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Friend price checked my DH's birthday gift to me, in my face

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BigBird100 · 08/04/2026 09:35

A girlfriend googled the price of my DH's birthday gift to me (piece of tech) on the day I received it. She asked me what I received and I mentiined it over coffee and was beyond mortified she googled it and priced it. Who does that?

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Dogpootwo · 08/04/2026 20:27

How embarrassing for your friend. She has no etiquette

Pessismistic · 08/04/2026 20:23

Your friend is nosy so what she was curious not a crime. I would say did you get anything nice for your birthday then maybe say ooh that must be expensive or pricey I wouldn’t think it was rude I might have looked when I got home though.

NotQuiteUsual · 08/04/2026 20:21

I totally would do this. I promise I won't do it again!

Marble10 · 08/04/2026 20:04

If it’s a bit of tech, it’s not like the price would be secret
My friend got a shark face masks for Xmas and I had a google and was shocked how expensive they are. And probably said ‘wow can’t believe Dave spent that much on one!’

VividPinkTraybake · 08/04/2026 19:36

BigBird100 · 08/04/2026 15:41

No, I never mention gifts I receive from DH or anybody else. As an adult I find it crass to probe about other people's birthday gifts and opt to make a cursory remark "did you enjoy your birthday?" My girlfriend and I are both well paid career women who can afford to buy nice things for ourselves.

I thought it unacceptably rude for this friend to ask me what DH had bought me (a high end mobile phone but bear in mind he works in that industry and has access to tech pre release) then proceed to price check the item on her ipad in front of me - and her teenage son - in a cafe and to squeal that is expensive.

She had no interest in buying a similar item and was just nosy. Have we lost all sense of propriety these days that we would judge people's belongings in front of their faces?

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Have we all lost sense that people are human and if friends do strange things (and it is a bit strange) we just keep living our life. Once again a poster comes on here and uses such heated language against a supposed friend that I wonder if people on here are on a teen drama.

VividPinkTraybake · 08/04/2026 19:33

Saynototheinevitable · 08/04/2026 10:02

I might have checked the price if I wanted to buy it myself but I would never have told you. That is crossing a line in my opinion, your friend has no etiquette.

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Crossing the line? Why do people on here feel the need to live their life in a constant battle. Why would you let any of this bother you?

MrMucker · 08/04/2026 19:22

If you tell me about a gift and I cannot envisage that particular thing, I'd Google it and if you Google it the first hit you'll get is, say, Amazon, even without clicking on any links, the price is there.

It's a key feature of how any search engine operates. Even if you Google something not purchasable eg space rocket, it'll top the search results with some space rocket related products and their price, from a handful of major outlets.

So I'm thinking her intention was originally just to see what it even looks like, and then distraction into mentioning the price.

You paint it as if you said, I got a blabla and her immediate response was hang on now, I'll just check what that sells for.

That's just how it reads to me, maybe I'm wrong or I've missed something?

TorroFerney · 08/04/2026 19:20

MaidOfSteel · 08/04/2026 18:30

A jealous person.

But it doesn't really tell you anything I don't think - only what they spent on that particular present which could be a one off. And you wouldn't know if they've paid cash or got finance so you can't judge accurately what their financial situation is?

inickedthisname · 08/04/2026 19:12

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 18:47

And yes she probably wanted to see if she could afford one.

Do adults really ask each other what they got for their birthdays though?

I might ask, I might not. As In “did you get anything nice?”/“got any plans?” Just making conversation and I wouldn’t necessarily ask, but I wouldn’t think it was weird to ask. I definitely wouldn’t price check a gift in front of someone, even if I wanted one for myself.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 08/04/2026 18:47

And yes she probably wanted to see if she could afford one.

Do adults really ask each other what they got for their birthdays though?

Mrsblobby88 · 08/04/2026 18:45

Maybe she wants one herself

PS5Gamer · 08/04/2026 18:45

I don’t think it is rude to ask what you got. I do think it’s rude to ask how much it cost, even ruder to Google and price check.

Some people are very invested in the cost of other people’s things. Someone I used to work with was obsessed with my engagement ring. Not a day went by without them asking me how much it cost, and could they wear it for a few hours!

thestudio · 08/04/2026 18:45

I think she was crassly trying to say OOOH lucky you!

ie, she was trying to make you feel good.

So you're being a bit judgy I think..

4yearstogo · 08/04/2026 18:43

"Did you get anything nice for your birthday?"- nice, normal question which allows the other person to talk about the handmade card she got from her kid or the random jam she got from her aunt etc etc rather than focusing on £££

"Tell me what your OH got you" followed by googling- pretty crass.

latetothefisting · 08/04/2026 18:43

CurlewKate · 08/04/2026 10:43

It’s a bit of a weird thing to do-but why were you mortified?

I thought the same, originally thought the DH didn't spend much on her, but she's now clarified it was expensive. Lots of people incorrectly think mortified means something like horrified/appalled rather than embarrassed so I assume it's that.

tbh either way it's a bit of an OTT reaction. Googling it as you were sitting there and telling you she was doing so is the only bit I find a bit odd - checking the price isn't weird in itself. It's not as though the cost of a phone is a state secret.

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 08/04/2026 18:41

sunflower85 · 08/04/2026 18:33

Yes. It’s strange, we’re not 12 years old.

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You need to be 12 years old to make conversation with your friend about her birthday?

Very strange.

sunflower85 · 08/04/2026 18:33

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 08/04/2026 09:49

Do you?

Obviously we're all different but if I went for coffee with a friend on their birthday, I'd see that as making normal conversation.

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Yes. It’s strange, we’re not 12 years old.

MaidOfSteel · 08/04/2026 18:30

A jealous person.

Happyjoe · 08/04/2026 18:30

Blueunicornthistle · 08/04/2026 09:47

To be honest I think asking an adult what they got for their birthday is a bit weird, let alone checking the price.

Really? I must be weird then. I will always ask a friend if I see them on their b'day if they were given a nice prezzie. Then they can tell me what it is if they want (they always do).

Couldn't be arsed to google the price of anything though.

Beachtastic · 08/04/2026 18:29

Maybe it was her idea of a compliment? It would have been bad if she'd shrieked "OMG what a cheapskate!"

Onthemaintrunkline · 08/04/2026 18:23

This ‘friend’ is way too interested in other people’s business. Worryingly so.

In future I’d be keeping my cards closer to my chest!

Blondeshavemorefun · 08/04/2026 18:17

Not rude to ask what you got

thats basic friendship surely small talk

But is rude to google it and say to you it’s costly

WildCats24 · 08/04/2026 18:12

I mean…the beauty of friends over family is that you get to choose your friends. You’re choosing to be friends with her, OP.

pouletvous · 08/04/2026 18:06

I would have waited until i was home 😅

BotterMon · 08/04/2026 18:04

She's weird and lacks manners.