a female rocket scientist is the same, she's considered ditzy and maybe she's putting it on for some reason.

SomeTameGazelles · 08/04/2026 16:32

Forresty · 08/04/2026 16:32

bit its mostly/ always women

No, it isn't. You're just discounting men's equivalent behaviour.

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Exactly.

Forresty · 08/04/2026 16:32

Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:24

Agree 100% and perhaps I should have called it ditzy people bit its mostly/ always women so I wanted to be truthful

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bit its mostly/ always women

No, it isn't. You're just discounting men's equivalent behaviour.

NoSoupForU · 08/04/2026 16:31

I have little patience for ditherers, but they definitely aren't only women!

Isittimeformynapyet · 08/04/2026 16:31

SunnyWarrington · 08/04/2026 16:23

I still whistle, usually when getting changed at the Lido. Not tunelessly, though - I can offer you the Belfast Hornpipe, Diamonds are a Girl's Best Friend, or a little smattering of Mozart!
I did get told off by an older Black lady once - she said only men should whistle, and it was bad luck for girls to do so.

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That's quite a repertoire 😄

I hope you've managed to escape the curse!

Dontlletmedownbruce · 08/04/2026 16:30

@FallacySunken oh yes, I agree so much re the films! It's was definitely a late 90s / 00s thing. Ditzy middle class women who were intellectually bright. I also think many successful actors or famous personalities do this a bit, the 'what am I like' types. It really annoys me, as do real women like this. And yes they do exist, I don't know why ppl are so defensive here. OP isn't generalising about women she is talking about a specific type.

Personally i can just about tolerate the ditzy ones but what i really don't like is women that are vacuous and there are some out there. They talk about nails and hair or skin treatments and they watch reality TV and they have no clue as to anything going on in the world that doesn't affect them. They buy products because someone they follow on whatever app tells them to, they will queue at a random place because it's trending and not even know why. They are just consumers and never question themselves. They also don't give a shit about the environment and buy tat. I find them embarrassing to be around and they give women a really bad reputation.

Isittimeformynapyet · 08/04/2026 16:27

Muffinmam · 08/04/2026 16:20

It’s perimenopause. Drop in hormones make even intelligent women behave as if they are intellectually challenged. Today I started pushing around a shopping trolley filled with rubbish (mistaking it for my own trolley). I put pantry items in the fridge and then can’t find them.

I do things without thinking.

In respect to people standing in aisles when you are trying to shop - men do this where I live. It’s your demographic. I live in a demographic where there are a lot of single men. You likely live in a demographic with perimenopausal women.

It sounds like you think "demographic" is something to do with geography.

Anyahyacinth · 08/04/2026 16:26

It’s a very privileged woman who can be ditzy…I’ve never met one

Isn't this old style A Tate talk?

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:24

oviraptor21 · 08/04/2026 16:23

More dithery men than ditzy women in my experience. So I tend not to look at the sex and just get irritated by the actions - or lack of!

Agree 100% and perhaps I should have called it ditzy people bit its mostly/ always women so I wanted to be truthful

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Forresty · 08/04/2026 16:24

How do they differ from ditzy men? Can't remember appointments, or what you told them yesterday, dither over which tool to buy...

oviraptor21 · 08/04/2026 16:23

More dithery men than ditzy women in my experience. So I tend not to look at the sex and just get irritated by the actions - or lack of!

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:23

Otterloverfrenchielady · 08/04/2026 16:21

how do you feel about ditsy men? Or is it just because they are women you hate them?

Never in my life met a ditzy man sadly but I work in corporate with a lot of senior men so maybe that's why. It would irritate me equally as much I'd think

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SunnyWarrington · 08/04/2026 16:23

Isittimeformynapyet · 08/04/2026 16:16

😄😂 What on earth are you talking about? I swear this isn't a thing.

I think whistling went out of fashion in the 70s.

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I still whistle, usually when getting changed at the Lido. Not tunelessly, though - I can offer you the Belfast Hornpipe, Diamonds are a Girl's Best Friend, or a little smattering of Mozart!
I did get told off by an older Black lady once - she said only men should whistle, and it was bad luck for girls to do so.

