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How old was your teen when…

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Scampiniknak · 08/04/2026 14:45

They got their first boyfriend/girlfriend? Ds is 14 and to my knowledge has no interest in girls. Don’t think he has so much as kissed a girl. I sometimes ask if there’s anyone he’s interested in and he says no he doesn’t like any of the girls at his school.

This isn’t a problem to me of course. The longer he’s like this the better in my eyes! I’m just curious as there seems to be such a huge spectrum at this age. Many of his friends have had multiple ‘relationships’ and some have even had sex already. I know at that age I was very interested in boys.

Like I said, I really don’t care and am not worried but I just wondered when it happened for other dc.

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Bristolandlazy · 08/04/2026 14:58

One DD was I think maybe sixteen, other was a bit older, best friend's DS seemed to have no interest and just started dating at 22. My daughters had male and female friends at school, it's possible they were dating before I realised. Many of their friends now aren't that interested in dating (early twenties) or have only just got their first partners.

Bumply · 08/04/2026 14:58

My 28 year old Ds1 says he’s more likely to adopt a child than get in a relationship and have kids of his own. Quickly followed by saying he has no plans to adopt. He’s a bit of a hermit. Has friends and colleagues but doesn’t socialise by choice

ds2 24 has had a few short term relationships but no plans to settle down yet. Not sure what age he started dating.

Rockchick01 · 08/04/2026 14:57

I wouldn’t know. How many of us told our parents of all our boyfriends. My son’s first official girlfriend that I know of was when he was around 16.

Denim4ever · 08/04/2026 14:55

Odds on - depending how old you are - the whole scene of dating has totally transformed since you were their age and there's no way it will seem logical or straightforward.

DS 20 had one girlfriend and 2 people he dated several times over weeks - one last summer, one last term - that he did not describe as girlfriends.

OwlsDontGoToSchool · 08/04/2026 14:54

18 year old hasn't had one
16 year old may have had one for the last year or so or they may be just good friends, it remains unclear!
I didn't have a boyfriend until I went to uni so no judgement from me either way.

Bells3032 · 08/04/2026 14:53

Every kids is different. I had my first "boyfriend" at age 3 and we stayed together til the age of 9. then first "real" boyfriend at 16. I didn't marry til i was 31 after meeting 2 years before. my sister didn't have a boyfriend til she turned 20. She married him when she was 24 and they've been together nearly 20 years....so doesn't mean anything.

I think 14 is still on the younger side....you're also assuming he'd tell you

Bunnybackinherwarren · 08/04/2026 14:50

All different.. One that stands out is ds... He was 12.. Still together when he was 16...

tichbrew · 08/04/2026 14:49

There is a good chance even if he likes someone he won't tell you! My daughter had her first "boyfriend" at 13 and my son still hasn't had a girlfriend at 19.

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