How old was your teen when…

My DS is also 13 and not showing the slightest interest ( he is at a boys school so not sure if that make a difference, he does mix with girls at clubs).
I remember when I was that age everyone was talking about boys and a few claimed to have had sex, so I pretended I fancied boys too ( I was about 16 before I was actually interested). When I grew up I realised at lot of them were probably pretending too.

Maybe he likes a boy?
I think probably all 14 year olds do have crushes, but I think having a boyfriend/ girlfriend is probably less than half!

One is 18 and hasn't had one yet the other is 16 and had her first boyfriend at 14 and has had a few since then.

Ds1 had his first proper girlfriend at 15 and they were together for 2 years. Ds2 had his first girlfriend at 18, bad they are still together 3 years later.

Mine are slightly older than your DC, and their friends tend to be one of two types—friends who haven’t ever dated, and friends who consistently go from one relationship to another, to another, without much space between relationships.

DS had first proper girlfriend at 15. DD is 20 and not had one yet, and only one of her friends has a BF.

If he has never shown any interest in girls why do you assume it would be a girl he would be interested in?

DD was 16. Still together. She was his 2nd girlfriend.
I do sometimes wonder what the odds are for them making it and staying together

I was 19. I think most people don’t have a relationship at school. Certainly you heard all about the 10% that did and everything they got up to but most of us didn’t at school. I didn’t have time and my kids certainly don’t!

S2 was in 6th form, though I remember a conversation in Y9 which made clear he liked someone (never did get round to asking if it was the same person 🙃)

S1 was in his fourth year of university. Two of his friendship group were a couple by the time GCSEs came round.

They knew of other people having sex in years 10 and 11 (and rumours of abortions).

19 and 17 for our DS

Neither had shown any interest before that.

My Dd has very particular standards and says there is no one at her school worth dating. I suspect it will be university at this point.

No idea. Both boys have/had girlfriends, no idea if they were the first or not.

19 year old hasn't had one, 23 year old hasn't had one. Neither are too bothered.

Ds had a huge crush on Iris in primary. After that nothing but he has said that girls were nice in primary but not so in secondary. He is in year 11.

Other than the very young 'boyfriends' at about 7 or 8 (which we don't count do we?) both my DD's had their first proper serious relationships at 15.

My DS had a girlfriend at 13 ish, didn't last long and didn't see each other much really. He then got together with his current girlfriend when he was 15 and is still with her age 18.

DS was 20, 2 6 month (ish) relationships by 23. DD (21, gay) goes on lots of dates but has never had a serious relationship.

I was 19 before I got my first girlfriend, hell I didn't even manage to snog anyone until 17! It wasn't that I wasn't interested, I was just shy, crap at talking to girls and a ridiculously skinny thing with massive ears!

If you'd asked my parents, they'd have said I had no interest in getting a girlfriend, because that's what I told them. Was far less cringe than admitting that the girl I fancied didn't even know I existed.

One was 13,and has had more romantic interests than I’ve had hot dinners…

my nearly 21 year old had no interest - never had any romantic relationships at all.

They do things if and when they are ready!

DS had his first serious girlfriend at 16 and therefore the “big” breakup 18months later. I was quite relieved it was while he was still at home because he could “deal” with it with our support. He’s had a series of short term relationships since.

He did come home from uni before Easter and announce that he’d met his future wife. She’s at uni too but her course means she’s not always in the city which I suspect will suit him. He likes his life with his mates. Most of them have long distant relationships leaving them plenty of time for boys only stuff. If they get past the teenage limpet stage then they start to enjoy a more healthy relationship. That goes for both boys and girls.

Dd1 first boyfriend age 7, another one she approx 11, then a girlfriend aged 13. Nothing then really until age 17 when she had a year-long relationship with a boyfriend. First serious one. It maybe put her off as it ended due to him being coercive and controlling. Since then no interest in relationships (as far as I know) for over a year.

Dd2 (17) possibly/probably gay but apart from a brief girlfriend aged 12, no apparent relationships.

DS (15) no interest in relationships as far as I know since a 'girlfriend' aged 7. Not sure if gay or straight but doesn't express any interest.

I don't think 14 is particularly old not to have had relationships. OP, you're assuming he's straight, is there any chance he's gay? Also I suppose it's possible he's just not telling you about any romantic interest. (Same with my kids, maybe they're just not telling me)

Generally I would expect it to be around 16, and more serious from about 18/19.
Also, bear in mind that he may well have crushes and small interactions, but he won't be telling you about them!

My DS was 17 (a couple of months short of 18) and that wasn’t unusual amongst his friends. I know he had crushes on girls a couple of years before that and there was one they went out quite a few times as friends. He’s still with his first proper GF now though - 7 years later.

I think your DS may be less likely to tell you if you keep asking him though- it’s like you’re making a big thing of it.