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 08/04/2026 16:22

The OP has described Dylan Mulvaney. An old fashioned Betty Boop style of misogyny.

They only person know who acts that way is my (very clever) husband. In his case I think it's weaponised incompetence.

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:21

blubberball · 08/04/2026 16:15

The Adorkable trope

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This is exactly the type I'm talking about ... and if on TV it almost makes it a desirable thing I would imagine? So irritating in real life 😂

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Otterloverfrenchielady · 08/04/2026 16:21

how do you feel about ditsy men? Or is it just because they are women you hate them?

tichbrew · 08/04/2026 16:20

WhatAMarvelousTune · 08/04/2026 16:05

Olivia Colman is bad for this I think. The woman got into Cambridge ffs (I appreciate she left quickly, but she did get in) but put her on the Graham Norton sofa and suddenly she is unable to string a coherent sentence together “oh gosh aren’t I so ridiculous I’ve literally completely forgotten every single thing about this film i starred in and that it is my job to promote ha ha ha what am I like”. I refuse to believe that’s her actual intellect, but I wish it was because putting it on is worse.

I'm pretty sure Olivia Coleman went to Homerton College when it was just a loosely affiliated teachers training college in the 90s. She didn't get into or attend Cambridge University in the proper sense which people would really think of it.

Muffinmam · 08/04/2026 16:20

It’s perimenopause. Drop in hormones make even intelligent women behave as if they are intellectually challenged. Today I started pushing around a shopping trolley filled with rubbish (mistaking it for my own trolley). I put pantry items in the fridge and then can’t find them.

I do things without thinking.

In respect to people standing in aisles when you are trying to shop - men do this where I live. It’s your demographic. I live in a demographic where there are a lot of single men. You likely live in a demographic with perimenopausal women.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/04/2026 16:18

Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:10

Whatever- crack on if it upsets you that's your issue not mine 😘

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It's your issue. You are the one who started the thread because you are angry about "ditzy women". I don't give a fuck about people taking a second longer about something that some other dickhead thinks should be done faster. I do care about people spouting sexist bullshit, whether they are male or female.

You asked the question whether it's your mindset that is the problem. Clearly you've got your answer.

In short, calm down dear. 😘

Wingingit73 · 08/04/2026 16:17

You sound quite the delight.

CousinBette · 08/04/2026 16:17

Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 15:25

... Drive me bloody bonkers. Just that really . I'm probably going to be flamed but seriously - I notice them more and more and maybe its my mindset ( driving, parking, meandering taking ages to decide in front of a supermarket fridge, forgetting appointments we've made, at work not knowing whst meetings are about etc.)

Anyone share my frustration!

No. Women keep this world going, mostly invisibly. How about we talk about ditzy men instead? You know, those men who contrive to be so bad at general admin, laundry, housework etc that they are excused from doing it because they make such a mess of it and can ONLY do the job they are actually paid to do? Lots of that kind of ditzy man about.

Isittimeformynapyet · 08/04/2026 16:16

BetteDavisChin · 08/04/2026 15:40

At least women don't (as a general rule) blast my ears with tuneless whistling in the supermarket.

😄😂 What on earth are you talking about? I swear this isn't a thing.

I think whistling went out of fashion in the 70s.

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Wellwhatnowbellaboo · 08/04/2026 16:15

mondaytosunday · 08/04/2026 16:10

The woman I know who I would describe as ‘ditzy’ is actually a rocket scientist! An aeronautical engineer. But jeez to talk to her you’d wonder how she manages to get herself dressed in the morning.
There’s always been a type of person who acts hopeless and useless and somehow manages to get stuff done for them. And often these people are women.

That's super interesting! Perhaps some decide they want to act that way ? Is it clever or bizarre I don't know but thanks for sharing !

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blubberball · 08/04/2026 16:15

FallacySunken · 08/04/2026 15:34

I have to say that I hate the trope that appears on films. The clumsy young woman in her 20s or 30s, tripping over on her way to the office, being clumsy, forgetful, grabbing her breakfast, dropping her handbag and spilling her coffee etc. I have seen it in so many films now. The women I know do not behave like this and I absolutely hate the portrayal. Once you notice it, you see it in a lot of TV programmes and film films.

The Adorkable trope