Ditzy women

Thing is though, i think i was often dismissed as "ditzy" before i was diagnosed with ADHD. Because i am a woman, probably.

In my experience ditsy women rely on their DH to do everything to do with finances.
Typical convo:
"My Derek used to do the banking and pay the bills".
"Where's Derek now?"
"He died. I've never had to do this"

Never in my life met a ditzy man sadly but I work in corporate with a lot of senior men so maybe that's why. It would irritate me equally as much I'd think

You clearly have issues - I'm not going to make them mine I'm afraid but thanks for sharing them so openly

... Drive me bloody bonkers. Just that really . I'm probably going to be flamed but seriously - I notice them more and more and maybe its my mindset ( driving, parking, meandering taking ages to decide in front of a supermarket fridge, forgetting appointments we've made, at work not knowing whst meetings are about etc.)

Anyone share my frustration!

OK but you are not the type I'm talking about either ... are you silly and clumsy and forgetful and just generally appearing incompetent most of the time ? I bet not . I have friends with adhd and they go through waves but I wouldn't call them ditzy

Why do you think it's a poor attitude towards women ? Do some things not grate on you that people do ? Is every different view to yours a poor attitude ? If it affects me in any way I can absolutely have a view. I'd it doesn't then I don't care just like you don't

You are correct- I do not have a high opinion of ditzy behaviour . I'm not saying it's right- I have to tolerate it of course but boy does it grate on me. We all have things that grate on us about other people. If some truly "act this way " on purpose I'd love to know why ! Am I missing a trick 😂

Never in my life met a ditzy man sadly but I work in corporate with a lot of senior men so maybe that's why. It would irritate me equally as much I'd think

Why does my view infuriate you? Why do you think I have internalised misogyny? I don't tolerate what appears to be incompetence and general "half arsed-ness . Why is that misogyny? I wouldn't tolerate it from a man either

It's usually women blocking the aisles because it's usually women doing the shopping.

Men as usual do very little of the mindless shit like this so you won't find that many in the supermarket (unless buying their own personal protein shit for the gym).

Let's just think about why the women you are so scathing about are being as you say ditsy or indecisive?

I am a highly competent woman with a demanding full time job and two teenagers. I have a dh who works hard and chips in but his job is even more demanding and ridiculous. When I've done all the meal planning for every week for most weeks for the last 16 years and when I've finished work after a long day and realised I forgot to buy dinner and am shattered as well I may at the supermarket on the way home and as well as being physically exhausted it's also the mendta load. So chosing a parking space or deciding what to buy feels overwhelming and I just stop processing and start dithering.

When I was pregnant the hormones made me so tired I could sleep standing up, after giving birth I could've cried because the shop didn't have an ingredient I needed or I couldn't find it.

Sometimes in the past I was so sleep deprived by my small children that I just cannot think quick enough. When I have my period I literally become extra clumsy and find my depth perception altered and I need to be way more cautious driving.

Other times I am ditsy because I'm simultaneously trying to remember what clubs the kids have that week, whether we need washing powder and whether my elderly relative is ok and how I feel guilty they are alone and when can I fit in going to visit them.

Basically women are hijacked by hormones continue to carry the mental load for everything. Men who do all the mental load are rare in my experience and even if they do, their hormones remain even and no one really gives a shit what they look like and their fashions rarely change, they don't need make up, tights, nail polish etc so again reduced mental load for them. Also, people respect them more and don't take the piss by not giving way or stealing their parking spaces or generally referring to them as hysterical or ditsy or other negative language reserved especially for women so they get less stressed.

I'll get flamed too (and I'm definitely a woman) but I do find that it's almost always women in supermarkets blocking the aisle or shelves, or letting their kids run bloody riot whilst yacking mindlessly on their phones. It's as if they've been sucked into a different dimension where the rules of time, space, manners, dignity and other human beings don't exist. And no, they aren't all taking urgent calls about their grandmother's sudden demise or that Trump has nuked Iran.

It's your issue. You are the one who started the thread because you are angry about "ditzy women". I don't give a fuck about people taking a second longer about something that some other dickhead thinks should be done faster. I do care about people spouting sexist bullshit, whether they are male or female.

You asked the question whether it's your mindset that is the problem. Clearly you've got your answer.

In short, calm down dear. 😘